Sex in Marriage

How To Rebuild Intimacy After Infidelity

Should a couple who experienced infidelity give up on sex? Or is there a way to approach sex that feels safe and honest for both parties?

Bonus! #92: When the Woman You Love Was Abused

Juli sits down with Dawn Scott Damon, author of When a Woman You Love Was Abused, to share wisdom and insight for husbands.

How Pornography Impacts Intimacy and Marriage

Pornography is often framed as a “private” habit, but in reality, porn deeply disrupts the foundation of intimacy and trust in marriage.

#555 Can You Have A Great Marriage Without Sex? Juli Answers Your Questions

Join Juli and Hannah for a brief exploration of good biblical theology on sex and marriage.

#554 Sex and the Female Body: How to Swap Shame For Celebration

Francie Winslow, joins Juli to explain how she is learning to embrace the goodness of God’s design for sex.

#552 When You Want Sex More Than Your Husband Does

Sheri Mueller, LCPC, author of “I Want Him to Want Me”, joins Juli to share insights, wisdom, and encouragement.

Struggling With Sexual Intimacy? You Might Need A “Sex Break”

Is it ever a good idea to take a break from having sex with your spouse? Juli explains why the answer might be yes.

#535 What Men Weren’t Taught About Sex

Sam Jolman, author of “The Sex Talk You Never Got”, joins Juli to talk about what men didn’t learn about sex growing up.

#534 Four Surprising Things Killing Your Wife’s Sex Drive

Dr. Jennifer Degler discusses some of the lesser-known reasons why a woman might not feel excited about sexual intimacy with her husband.

#528 The 3 Superpowers Your Sex Life is Missing

Christian Sex Therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about three ways couples can boost their sexual and emotional intimacy.

Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal?

How do you know if your spouse is repentant after a betrayal?

#473 Repentance, Redemption, and Revolution: How to Accept the Invitation of Godly Sexuality

What does it actually look like to accept the invitation to reclaim God’s design for sexuality in your life? Is the path straight, wide, and flat, or narrow, bumpy, and full of twists and turns? In this episode of Java with Juli, Juli hosts guests Cole and Caitlin Zick of Moral Revolution as they discuss their polar-opposite experiences embracing their sexuality as God intended.

#462 Beautiful Union: How Our Sexuality Reveals God’s Heart for Covenant Love

Juli sits down with Joshua Butler to talk about his book, “Beautiful Union”.

Q&A: How Do I Learn to Trust My Spouse Again After an Affair?

How do you learn to trust again when your spouse has had an affair?

#373: How We Beat a Porn Addiction in Our (Millennial) Marriage

Millennial marriages are vulnerable to pornography like no generation before them — but there is good news!

Q&A: Is Sex Necessary For Intimacy?

Is sex necessary for intimacy?

Masturbation and Widowhood

Many grieving spouses, especially those who experienced joyful sexual intimacy in marriage, are left asking, “What do I do with my sexual desires now?”

Q&A: Sex Has Never Been Pleasurable in Our Marriage. Should I Just Fake It?

If you don’t enjoy sex, should you just fake it?

#558 Christians Need To Change The Way They Talk About Married Sex

Juli shares a conversation she had with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau talking about the beauty of sex in marriage.

#557 Understanding The Harm of Purity Culture and How to Move Forward

Dr. Camden Morgante breaks down purity culture myths, and shares how churches can embrace a more appropriate way of talking about sexuality.

How To Tell if Your Spouse Is Truly Repentant

After a betrayal, how can you know if your spouse is truly repentant? Juli unpacks a recent conversation with Jeremy Smith, LPC, as he shares what to look for.

Q&A: We Have Sex Regularly, but My Husband Never Seems Satisfied. What Do I Do?

What do you do if your spouse never seems satisfied with the sex you’re having?

Q&A: Is Sending Nudes and Homemade Porn Okay if We’re Married?

What’s okay to do sexually in marriage?

#443: Is Your View of Sex and Marriage Gift-worthy?

Knowing God’s purpose for your marriage and sexuality brings richness and purpose.

#439: Pelvic Floor Health 101 (It’s About More Than Just Sex)

We have good news: a pelvic floor therapist can help.

Prioritize Sexual Intimacy by Getting Your Bedroom Ready, Part 3

One very practical and creative way to work on sexual intimacy in your marriage is to put thought and intention into the physical space of your bedroom. Whether or not you are aware of it, the environment of your bedroom impacts your sexual intimacy. Here is a quick...

Prioritize Sexual Intimacy by Getting Your Body Ready, Part 2

The basic truth is this: you can’t have sex without a body.

Prioritize Sexual Intimacy by Getting Your Mind Ready, Part 1

“Your most important sex organ is your brain.” I remember when I first heard this statement as a young married woman. Enjoying sex is practically impossible without thinking about it. Both men and women can struggle to know how to think about sex in a way that is both...

#421: “God, Sex, and Your Marriage”-Juli Answers Your Questions

You’re starting to see how sexual intimacy is a reflection of covenant love. But what does that actually look like in your sex life?

