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#430: Marriage Can Be Hard, Here’s Why the Work Is Worth It
What do you do when you want to give up on your marriage? Greg & Erin Smalley share their story—and remind us that we can ask...
#263: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 2
In part two of this conversation, you'll hear about the other two legs of the "sexual desire triangle" and go from getting your body...
#262: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 1
Unlike most men (who always seem to be in the mood, always climax, and never experience pain), sexual pleasure can be a mystery to...
#423: How to “Rethink” Issues in Our Church Culture Around Sexuality & Abuse
We need to be asking some hard questions. In the wake of the SBC investigation, along with the growing tsunami of fallen pastors,...
#438: How Your Story Becomes Sacred in the Hands of Jesus
Glenn Packiam joins Juli to talk about how the biblical metaphor of ordinary table bread reveals God’s...
#437: How To Help Your Kids Learn Resilience and Build Character
Living with sexual integrity often means saying no to what you want in the moment. If you expect life to always be...
#155: How To Fight With Your Spouse
Are you ready to fight your way to a better marriage? Conflict presents an incredible opportunity for couples. When done well, it...
#429: How To Find Love When Dating Has Changed with Jonathan Pokluda
Is the way you approach dating actually sabotaging your chances for a healthy marriage? From “just coffee” to...
#426: How To Better Understand the Complexity Beneath Gender Dysphoria
What’s the difference between sexual identity and gender identity? Should parents use preferred pronouns? Or allow kids to dress in...
#421: “God, Sex, and Your Marriage”-Juli Answers Your Questions
You're starting to see how sexual intimacy is a reflection of covenant love. But what does that actually look like in your sex...
#418: What Is Sexual Intimacy Supposed To Look Like in Marriage?
Imagine that you and your spouse are building a jigsaw puzzle, but you don’t know what the picture on the front of the box looks...
#416: How God Uses Heartache to Prepare You for Your True Calling
Dr. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel join Juli to share about Redeeming Heartache—a new book and tool (think Enneagram or DISC) to...
#413: The Perfect Parent Is the One Who Knows They Need Jesus
Dave and Ann Wilson get real about the messiness of parenting. They'll share how they learned to bring others around them, to learn...
#411: The Unlikely Means God Uses To Bring Beauty From Ashes
What are the unlikely (often unwelcome) means that God uses to heal us? Join us to find out and discover the power of being fully...
#403: How Do I Reconcile God’s Goodness with Sexual Pain & Injustice?
How can we reconcile the pain of sexual abuse with faith in a loving God?
#402: If God Made My Body “Good,” Why Does It Cause So Much Pain?
Juli is joined by author and apologist Sam Allberry to share how we can reconcile the goodness of our bodies (which are created by...
#401: Why “Love Is Love” Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Means
Black Lives Matter. Love is love. Hate has no home here. A thread of truth—truth deeply rooted in Christianity—runs through these...
#400: If God Is Good, Why Doesn’t He Take Away My Sexual Addiction?
At the root of every struggle with ongoing, unwanted sexual sin is a lie about God—and it keeps you from the very things that bring...
#399: Why Questions About Sex Cause You to Question God
Juli and Hannah kick off the "Making Sense of God & Sex" series with a conversation about how questions around sex always lead...
#398: How Trauma-Informed Care Helps Your Brain, Body & Relationships
“Trauma-informed care” is more than just a pop psychology buzzword. Join Juli and her guest to learn about the experiences that we...
#393: Practical Wisdom for Dating & Friendship
Can we get practical about dating? Juli and author Eric Demeter put aside the Christian dating subculture and get super...
#65: Why Healing Takes Time, with Francine Rivers
Juli sits down with author Francine Rivers to hear how her own story of brokenness and healing after an abortion...
#387: Life, Intimacy and Loving Your Body After Breast Cancer & Reconstruction
Kim Harms was diagnosed with breast cancer shortly after her fortieth birthday. In this episode, Juli grabs...
#385: How To Wrestle With God Over Questions of Sex & Sexuality
Come deconstruct with us for 40 minutes or so. Yep, that's right. If we can’t ask hard questions about the...
#378: How One Church Learned To Embrace the Beauty of Broken
Imagine there is a sign on the door of your church that says, “Please leave your sexual brokenness on the steps...
