Q&A: What am I Supposed to do With my Sexuality as a Single Christian?

by | Jan 24, 2024

Q&A: What am I Supposed to do with my Sexuality as a Single Christian?


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As a single Christian, do you have to suppress your sexuality?

You know, single Christians continually hear the message that God created sex sexual intimacy to be enjoyed within the relationship of marriage. And so singles often wonder, well, what does that mean for me? I have sexual desires. I’m a sexual person.

I think rather than thinking of suppression, think of stewardship. Even married Christians have to steward their sexuality in a way that is honoring to God. And yes, that looks a little bit different in marriage relationship than it does as a single, but stewardship is really recognizing that it’s not denying your sexuality. It’s not denying your sexual desires or drives. It’s understanding that you are created for intimacy and you can find lots of different sources of intimacy beyond just sexual intimacy.

And so it’s understanding that your sexuality isn’t just what you do with your body, it’s also the social part of you that wants to be known by other people, wants to be vulnerable, wants to be just loved by others. And so I think when you really reframe it as I need to steward my sexuality in a way that honors other people and honors God, that’s a better way of thinking of it than just saying, I need to suppress who I am as a sexual person.