#420: Bonus! What Redemption and Sexual Intimacy Look Like in Real Life

Join Juli Slattery and her guests to hear what redemption and sexual intimacy look like in real life.

#419: Why Sexual Intimacy is About So Much More Than Just Having Sex

Are you working from the wrong understanding of what makes a great sex life?

#418: What Is Sexual Intimacy Supposed To Look Like in Marriage?

How can Christian couples get the right image of what Godly sex should be?

How To Go From Demand and “Duty Sex” to True Sexual Intimacy

Rather than a celebration of love, sex has come to represent profound experiences of shame, rejection, and loneliness.

What To Wear in the Bedroom?

Even though I sometimes write and speak on spicing up sex in marriage, this blog is about a different kind of “bedroom clothes.”

#410: Sexual Abuse in Marriage and How To Help a Hurting Wife

Let’s talk practically about what sexual abuse in marriage looks like so we can get women (and men) the help they need.

#394: Debt-free in the Bedroom: How To Heal From Sexual Pain

Join Juli and Dr. Doug Rosenau for a conversation about how to begin to heal.

#387: Life, Intimacy and Loving Your Body After Breast Cancer & Reconstruction

Hear from Kim Harms, who was diagnosed with breast cancer shortly after her fortieth birthday.

#379: Is Your Love Life All That You Want It To Be?

Dr. Juli Slattery and Gary Thomas have a candid conversation about God’s good gift of knock-your-socks-off sex. That’s right – it’s God’s gift!

#368: Aging Bodies Can Still Enjoy Sexuality. Are You Giving Up Too Soon?

According to our guest, many Boomer couples are giving up on sex way too early.

Predictability and Passion Can Improve a Boring Sex Life

A healthy sex life has aspects of both routine and adventure.

Spice Up Your Sex Life

A rescue program for your Covid-dictated sex life.

#22: Intimacy, Sex & Aging

Dr. Gary Chapman and Linda Dillow join Juli to discuss how the dynamics of sexual intimacy change as we age.

Webinar: Does Your Sex Life Have Shades of Gray?

Why are some Christians okay with sex toys, masturbation, and cohabitation while others believe it's wrong to kiss before marriage? Whether you're single or married, honoring God with your sexuality means discerning the dangers of both license and legalism in the...

Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt. 2

I’ve learned sexuality can seem to cause more conflict than unity and more pain than pleasure.

Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt. 1

Most of us have been told that sex in marriage is important. But why does it matter?

Beyond a Happy Marriage

Perhaps you followed all the advice supposed to strengthen your marriage, yet have never experienced a significant improvement.

#234: We Can Do THAT in the Bedroom?

Join us to learn how to discern where you might need to draw a line and where you might need to step out of your comfort zone.

#210: Enjoying Intimacy in Your Golden Years

Juli and her guests discuss the physical changes that happen as you age and how you can continue to enjoy intimacy and sex with your spouse.

#148: Is There a Man in the House?

Men, today is all for you! Dr. Gary Chapman answers your questions about sexual intimacy—as well a few questions your wives want answers to!

#32: Being a True Man: An Honest Discussion About A Man’s Struggle

An important conversation about sexuality, with vulnerable confessions of pornography use and sinful behavior from a Christian leader.

Q&A: Past Sexual Trauma Inhibits My Ability to Enjoy Sex. Is There Hope That I Can Ever Heal?

When trauma is in your past, is sexual enjoyment possible?

Have You Given Up on Sexual Pleasure?, #390

Juli talks with Dr. Debra Taylor about 30 years of research on women’s sexuality, debunking myths and exploring desire, exhaustion, healing, and intimacy.

Q&A: What Should I Do If I Discover My Spouse Looking at Porn?

What do you do when you discover your spouse watches porn?

¿Es necesario el perdón para la sanidad?

¿Qué dice la Biblia sobre el perdón y nuestro bienestar?

Cómo hablar con tu cónyuge sobre el sexo

¿Por qué nos resulta más cómodo tener sexo que hablar de él?

Q&A: My spouse never wants to have sex. What do I do?

What do you do if your spouse isn’t interested in having sex?

How To Talk to Your Spouse About Sex

Why is it we’re more comfortable having sex than we are talking about it?

Q&A: What’s OK for a married couple in the bedroom?

Can married couples do whatever they want sexually?

What You Need To Know About Sex Before Your Wedding Night

How can you prepare for wedding night sex if you’ve never had it before? We explore 3 ideas to help you get ready for first-time sex.

#228: Intimacy After Infidelity

Can a couple’s sexual relationship survive and thrive after infidelity?

#515 Is Attraction Sinful? Unpacking Attachment, Safety, Love and Desire

Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation all about attraction and desire.

How to Bridge the Gap in Mismatched Libidos in Marriage

Juli expands on a popular episode with Dr. Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn all about how couples can bridge the sexual desire gap.

Dios Dice Que El Sexo Es Para El Matrimonio: Aquí Veremos Porqué

Guardar el sexo para el matrimonio es tan raro que se vuelve noticia cuando una pareja declara públicamente que esta es su intención.