#348: What You Need To Know About the “T” in LGBT, Pt 2
In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Preston Sprinkle as they dive into biblical questions around...
#347: What You Need To Know About the “T” in LGBT, Pt 1
What was once a rare psychological diagnosis has quickly become an accepted cultural movement. While it's critical...
#448: When Did Sexual Identity Become a Thing? (and Why Are We Obsessed With It?)
Sexual identity has become a common phrase, a personal choice, a political cause and, for many, the way we introduce ourselves to others (used even by tweens and teens who’ve never had a sexual experience)—and it feels like it all happened overnight. Do you ever wonder how we got here?
#447: Strengthen Your Marriage Today (and Be Ready for Whatever 2023 May Bring)
Juli Slattery and Gary Thomas share wisdom and insight to keep your marriage together when the storms of life threaten to rip it apart.
#446: How Much More of Your Sexuality Will You Let God Reclaim in 2023?
Juli shares her thoughts on 2022, on having hard conversations about sexuality, and how to ask God to use painful...
#444: A Heart Set Free From Shame and Lies Is a Gift
Open the gift that allows you to experience real intimacy. Our long-awaited Savior came to set us free from sin and shame. Will you exchange your heart for His?
#443: Is Your View of Sex and Marriage Gift-worthy?
When marriage is simply about getting our needs met, we end up playing whack-a-mole with symptoms of sin and brokenness that pop up...
#442: How To Find Peace and Hope in the Midst of Anxiety
Linda Dillow shares about the loss of her daughter during the pandemic, how God used the message of “Calm My Anxious Heart” to...
#441: Understanding God’s Heart for Food and Freedom
Are you ready to end that toxic relationship in your life — your love-hate relationship with food? No more...
#440: Why Don’t Christians Like to Talk About the Real, Hard Stuff in Life?
Are Christians a prickly audience when it comes to sharing our brokenness and pain? Let's change that. Join Juli and...
#436: Friendship Trends Gone Wrong? (How to Keep Your Friendships Healthy)
Boundaries are a tricky part of friendship. Friends help us meet legitimate needs for companionship, spiritual growth,...
#435: What’s the Most Important Thing the Bible Says About Your Identity?
"The journey of the Christian life is that God has increasingly more of me." - Dr. Juli Slattery Juli and Hannah talk about sexual...
#434: Is Sexual Sin More Than Just Your Behavior?
If you are a Christian, you are a new creation—the old has gone and all things have become new. As new creations in Christ, what...
#433: Can You Be Gay and Follow Jesus? with Greg Coles
Greg Coles shares why he doesn't love the controversy surrounding the title of his book Single, Gay, Christian, yet why he's...
#432: Unraveling the Threads of Racism & “Love Addiction” in My Story
Why did I have sex with him again? Why can't I stop this masturbation addiction? Why can't I get this fantasy out of my head? Are...
#428: Don’t Say That to Your Single Friends (Say This Instead)
It happens. Despite good intentions, perhaps without realizing it, you say something careless to a single friend. You've got time....
#425: Bonus! How To Build Community & Friendships with Intention and Grace
Feeling stuck in your friendships? You're not alone! As the seasons of life change, our friendships don't always keep up. If you're...
#424: A 54-Year Friendship That Broke Through Cross-Cultural Barriers
Their friendship defied the odds. In the late 60s, in the South, these men weren’t supposed to become friends. Yet, with Jesus as...
#422: How to Care for Both Women and Children in the Wake of the Dobbs Decision
Do you know that God’s heart is for both women and their unborn children, and don’t know where you fit in the pro-life/pro-choice...
#420: Bonus! What Redemption and Sexual Intimacy Look Like in Real Life
Sex was nothing like what they were told it was going to be. She felt pain. He felt guilt. Together, they're on a journey toward...
#419: Why Sexual Intimacy is About So Much More Than Just Having Sex
Are you working from the wrong understanding of what makes a great sex life? Find out in this conversation from Juli's new book God,...
#415: How To Encourage and Celebrate the Single Mom in Your Life
God's promise of provision for the single mom is also a call to body of Christ. In this episode, Michelle Donnelly...
#414: Good Marriages Often Get Off to a Rocky Start (& Why It’s OK)
Even good marriages can get off to a rocky start. In this episode, Ray and Robyn McKelvy, now married over 30 years, share their...
