Authentic Intimacy

#532 How the Church Can Help Stop Domestic Abuse

Chris Moles and Stacey Womack join Juli to talk about what churches need to know when it comes to helping abuse victims.

#536 How To Help Your Kids Avoid Identity Traps

Jonathan Holmes shares with Juli how we can avoid identity traps and teach our kids to do the same.

#531 The Basics of Talking to Kids About Sex

Dr. Julia Sadusky provides parenting tips for Christian families seeking to engage in healthy conversations with their kids about sex.

#530 Sexuality and Smartphones: How to Help Teens Thrive

Pastor James Talbert from Citizens Church Akron joins Juli to share his knowledge on teens, sex, and social media.

Why We Don’t Experience Victory

I recently spoke with a young woman who despises herself because of her continual struggle with lust and pornography. She’s tried to obey God and run away from sin only to find herself falling into it once again. I’ve met other people who feel similar discouragement...

#437: How To Help Your Kids Learn Resilience and Build Character

Living with sexual integrity often means saying no to what you want in the moment. If you expect life to always be easy, you...

#426: How To Better Understand the Complexity Beneath Gender Dysphoria

What’s the difference between sexual identity and gender identity? Should parents use preferred pronouns? Or allow kids to dress in...

#407: Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You’re Asking Us!

There's more to the masturbation conversation than simply "right" or "wrong." Could masturbation be an issue of spiritual maturity...

Bonus! #92: When the Woman You Love Was Abused

It’s been proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow us into adulthood. Memories, anxiety, and feelings of shame can leave women overwhelmed with emotions they don’t understand—and their husbands equally confused! In this episode, Juli sits down with Dawn Scott Damon, author of When a Woman You Love Was Abused, to share wisdom and insight for husbands, helping them to love their wives well through the journey of recovery and healing.

Transcript: #558 Christians Need To Change The Way They Talk About Married Sex

A transcript of Java with Juli #558, where Dr. Juli Slattery shared a discussion with guest Dr. Doug Rosenau.

How To Rebuild Intimacy After Infidelity

Should a couple who experienced infidelity give up on sex? Or is there a way to approach sex that feels safe and honest for both parties?

Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal?

How do you know if your spouse is repentant after a betrayal?

Q&A: How Do I Learn to Trust My Spouse Again After an Affair?

How do you learn to trust again when your spouse has had an affair?

Q&A: Is There Any Hope for Me in My Struggle with Porn?

Is there hope for you in your struggle with porn?

#442: How To Find Peace and Hope in the Midst of Anxiety

Linda Dillow shares about the loss of her daughter during the pandemic, how God used the message of “Calm My Anxious Heart” to...

#427: Proverbs 31 Is a Picture of Intimacy, Not a To-do List

Could it be that Proverbs 31 isn't just for married women? In its original language, this 22-line Hebrew poem is a picture of the...

#422: How to Care for Both Women and Children in the Wake of the Dobbs Decision

Do you know that God’s heart is for both women and their unborn children, and don’t know where you fit in the pro-life/pro-choice...

How To Help Little Ones Celebrate How God Made Their Bodies

We're happy to welcome Francie Winslow back to the blog. You can learn more from Francie at her website. I was cuddled up with my youngest son on the couch when the well-known cartoon “Blues Clues” popped up on the screen. Along with flashy colors came a classic tune,...

#400: If God Is Good, Why Doesn’t He Take Away My Sexual Addiction?

At the root of every struggle with ongoing, unwanted sexual sin is a lie about God—and it keeps you from the very things that bring...

#65: Why Healing Takes Time, with Francine Rivers

Juli sits down with author Francine Rivers to hear how her own story of brokenness and healing after an abortion influenced her...

#373: How We Beat a Porn Addiction in Our (Millennial) Marriage

When Clinton and Charity Muñoz sought help to overcome a porn addiction, Clinton was told to memorize more scripture and...

#361: Hey Momma! Learn How To Share the “Birds & Bees” with Your Littles

We know. It’s hard to imagine talking to your sweet three or four-year-old about sex. And here’s the thing: you don’t have to. What...

#355: How Apologetics Helps Kids Engage the Culture & Keep Their Faith

Don't tell your kids what to think about sex, teach them HOW to think about sex. Don't give them a list of rules, give them...

#348: What You Need To Know About the “T” in LGBT, Pt 2

In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Preston Sprinkle as they dive into biblical questions around transitioning,...

#347: What You Need To Know About the “T” in LGBT, Pt 1

What was once a rare psychological diagnosis has quickly become an accepted cultural movement. While it's critical to know what...

#326: Gen Z and Gender Identity

Few ideas have changed more rapidly than the way our culture perceives gender. The idea that you can choose your gender (some cite...

#310: Is God Sexist?

Is God sexist? Does he value men more than he values women? If you've ever wrestled with this question, a quick look...

#159: When Your Child Struggles With Gender

If your child is making choices you don’t agree with, this episode is for you! Juli sits down with a mother who recognized her...

