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Q&A: How Do I Love My LGBTQ Friends Without Compromising Biblical Truth?
Is it possible to love your LGBTQ friends without compromising biblical truth?
Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal?
How do you know if your spouse is repentant after a betrayal?
Q&A: Past Sexual Trauma Inhibits My Ability to Enjoy Sex. Is There Hope That I Can Ever Heal?
When trauma is in your past, is sexual enjoyment possible?
Married Sex: Beyond a Sanctified Hook-Up
Q&A: How Can I Overcome the Shame I Experienced as a Result of Purity Culture?
How do you overcome any shame you’ve experienced from purity culture?
Q&A: Is Sex Necessary For Intimacy?
Is sex necessary for intimacy?
Q&A: What If I’m Not Attracted to My Spouse Anymore?
What do you do if you’re no longer attracted to your spouse?
Q&A: Sex Has Never Been Pleasurable in Our Marriage. Should I Just Fake It?
If you don’t enjoy sex, should you just fake it?
Q&A: What Is the Difference Between Sexual Integrity and Purity?
What is the difference between sexual integrity and purity?
Q&A: What’s Okay to Do Sexually in Marriage?
What’s okay to do sexually in marriage?
Webinar Series: Sex & the Single Christian, Pt 2
How To Ditch the Counterfeits & Find True Intimacy Part 2 in this webinar series Therapist and life coach Dawn Jones is back to tell us the truth about counterfeit intimacy and how to recover from trauma like porn, abuse, and even your "friends" on social media....
Q&A: Is It OK to Call a Transgender Friend by Their Preferred Pronouns?
Is It OK to call a transgender friend by their preferred pronouns?
Q&A: Is It My Responsibility to Meet My Spouse’s Sexual Needs?
Is it your responsibility to meet your spouse’s sexual needs?
Q&A: We Have Sex Regularly, but My Husband Never Seems Satisfied. What Do I Do?
What do you do if your spouse never seems satisfied with the sex you’re having?
Q&A: Is There Any Hope for Me in My Struggle with Porn?
Is there hope for you in your struggle with porn?
Q&A: How Can I Steward My Sexuality as a Single?
How do you steward your sexuality as a single person?
Webinar: How to Use Your Power to Build Intimacy
What do you do if your husband refuses to get a job? When you don't like the way he's parenting the kids? How do you know when you've become a controlling or manipulative wife? God has given you a powerful influence in the life of your husband - but you have to learn...
Q&A: How do I keep my desire to be loved and embrace my sexuality in a healthy way?
Juli answers this question:
How do I keep my desire to be loved and embrace my sexuality in a healthy way?
Q&A: How do I love and serve my LGBTQ friends without being offensive?
How do I love and serve my LGBTQ friends without being offensive?
Webinar Series: Sex & the Single Christian, Pt 1
What Kind Of a Gift Is Sexuality if I Can't Have Sex? Part 1 in this webinar series A fan-favorite "Java with Juli" guest, The Boundless Show's Lisa Anderson, steps in as co-host to help Juli unpack why your sexuality doesn't have an on/off switch called "marriage."...
Q&A: How do I get past the shame of sexual sin?
"I spent a lot of years getting a doctorate degree in clinical psychology to learn how to talk you out of negative thinking and shame. Here's what I've learned..." In this video, Juli shares what she knows to be the ONLY way to get rid of your shame. Watch to find out...
Q&A: Do patterns of sexual sin in dating mean we should take a break?
How do you break patterns of sexual sin in dating without taking a break from the relationship? In this video, Juli answers the question with a question—(Don't you just love it when she does that!?)—and the answer may reveal an issue that runs much deeper than sexual...
Q&A: As I grow in sexual integrity, can I stop using accountability software?
I use content filters and parental controls on my devices to help me avoid pornography. Is it OK to use these tools forever, or should I be aiming to learn to live in sexual integrity without these guardrails? Joy Skarka shares how accountability software can provide...
Q&A: How long do you wait to restore trust after lying and infidelity?
How long should it take you to trust someone again after lying and infidelity has taken place? It depends... there is a lot more to it than just the passage of time. Here Juli shares a few things that need to happen during the restoration period in order to rebuild...
Q&A: Great guy. No sexual chemistry. Should I marry him anyway?
Hi Juli, I’ve dated a great man for almost a year. Some days I think attraction is not super important, but other days I look at his photo and think, “I don't want him to touch my body.” Should I marry this wonderful man because the journey of sexual intimacy is going...
Q&A: Is masturbation a deal breaker for my relationship?
"Should I break up with my boyfriend or take a break in our relationship until he overcomes masturbation and walks in consistent victory? Or is it okay to walk with him through it? Should I expect him to be free from masturbation for a few months before we get...