#410: Sexual Abuse in Marriage and How To Help a Hurting Wife
Sexual abuse in marriage... wait. What? Doesn't the Bible say a spouse "has authority" over the other's body? Let's talk practically...
#408: Science Offers Kids a Powerful Reason To Say No to Porn
If teens understood the significant impact of porn on their brains, on their relationships, and porn's link to human trafficking,...
#407: Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You’re Asking Us!
There's more to the masturbation conversation than simply "right" or "wrong." Could masturbation be an issue of spiritual maturity...
#406: Every Couple Has a Sexual Dance. What Does Yours Say About You?
Sex therapist Dr. Mike Sytsma says that when a couple tells him how they kiss or how they make love, he can tell them...
#405: How To Be Broken and Used by God (At the Same Time)
Cory Morgan joins Juli to share how his brokenness became an opportunity to bring others alongside him on the journey toward sexual integrity.
#395: How to Be Intentional to Care For Your Mental Health & Wellness
One in 3 Americans report experiencing symptoms of clinical depression. How about you? In this conversation, Dr. Juli Slattery and...
#394: Debt-free in the Bedroom: How To Heal From Sexual Pain
Have you experienced sexual trauma? Were you betrayed in marriage? Are there sexual choices from your past that...
#390: Have You Given Up On Sexual Enjoyment and Pleasure?
Are you resigned to the idea that God must have created sex for your husband, but not for you? Juli and her guest, Dr. Debra Taylor,...
Bonus! #384: Do You Empower Your Husband or Enable Him? (The Difference is BIG)
Nobody said marriage would be easy. It takes great courage, strength and self-control to be the woman God has called you to be in...
#383: What Do I Do With Disappointment in Marriage?
Have you tried to "fix" problems in your marriage, only to end up feeling distant? Disappointment is common...
#382: Why We’re Not Afraid to Ask Hard Questions About Sex & Christianity
If you feel the pressure to believe that Christians are close-minded and a growing minority, you’re in for an encouraging surprise....
#379: Is Your Love Life All That You Want It To Be?
Is this really all there is? If you’ve ever felt this way about your sex life, you’re not alone. In this...
#377: How to Care For a Friend (Or Yourself) When the Marriage Doesn’t Survive
Marriages don’t always survive the tough stuff. God still moves. Wounds heal. Addicts find sobriety. Forgiveness is extended. Life...
#376: What Does God’s Word Actually Say About Divorce and Remarriage?
Friends, please note that we don't go into detail about how to recognize abuse in marriage. We have other conversations about...
#375: Juli & Jackie on How To Pursue Unity While Standing on Truth
The mics stayed on for more with Jackie Hill Perry. In this unique after-the-show episode, Juli and Jackie share how they’ve...
#373: How We Beat a Porn Addiction in Our (Millennial) Marriage
When Clinton and Charity Muñoz sought help to overcome a porn addiction, Clinton was told to memorize more...
#372: How To Recognize Domestic Abuse
Wearing sunglasses on rainy days. Using turtlenecks to hide choke marks. Running. Hiding. Ramona Probasco never thought she would do...
#365: How To Create a Language That Brings Meaning to Your Lovemaking
How long would you like foreplay to last? How important is it to have an orgasm every time we have sex? Complete this sentence:...
#364: How to Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity
After sexual infidelity, how do you know when to start having sex again? Recovery is layered, complex, and different...
#363: Why Are Christians Afraid Of the LGBT+ Conversation?
When it comes to sexuality, can you explain why you believe what you believe? Does God’s "one man and one woman" design for...
#361: Hey Momma! Learn How To Share the “Birds & Bees” with Your Littles
We know. It’s hard to imagine talking to your sweet three or four-year-old about sex. And here’s the thing: you don’t have to. What...
#355: How Apologetics Helps Kids Engage the Culture & Keep Their Faith
Don't tell your kids what to think about sex, teach them HOW to think about sex. Don't give them a list of...
Bonus! #92: When the Woman You Love Was Abused
It’s been proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow us into adulthood. Memories, anxiety, and feelings of shame can leave women overwhelmed with emotions they don’t understand—and their husbands equally confused! In this episode, Juli sits down with Dawn Scott Damon, author of When a Woman You Love Was Abused, to share wisdom and insight for husbands, helping them to love their wives well through the journey of recovery and healing.