Sexual Entitlement: What it is and Why it is Ruining Your Marriage

Yes, God created sex for marriage, but did He promise it to us?

3 Reasons Why “Faking It” is Making Your Bad Sex Life Even Worse

While faking climax or sexual enjoyment may seem like a solution when you don’t like sex, it’s not a healthy long-term strategy. Here’s why.

#454 Mismatched in Sexual Desire? You May Be Closer Than You Think

If you’re married and experiencing huge gaps between your level of sexual desire and your spouse’s, this special re-air episode is for you.

Q&A: Is It My Responsibility to Meet My Spouse’s Sexual Needs?

Is it your responsibility to meet your spouse’s sexual needs?

#465 Love Dares: Using Playfulness to Build Sexual Intimacy

Juli and guest Dr. Jennifer Degler talk about how God gives the gift of sexual play to couples, and the practical (and fun!) ways you can connect with your spouse.

Help! I’m in a Sexless Marriage!

There are many reasons why couples are in sexless marriages. In most cases, one or both spouses are not happy about it.

#457 How To Build a Flourishing (not Flawless) Sex Life You’ll Both Love

Take the guess work out of your sex life and learn how to tell (or show) your spouse what feels good in the bedroom.

#263: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 2

In part two of this conversation, you’ll hear about the other two legs of the “sexual desire triangle” with Dr. Jennifer Degler.

#262: Experiencing Sexual Pleasure, Part 1

Join Dr. Juli Slattery for this two-part conversation about how to prime your body, mind and soul to receive and respond to sexual pleasure.

#214: Answers To Your Questions About Sex, with Dr. Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow

You asked, we answered! Join Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow as they answer questions from our Authentic Intimacy inbox.

#406: Every Couple Has a Sexual Dance. What Does Yours Say About You?

Every couple has a dance‍‍—we dance around our wounds and insecurities, both inside and outside the bedroom. Don’t believe it? Listen in!

#36: What Kind of Love Are You Making?

If there is one place in the Bible that gives women permission to have fun, to explore and to enjoy sexual pleasure, it’s the poetic Song of Solomon.

Webinar Series: Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together, Pt 2

Overcoming Physical Barriers to Pleasure Part 2 in this webinar series Meet Dr. Carol Tanksley, OB-GYN. She has over 28 years of experience and a passion help women understand how their bodies are integrated with their minds, spirits, and emotions. In this webinar,...

Webinar Series: Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together, Pt 1

The Priority of Mutual Pleasure in Healthy Sex Part 1 in this webinar series Juli and Dr. Debra Taylor, a certified Christian sex therapist, discuss the importance of pleasure within the larger picture of sexual intimacy, and how the pleasure we experience during sex...

Webinar Series: Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together, Pt 3

Saying "Yes!" to Sexual Pleasure Part 3 in this webinar series In the final webinar in our series, Dr. Jennifer Degler brings her humor, candor, and expertise to help you understand how to get your brain and your body working together so that you can share the kind of...

#366: No More Pushing Past the Pain! God Cares About Your Sexual Pleasure

What do you do when sex hurts?

#365: How To Create a Language That Brings Meaning to Your Lovemaking

Dr. Doug Rosenau helps couples learn to talk about sex. Grab your spouse (this is a good one to listen to together) and join us!

#364: How to Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity

After sexual infidelity, how do you know when to start having sex again?

#343: Forgiving What You Can’t Forget

What does biblical forgiveness really look like?

#337: Questions You’re Too Embarrassed to Ask About Sex

A candid conversation about the difference between having sex and making love and putting the creativity back into your lovemaking.

#321: Taking Your Marriage Back From Porn

One of the most painful experiences as a wife is learning of your husband’s porn addiction.

#319: Is Good Sex a “Right” in Marriage?

Juli and Hannah sit down for a conversation about whether it’s possible to have a good, Christian marriage and *not* be having sex.

Webinar: How to Talk to Your Spouse About Sex

Talking about sex with your spouse is scary... especially when one (or both!) of you is disappointed, frustrated, or resentful about how things are currently. How do you have healthy conversations about sex, when every other attempt has been wrought with tension? ÊHow...

#286: How to Make Time to Make Love

Join us at the coffee shop for laughter, encouragement and practical things you can do to make intimacy a priority in your marriage.

#276: Parenthood, Exhaustion & Avoiding Sex

Find out how to hold on to intimacy while parenting, how to bring God into the conversation about more kiddos, and what to do when you disagree.

#268: BONUS! When God “Wakes Up” Your Love Life

In this BONUS episode Juli and her guest discuss the connection between our spiritual lives and our sexuality.

#259: Our Marriage Survived Painful Sex

Join Juli Slattery & her guests for a story of commitment, surrender, and discovering God’s design for sexuality.

Webinar: Overcoming Barriers in the Bedroom

Do you hate sex? Are you too tired, never in the mood, or is sex too painful? Maybe there’s too much tension in your marriage to desire any sexual intimacy with your husband. Dr. Juli Slattery will be teaching on overcoming barriers in the bedroom and sharing things...

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