Webinar: Making Sense of God & Sex, Live Q&A
How do I bring God my heartache over the fact that my daughter is living in a same-sex relationship? Why does God care if my husband and I are having sex or not? Does God really expect me to give up sex, even if I never marry? When you wrestle with sexual pain or...
Webinar Series: Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together, Pt 2
Overcoming Physical Barriers to Pleasure Part 2 in this webinar series Meet Dr. Carol Tanksley, OB-GYN. She has over 28 years of experience and a passion help women understand how their bodies are integrated with their minds, spirits, and emotions. In this webinar,...
Webinar Series: Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together, Pt 1
The Priority of Mutual Pleasure in Healthy Sex Part 1 in this webinar series Juli and Dr. Debra Taylor, a certified Christian sex therapist, discuss the importance of pleasure within the larger picture of sexual intimacy, and how the pleasure we experience during sex...
Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 3
From Sexual Trauma to Sexual Intimacy (It Takes Two) Part 3 in this webinar series In this final conversation, Juli talks with Matt Gutbrod, a sexual abuse survivor, and his wife, Victoria, a marriage and family therapist, about how couples can practice empathy and...
Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 2
What Is Sexual Trauma & How Does It Affect You? Part 2 in this webinar series If you're in Florida, find Aline-Vanya Guillaume at TherapyTerrace.com Sexual Trauma & It's Effect On Marriage an article by Aline-Vanya Guillaume, LPSW Unwanted by Jay...
Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 1
Your Abuse Story: How To Tell, What To Tell, & Why It Matters Part 1 in this webinar series Juli Slattery and Dawn Scott Damon talk about the reasons we don't share our abuse stories. We can be accused of lying or exaggerating. We're met with silence. Our pain is...
How To Teach Christian Sexuality to Children and Teens
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Talking to kids and...
Five Things Every Leader Needs To Know About Porn
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Rosie Makinney leads Fight For Love Ministries, a team of...
How Do I Help Couples Move Beyond the Purity Narrative to Sexual Intimacy?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Much of the traditional...
Overcoming Sexual Shame
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Joy Skarka shares her journey of finding...
Should We Use LGBTQ Inclusive Language?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Laurie Krieg is a...
What the Bible Says About Same-Sex Attraction
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Sam Allberry is a...
Webinar: Pornography: Help for Spouses & Parents
The desires that lead to sexual addiction are not wrong. Men and women who find themselves caught up in porn, reading books like Fifty Shades of Grey, or in a sexual chat room got there because their healthy God-given desires have been twisted. We are supposed to...
Q&A: What Does God Say About Divorce?
What does God say about divorce? Juli unpacks this layered topic.
Q&A: Is It Possible For The Woman to Be The Higher Drive Partner?
Are husbands always the higher desire partners?
Q&A: What Should I Do If I Discover My Spouse Looking at Porn?
What do you do when you discover your spouse watches porn?
Q&A: What are practical ways to teach children about healthy sexuality?
Juli helps anyone caring for children answer this question: “What are practical ways to teach children about healthy sexuality?”
Q&A: When I don’t feel desire, is “duty sex” OK?
Getting stuck in a cycle of "duty sex" will sabotage true intimacy. Learn how to change that pattern and deepen your relationship. Here are a few resources to get you started: God, Sex, & Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Java #419: Why Sexual Intimacy is About...
Q&A: Does a “quickie” count as sexual intimacy?
Aren't quickies all about sexual activity and not sexual intimacy? Fast-paced encounters may feel at odds with the patient, intentional moments that build sexual intimacy, but even quickies have a place in healthy sexuality. Here, Juli explains why. This question came...
Q&A: How do I begin to pray about my sex life?
"I'm newer to the Christian faith and praying about sex is the weirdest thing I've ever heard!" Praying about your sex life? It’s a little awkward at first. That’s because even those of us who’ve grown up in church have been led to believe that sexual problems don’t...
Q&A: Did purity culture imply that women are “the problem” with lust?
Purity culture has often painted women as "the problem." How can we help people to see others as human beings rather than potential temptations? In this Q&A, our guest, therapist Dawn Jones, shares how seeing others as human beings created in the image of God...
Q&A: Where Is the balance between doing my part and trusting God to do His?
"Where is the balance between personal integrity and trusting in God to do only what He can do? Will I just have to get used to being disappointed in myself and my sin?" When it comes to breaking free from sexual sin, there are things you can do and there are things...
Q&A: What if I’m not sexually compatible with the person I want to marry?
"What if we're not sexually compatible?" In this video, Juli shares everything you need to know about sexual incompatibility—including how it can make you a better lover. Looking for more? Check out these resources: Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers...
Q&A: What does romance have to do with my relationship with God?
