Sexuality & Culture

#297: Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness

Laurence Koo, guest speaker at our upcoming Reclaim Conference, shares what freedom looks like when you experience same-sex attraction.

#437: How To Help Your Kids Learn Resilience and Build Character

Living with sexual integrity often means saying no to what you want in the moment. If you expect life to always be easy, you...

#426: How To Better Understand the Complexity Beneath Gender Dysphoria

What’s the difference between sexual identity and gender identity? Should parents use preferred pronouns? Or allow kids to dress in...

How To Help Little Ones Celebrate How God Made Their Bodies

We're happy to welcome Francie Winslow back to the blog. You can learn more from Francie at her website. I was cuddled up with my youngest son on the couch when the well-known cartoon “Blues Clues” popped up on the screen. Along with flashy colors came a classic tune,...

#407: Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You’re Asking Us!

There's more to the masturbation conversation than simply "right" or "wrong." Could masturbation be an issue of spiritual maturity...

How Do We Tell Good From Evil?

Is it wrong to live together before marriage? Does gender really matter? Is it wrong to support gay marriage? These are the types of questions that we often get asked at Authentic Intimacy. Perhaps more than ever, many Christians are confused about right and wrong....

The Five Key Bonding Forces in Healthy Relationships

“We have to be actively engaged in running the relationships that we have.” – John Van Epp

Struggling With Sexual Intimacy? You Might Need A “Sex Break”

Is it ever a good idea to take a break from having sex with your spouse? Juli explains why the answer might be yes.

#533 Why It Feels Impossible To Beat Your Sin

Are we supposed to battle our sin or surrender it to the one who has already defeated it?

#527 Why Friendship, not Romance, is the Greatest Love of All

Rebecca McLaughlin explains how we’ve lost our vision for loving relationships outside the context of marriage or the nuclear family.

#473 Repentance, Redemption, and Revolution: How to Accept the Invitation of Godly Sexuality

What does it actually look like to accept the invitation to reclaim God’s design for sexuality in your life? Is the path straight, wide, and flat, or narrow, bumpy, and full of twists and turns? In this episode of Java with Juli, Juli hosts guests Cole and Caitlin Zick of Moral Revolution as they discuss their polar-opposite experiences embracing their sexuality as God intended.

#436: Friendship Trends Gone Wrong? (How to Keep Your Friendships Healthy)

Boundaries are a tricky part of friendship. Friends help us meet legitimate needs for companionship, spiritual growth,...

#422: How to Care for Both Women and Children in the Wake of the Dobbs Decision

Do you know that God’s heart is for both women and their unborn children, and don’t know where you fit in the pro-life/pro-choice...

#361: Hey Momma! Learn How To Share the “Birds & Bees” with Your Littles

We know. It’s hard to imagine talking to your sweet three or four-year-old about sex. And here’s the thing: you don’t have to. What...

#355: How Apologetics Helps Kids Engage the Culture & Keep Their Faith

Don't tell your kids what to think about sex, teach them HOW to think about sex. Don't give them a list of rules, give them...

#348: What You Need To Know About the “T” in LGBT, Pt 2

In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Preston Sprinkle as they dive into biblical questions around transitioning,...

#347: What You Need To Know About the “T” in LGBT, Pt 1

What was once a rare psychological diagnosis has quickly become an accepted cultural movement. While it's critical to know what...

Webinar Series: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Pt 2

The Birds & Bees: How to Talk to Young Children About Sex Part 2 of this webinar series From questions like, "Mommy, how will that baby get out of your tummy?" to trends on TikTok and Instagram, everyday life is rich with opportunities to connect with your kids...

Webinar Series: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Pt 1

Teens: Teach Them HOW, Not WHAT, to Think About Sex Part 1 in this webinar series From questions like, "Mommy, how will that baby get out of your tummy?" to trends on TikTok and Instagram, everyday life is rich with opportunities to connect with your kids and share...

#333: Is God Good …Even if You’re LGBT?

“We are being shaped by a culture that idolizes romantic and sexual fulfillment. And I just think—Jesus was fully human...

#326: Gen Z and Gender Identity

Few ideas have changed more rapidly than the way our culture perceives gender. The idea that you can choose your gender (some cite...

#310: Is God Sexist?

Is God sexist? Does he value men more than he values women? If you've ever wrestled with this question, a quick look...

#159: When Your Child Struggles With Gender

If your child is making choices you don’t agree with, this episode is for you! Juli sits down with a mother who recognized her...