#247: Healthy Conversations With Kids About Sex

Julie Lyles Carr has parented eight children over the last 25 years. We think she might have a thing or two to teach us about...

Transcript: #559 What if Male Sexuality Is More Complex Than We Think?

A transcript of Java with Juli #559, where Dr. Juli Slattery shared a discussion with guest Dr. Corey Allan.

#558 Christians Need To Change The Way They Talk About Married Sex

Juli shares a conversation she had with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau talking about the beauty of sex in marriage.

#554 Sex and the Female Body: How to Swap Shame For Celebration

Francie Winslow, joins Juli to explain how she is learning to embrace the goodness of God’s design for sex.

#552 When You Want Sex More Than Your Husband Does

Sheri Mueller, LCPC, author of “I Want Him to Want Me”, joins Juli to share insights, wisdom, and encouragement.

#551 How Keeping Secrets Keeps Us in Shame

Jason VanRuler, author of “Get Past Your Past”, joins Juli to share some insights about secrecy and why it’s worth us living in the light.

The Five Key Bonding Forces in Healthy Relationships

“We have to be actively engaged in running the relationships that we have.” – John Van Epp

Struggling With Sexual Intimacy? You Might Need A “Sex Break”

Is it ever a good idea to take a break from having sex with your spouse? Juli explains why the answer might be yes.

#542 A Pastor, His Porn Problem, and How His Church Restored Him

Pastor Garrett Kell joins Juli on the podcast to talk about his years-long struggle with porn, coming clean, and how his church responded.

#297: Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness

Laurence Koo, guest speaker at our upcoming Reclaim Conference, shares what freedom looks like when you experience same-sex attraction.

How To Get Past Shame From Sexual Sins

Why do we experience shame? Are there ever times when it can be a helpful feeling? Juli shares what to do when we experience shame, and how God’s word brings us hope for the future.

#535 What Men Weren’t Taught About Sex

Sam Jolman, author of “The Sex Talk You Never Got”, joins Juli to talk about what men didn’t learn about sex growing up.

#534 Four Surprising Things Killing Your Wife’s Sex Drive

Dr. Jennifer Degler discusses some of the lesser-known reasons why a woman might not feel excited about sexual intimacy with her husband.

#533 Why It Feels Impossible To Beat Your Sin

Are we supposed to battle our sin or surrender it to the one who has already defeated it?

#528 The 3 Superpowers Your Sex Life is Missing

Christian Sex Therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about three ways couples can boost their sexual and emotional intimacy.

#527 Why Friendship, not Romance, is the Greatest Love of All

Rebecca McLaughlin explains how we’ve lost our vision for loving relationships outside the context of marriage or the nuclear family.

#509 Workaholism And Infidelity Almost Led To Divorce, But A Miracle Saved Their Marriage

Join Juli, David and Terri, as the couple talk about how God’s intervention saved and restored their marriage.

#505 What Does it Look Like to Struggle with Sexual Sin and Still Love Jesus?

Lina Abujamra discusses external and internal challenges and the truths we all wrestle with as we pursue God’s design for sexuality.

#473 Repentance, Redemption, and Revolution: How to Accept the Invitation of Godly Sexuality

What does it actually look like to accept the invitation to reclaim God’s design for sexuality in your life? Is the path straight, wide, and flat, or narrow, bumpy, and full of twists and turns? In this episode of Java with Juli, Juli hosts guests Cole and Caitlin Zick of Moral Revolution as they discuss their polar-opposite experiences embracing their sexuality as God intended.

#462 Beautiful Union: How Our Sexuality Reveals God’s Heart for Covenant Love

uli sits down with Joshua Butler to talk about his book, “Beautiful Union”.

Q&A: How Do I Love My LGBTQ Friends Without Compromising Biblical Truth?

Is it possible to love your LGBTQ friends without compromising biblical truth?

#450 Breaking the Marriage Idol

We’re just gonna to say it. There’s an unspoken assumption in the Church that if you’re single there must something wrong with you—and that marriage can fix it. Are you guilty of having this thought? Join the conversation about how we’ve idolized marriage and how we can do better.

#439: Pelvic Floor Health 101 (It’s About More Than Just Sex)

Nearly 3 out of 4 women experience pain during or after sex. If that's you, we have good news: a pelvic floor therapist can help....

#156: How To Keep Your Heart Open When You Don’t Feel Emotionally Safe

"Open" is the default setting of our hearts. When our hearts are closed, we lack perspective. We're more likely to make poor...

#436: Friendship Trends Gone Wrong? (How to Keep Your Friendships Healthy)

Boundaries are a tricky part of friendship. Friends help us meet legitimate needs for companionship, spiritual growth,...

#435: What’s the Most Important Thing the Bible Says About Your Identity?

"The journey of the Christian life is that God has increasingly more of me." - Dr. Juli Slattery Juli and Hannah talk about sexual...

#431: Bonus! Getting to Know God Through (Simply) Your Bible

Do we rely too much on others to read our Bibles for us? If the idea of reading your Bible on your own—just you and Jesus—makes you...