#352: How Purity Culture and Ravi Zacharias’ Abuse of Power Challenge Our Faith
Juli Slattery and Asheritah Ciuciu sit down for a conversation about the shortcomings of purity culture, the recent...
#351: Why Our Churches Need To Do Better at Valuing the Voices of Women
The women of the Bible have a lot to teach us. Their voices often give us the story behind the story—take Ruth for example, or the...
#349: Bonus! You CAN Find Love Online. We’ll Help You Look
“I love online dating,” said no one ever. But if 1 in 5 committed relationships today began online, is it worth a try? In this...
#346: How to Cope When Your Spouse Struggles With Depression
When you’re married, depression is a shared experience. There is no way to escape the impact of sharing a home...
#343: Forgiving What You Can’t Forget
Lysa TerKeurst tells Juli about the brokenness and restoration of her marriage and how forgiveness is both a decision...
#297: Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness
Many gay Christians feel they must either deny their sexual feelings in order to be accepted by God or embrace the idea that God...
#329: Addressing Tough Questions About Identity and Sexuality
Theology meets real life in this episode of Java with Juli! We’re asking the difficult questions about identity and sexuality: Why...
#328: Answers to Your Questions About Pornography
"Will I cause a set-back in my husband’s recovery if I say no to sex?" "My daughter talks to me about her porn addiction, but...
#327: When Your Spouse Feels More Like a Roommate
Every couple experiences times of disconnection, but when your spouse begins to feel more like a roommate than a lover, it’s easy to...
#326: Gen Z and Gender Identity
Few ideas have changed more rapidly than the way our culture perceives gender. The idea that you can choose your gender (some cite...
#323: Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships
Was Jesus a bit aloof with Martha and Mary because He didn’t want them to think there was, you know,...
#70: Stepping up as a Stepmom
Being a stepmom is one of the hardest roles a woman can take on. Because, let's be honest: you fell in love with your husband, you...
#319: Is Good Sex a “Right” in Marriage?
Juli and Hannah sit down for a candid conversation about whether or not it's possible to have a good, Christian marriage and not be...
#314: You, Your Brain, and Your Family Can Heal from Porn
How I get rid of the images that keep popping up in my mind? How can I rebuild trust with my husband when access to...
#313: The Greatest Love Story
From beginning to end the Bible tells a story about marriage. Woven through chapter and verse is a story of covenant...
#312: Born Again This Way: Rachel’s Story
This may sound like a conversation about being a gay Christian, and it is. But more importantly, it's a...
#309: Getting Rid of the Mommy Guilt
The goal of motherhood is not to raise a perfect child. The goal isn't even to raise a Jesus-loving child. (Yep, you read that...
#308: Maintaining Your Smartphone Sanity
Who wants to pay $100 a month to have door-slamming, ruin-the-family-dinner arguments with your teen like clockwork? No one. But...
#307: On the Brink of Divorce
Susan Cox sat in church, a hotel room key in her purse, and an ongoing affair pushing her to leave her marriage for good. She was...
#301: Staying Connected With the Next Generation
When you hear "generational gap," do you think: about your mother, who can't understand your parenting...
#300: Christians Struggle with Sexual Addiction Too
Did you know that 68% of Christian men struggle with unwanted sexual behavior? That 25% of Christian women use sex to hide a deeper...
#298: Bonus! Sexual Identity is Big, Identity As a Child of God is Bigger
In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Laurence Koo. Join them as they discuss the tension created when so much of...
#297: Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness
Many gay Christians feel they must either deny their sexual feelings in order to be accepted by God or embrace the idea that God...
#296: An Insider’s Story of Human Trafficking
Have you ever wondered why U.S. trafficking victims don’t just run? Do you feel compassion for child victims, but...
#295: We All “Desconstruct,” It’s Reconstructing that Matters
Questions about sexuality, sexual abuse, and gender have sent a new wave of “deconstructing” throughout the...
#294: When You Want Sex, But Your Spouse Doesn’t
In every marriage, there is typically one partner with a higher sexual drive. And that person is usually trying to convince the...
#289: How to Choose Unity (Even When You Disagree)
Juli and her guests discuss their reactions to John MacArthur's recent comments about women teaching the Bible. Join us for a...
#288: Max Lucado Says #MeToo
Max Lucado has never pretended to be something he’s not. The beloved author and pastor has always been open about his struggles. But...