Theologically, the connotations of romance associated with God’s desire for His people don't feel quite right. Can you help me understand how to find this in Scripture? It feels odd, at first, to think about your relationship with God in terms of the romance and...
Webinar Series: Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together, Pt 3
Saying "Yes!" to Sexual Pleasure Part 3 in this webinar series In the final webinar in our series, Dr. Jennifer Degler brings her humor, candor, and expertise to help you understand how to get your brain and your body working together so that you can share the kind of...
Why We Must Remember That Women Struggle With Porn Too
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Despite growing...
How Do I Get to the Heart of Unwanted Sexual Behavior?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Jay Stringer discusses...
Sexual Discipleship® and Single Christians
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Healthy conversation around singles and sexuality is a glaring gap in most Christian...
What You Need To Know About Ministry to Women & Sexual Brokenness
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts There is a growing awareness of the great need...
Why Christian Leaders Must Understand Sexual Trauma
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Tim Hein is the...
Sex, Love, and Dating
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Dr. Sean McDowell is a ...
Confronting Abuse in the Church
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Boz Tchividjian is a...
Understanding Complex Trauma
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Dr. Heather Gingrich is...
What Is Christian Sex Therapy?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Josh Spurlock is a...
Why Do We Need To Talk About Sex?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Christopher West is the...
How Does the Christian Community Begin To Address Porn?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Nick Stumbo is the executive director of Pure Desire...
How Do I Recognize an Abusive Marriage?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Dr. Ramona Probasco is a psychologist and a certified domestic abuse counselor. She is also a...
Webinar: When Marriage Gets Messy (Healing after Infidelity)
You may not be in the middle of an affair, but we all have to deal with sin in our relationships. It's easy to turn to other sources of comfort and avoid having hard conversations with your spouse. As your resentment builds, your heart drifts. Thankfully, Jesus has...
Webinar: The Season for a Savior
Perhaps the best way to remember Jesus this Christmas is to imagine where you would be without Him. In this month’s webinar, we’ll talk practically about managing the tensions of Christmas; from strife in your marriage to losing a loved one to facing...
Webinar: Fighting Masturbation and Fantasy
Every day we receive questions from men and women around masturbation and fantasy. Is masturbation a sin? How do I know when I've "crossed the line" into sinful sexual fantasy? How do we differentiate between healthy sexual desire and sinful lust? What if I'm single?...
Webinar: Guilt & Motherhood: When You Think You’re Messing It Up
Practically every mother wrestles with guilt because there is no such thing as a perfect mom. We instinctively know that the choices we make will impact our children's lives. How can we parent our kids without being paralyzed by the guilt of our mistakes and fear of...
Webinar: Loving Your LGBT Neighbor
Ever feel like we're just fumbling through the LGBT conversation, always asking but never really finding Biblical answers to questions like: What does it look like to be friends with my lesbian neighbors? How should I love my gay child and his partner? What if I'm...
Q&A: Are Sexual Sin and Sexual Brokenness the Same Thing?
Are Sexual Sin and Sexual Brokenness the Same Thing?
Q&A: How Often Is ‘Normal’ for Having Sex Within Marriage?
How can you know if you’re having sex enough in marriage?
Q&A: What Is the Purpose of My Sexuality as a Single?
Is there still a purpose for your sexuality if you’re a single person?
Q&A: How Can I Love Someone Who Is Struggling with Sexual Sin and Brokenness?
How do you love someone struggling with sexual sin and brokenness?
Q&A: Is Masturbation a Sin?
Is masturbation a sin?
Q&A: Is God Okay With Me Having Sex With Someone I Love Even If We Are Not Married?
What God think about sex outside of marriage?
Sexual Discipleship® and Marriage
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Helping couples navigate barriers to sexual...
Why The Christian Single’s Journey is More Valuable Than You Think
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts In an effort to honor...
These Are the Unique Sexual Issues That Women of Color Face
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Dawn Jones, LPC, shares...
What Does “Grace Based Recovery” Look Like?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Unintentionally, our approach to recovery from sexual...
How Do I Create Spaces for Leaders Who Are Struggling?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts The widespread use of...
Webinar Series: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Pt 3
Kids & Porn: How and When You Should Talk to Your Child About Pornography Part 3 of this webinar series From questions like, "Mommy, how will that baby get out of your tummy?" to trends on TikTok and Instagram, everyday life is rich with opportunities to connect...
Webinar Series: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Pt 2
The Birds & Bees: How to Talk to Young Children About Sex Part 2 of this webinar series From questions like, "Mommy, how will that baby get out of your tummy?" to trends on TikTok and Instagram, everyday life is rich with opportunities to connect with your kids...