#430: Marriage Can Be Hard, Here’s Why the Work Is Worth It

What do you do when you want to give up on your marriage? Greg & Erin Smalley share their story—and remind us that we can ask...

#263: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 2

In part two of this conversation, you'll hear about the other two legs of the "sexual desire triangle" and go from getting your body...

Sex and the Great Commission

Several years ago, I shared with a friend the vision of Authentic Intimacy. My friend listened patiently and then shared her honest opinion, “Why is it important to help people have better sex lives? Shouldn’t we be spending our time feeding the poor and sharing the...

#262: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 1

Unlike most men (who always seem to be in the mood, always climax, and never experience pain), sexual pleasure can be a mystery to...

#423: How to “Rethink” Issues in Our Church Culture Around Sexuality & Abuse

We need to be asking some hard questions. In the wake of the SBC investigation, along with the growing tsunami of fallen pastors,...

#412: Is There a Better Way To Read the Bible?

Juli shares one of her favorite new podcasts—the BEMA Discipleship Podcast. The Old Testament writers weren't just telling stories,...

#380: How To Have Honest Conversations With Your Kids About Sex

How do you create an environment in your home where your kids feel OK talking about sex? When they struggle, how do you protect...

#379: Is Your Love Life All That You Want It To Be?

Is this really all there is? If you’ve ever felt this way about your sex life, you’re not alone. In this episode, Dr....

#368: Aging Bodies Can Still Enjoy Sexuality. Are You Giving Up Too Soon?

There's ED (erectile dysfunction), PE (premature ejaculation), and PS — premature surrender. According to our guest, many Boomer...

Webinar Series: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Pt 2

The Birds & Bees: How to Talk to Young Children About Sex Part 2 of this webinar series From questions like, "Mommy, how will that baby get out of your tummy?" to trends on TikTok and Instagram, everyday life is rich with opportunities to connect with your kids...

Webinar Series: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Pt 1

Teens: Teach Them HOW, Not WHAT, to Think About Sex Part 1 in this webinar series From questions like, "Mommy, how will that baby get out of your tummy?" to trends on TikTok and Instagram, everyday life is rich with opportunities to connect with your kids and share...

#336: Disappointed With God? Tell Him

Are you discouraged by what is happening in our world today? Have you recently found yourself asking, “Lord, why have you allowed...

#333: Is God Good …Even if You’re LGBT?

“We are being shaped by a culture that idolizes romantic and sexual fulfillment. And I just think—Jesus was fully human...

#329: Addressing Tough Questions About Identity and Sexuality

Theology meets real life in this episode of Java with Juli! We’re asking the difficult questions about identity and sexuality: Why...

JWJ Listening Guide: Learning to Trust

In this Java Pack, you will hear inspiring stories from women who walked with God even when their greatest fears came true; practical ways to redirect your thoughts from worry or anxiety to contentment and gratitude; and how to walk by faith—even when it feels like you’re groping for answers in the dark. The goal is not to become worry-free. The goal is that we learn how to trust Him.

#22: Intimacy, Sex & Aging

Intimacy with your spouse is important is all phases of life--even when you're celebrating your 50th wedding anniversary! Many...

#300: Christians Struggle with Sexual Addiction Too

Did you know that 68% of Christian men struggle with unwanted sexual behavior? That 25% of Christian women use sex to hide a deeper...

Breaking Free from Sexual Addiction

Sometimes I joke about things I am "addicted" to. Coffee and dark chocolate are definitely on the list. Honestly, we are all addicted to something—there are things in life we just can't seem to get by without. You may be addicted to your husband's affection, a daily...

How Do We Tell Good From Evil?

Is it wrong to live together before marriage? Does gender really matter? Is it wrong to support gay marriage? These are the types of questions that we often get asked at Authentic Intimacy. Perhaps more than ever, many Christians are confused about right and wrong....

#250: Healing After Abortion

It’s time to let women know there is healing after abortion. While Christians rightly proclaim the sanctity of life, we...

#161: Beyond Pro-Life vs. Pro-Choice

Take the politics out of conversations about abortion. You don't have to choose between valuing the rights of a woman or the...

#240: Birth Control & Family Planning

Is it okay to use birth control? Can the pill cause an early abortion? Juli and her guest discuss the ethical issues that surround...

#234: We Can Do THAT in the Bedroom?

What's OK in the bedroom? Juli, Linda & Yvette tackle one of our most popular questions in this episode of Java with Juli....

#229: Sex, Teens, & Parenting

Your daughter is sexting her boyfriend. Your son sees porn on a friend's phone. Now that you've yelled, confiscated their devices...

Webinar: Fighting Masturbation and Fantasy

Every day we receive questions from men and women around masturbation and fantasy. Is masturbation a sin? How do I know when I've "crossed the line" into sinful sexual fantasy? How do we differentiate between healthy sexual desire and sinful lust? What if I'm single?...

Masturbation: Is It Wrong?

Because my job is to talk to women about sex, there are few questions I haven't heard and haven't answered. However, there is one common question that I don't like to answer. Is it ok to masturbate? (Presione aquí para leer en español.) This question is a bit...

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