Webinar Series: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Pt 1
Teens: Teach Them HOW, Not WHAT, to Think About Sex Part 1 in this webinar series From questions like, "Mommy, how will that baby get out of your tummy?" to trends on TikTok and Instagram, everyday life is rich with opportunities to connect with your kids and share...
Webinar: How Can God Be Good If…?
Our beliefs about sexuality begin and end with our beliefs about God. Is He trustworthy? Is His Word reliable? Why wouldn't a loving God embrace me just the way I am? In this webinar, Juli and Dr. Jo Vitale, a Christian apologist, talk about how acknowledging the...
Webinar: How to Talk to Your Spouse About Sex
Talking about sex with your spouse is scary... especially when one (or both!) of you is disappointed, frustrated, or resentful about how things are currently. How do you have healthy conversations about sex, when every other attempt has been wrought with tension? ÊHow...
Webinar: Does Your Sex Life Have Shades of Gray?
Why are some Christians okay with sex toys, masturbation, and cohabitation while others believe it's wrong to kiss before marriage? Whether you're single or married, honoring God with your sexuality means discerning the dangers of both license and legalism in the...
Webinar: The Art of Asking Good Questions
In an era of emotionally charged politics, #MeToo, and gender identity questions, we've all witnessed, and likely experienced, how engaging with others can quickly lead to heated conversations and hurt feelings. How do we talk about difficult things in a way that BOTH...
Webinar: Addressing Tough Topics with Truth & Love
In July 2019, best-selling author Josh Harris (I Kissed Dating Goodbye) announced that he and his wife are separating. The hundreds of comments to his Instagram post mirror how Christians generally respond to difficult issues and brokenness. One person wrote,...
Webinar: Overcoming Barriers in the Bedroom
Do you hate sex? Are you too tired, never in the mood, or is sex too painful? Maybe there’s too much tension in your marriage to desire any sexual intimacy with your husband. Dr. Juli Slattery will be teaching on overcoming barriers in the bedroom and sharing things...
Webinar: Tackling Shame
One of the most common themes in the questions we receive at Authentic Intimacy is shame. What is it? Where does it come from? How do I get rid of it? Can God really forgive every sin? If so, why do I still have so much shame? In this webinar, we address these issues...
Webinar: Tools You Need for Healthier Relationships
You have a lot of relationships in your life: parents, family, friends, colleagues, and your spouse. These relationships have huge effects on your emotional health, day to day living, and often your interaction with God. What percentage of your relationships are...
Webinar: Sexuality and Parenting
How do you teach your kids about God's design and purpose for sexuality? How do you relate to your kids when today's sexual culture is so different from the sexual culture of your own childhood? During this webinar, Dr. Juli Slattery explains what it looks like to...
Webinar: Female Friendships—the Good AND the Bad
We can all agree that having female friends is a great gift in life, but why can they cause so much difficulty? Dr. Juli Slattery hosts this webinar with one of her favorite friends, Erin Smalley! These two share the value in friendship, be honest about why it can be...
Webinar: Sex Talk in Your Marriage: Conversations Every Couple Should Be Having
You can read books on how to have "the talk" with your kids, but do you have the talk in your marriage? We believe that conversations around sexuality should not just take place when there is a problem or you are figuring out when to have sex. In this webinar, Dr....
Webinar: Rethinking Sexuality: God’s Design and Why It Matters
We believe every Christian needs to be equipped with a Biblical understanding of sexuality. Not just, "Don't do it until your married,"but a full, practical, and Biblical narrative that we know, live out, and teach others. Dr. Juli Slattery invites you to join her for...
Webinar: Spicing Up Your Sex Life
Do you know that God's desire is for you and your husband to experience great pleasure in your sex life? Many couples settle for "vanilla" sex for years (aka the missionary position), placing self-imposed restrictions on themselves that have nothing to do with God's...
Webinar: How to Love Your Prodigal Child
Join Hannah Nitz as she sits down with Lori Wildenberg & Dr. Juli Slattery to talk about how to love your prodigal child. Lori is a mother who recognized her daughter's gender confusion early on. Despite many prayers and conversations, her daughter now leads a...
Webinar: Fighting Porn in Your Marriage
A recent survey revealed that approximately 85% of men interact with pornographic material on a monthly basis. With that statistic, we know that means porn has made it's way into many of our marriages. Pornography is killing our intimacy, and its widespread use and...
Webinar: Sex & the Single Girl
The average single Christian has received very little teaching on the purpose of sexuality, and a simple "Just wait until you're married" approach won't cut it. Christian singles need to be equipped with a biblical worldview of sexuality and practical tools for...
Webinar: When Your Greatest Fears Come True
Can you think of your greatest fear? Perhaps it's your husband getting into pornography, finding out you've been cheated on, watching your kids walk away from the Lord, or great harm being done to you. When your worst fear comes true, how do you continue to walk in...