#247: Healthy Conversations With Kids About Sex

Julie Lyles Carr has parented eight children over the last 25 years. We think she might have a thing or two to teach us about...

#229: Sex, Teens, & Parenting

Your daughter is sexting her boyfriend. Your son sees porn on a friend's phone. Now that you've yelled, confiscated their devices...

Webinar: Fighting Masturbation and Fantasy

Every day we receive questions from men and women around masturbation and fantasy. Is masturbation a sin? How do I know when I've "crossed the line" into sinful sexual fantasy? How do we differentiate between healthy sexual desire and sinful lust? What if I'm single?...

Masturbation: Is It Wrong?

Because my job is to talk to women about sex, there are few questions I haven't heard and haven't answered. However, there is one common question that I don't like to answer. Is it ok to masturbate? (Presione aquí para leer en español.) This question is a bit...

Transcript: #558 Christians Need To Change The Way They Talk About Married Sex

A transcript of Java with Juli #558, where Dr. Juli Slattery shared a discussion with guest Dr. Doug Rosenau.

Transcript: #557 Understanding The Harm of Purity Culture and How to Move Forward

A transcript of Java with Juli #557, where Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by guest Dr. Camden Morgante.

#538 How I Rebuilt Faith In God After Church Abuse

Ryan George shares how he disentangled the manipulation and abuse of his past from who God really is.

#532 How the Church Can Help Stop Domestic Abuse

Chris Moles and Stacey Womack join Juli to talk about what churches need to know when it comes to helping abuse victims.

#522 The Paradox of Hope and Brokenness: Jesus, Depression and SSA

Brenna Blain explains how coming to the end of herself led her to a place desperate enough to long for God Himself, not just His healing.

#520 Sex, Cancel Culture and the Church: How to Pursue Unity When we Disagree

Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation on why believers need to work to pursue both peace and righteousness within the body of Christ.

#519 Why we Need to be Better at Caring for Divorced People in the Church

Laura Petherbridge shares her experience as a divorcee and explains how to walk in love and empathy to those who have experienced divorce.

#508 What Does Healthy Masculinity Actually Look Like?

What can we learn from the lives of the heroes of the faith?

#507 What You Need To Know About The Gender Conversation

John and Sarah Stonestreet explore some of the underlying beliefs surrounding sexuality in our culture.

How The American Church Reinforces Isolation and Why That Needs to Change

What if one of the most important things about church is not what happens at meetings but what happens between them?

#488 What Does the Bible Really Say About Same-Sex Marriage?

What is the Biblical essence of marriage and who is it for? Preston Sprinkle discusses his new book “Does the Bible Support Same-Sex Marriage?”

#316: Sorry Mom & Dad, the “Sex Talk” Doesn’t Work

Juli and Hannah explain what it looks like to teach your kids about biblical sexuality in our current cultural moment.

Q&A: Is Masturbation a Sin?

Is masturbation a sin?

#469 Porn, Rape Culture, and Why The Battle Against Sexual Assault Starts at Home

Dr. John Foubert discusses some of the reasons rape numbers are so high, and what needs to be done to prevent sexual assault from happening.

Q&A: How Do I Love My LGBTQ Friends Without Compromising Biblical Truth?

Is it possible to love your LGBTQ friends without compromising biblical truth?

#435: What’s the Most Important Thing the Bible Says About Your Identity?

"The journey of the Christian life is that God has increasingly more of me." - Dr. Juli Slattery Juli and Hannah talk about sexual...

#432: Unraveling the Threads of Racism & “Love Addiction” in My Story

Why did I have sex with him again? Why can't I stop this masturbation addiction? Why can't I get this fantasy out of my head? Are...

#423: How to “Rethink” Issues in Our Church Culture Around Sexuality & Abuse

We need to be asking some hard questions. In the wake of the SBC investigation, along with the growing tsunami of fallen pastors,...

Webinar: Making Sense of God & Sex, Live Q&A

How do I bring God my heartache over the fact that my daughter is living in a same-sex relationship? Why does God care if my husband and I are having sex or not? Does God really expect me to give up sex, even if I never marry? When you wrestle with sexual pain or...

#403: How Do I Reconcile God’s Goodness with Sexual Pain & Injustice?

How can we reconcile the pain of sexual abuse with faith in a loving God?

#401: Why “Love Is Love” Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Means

Black Lives Matter. Love is love. Hate has no home here. A thread of truth—truth deeply rooted in Christianity—runs through these...

#380: How To Have Honest Conversations With Your Kids About Sex

How do you create an environment in your home where your kids feel OK talking about sex? When they struggle, how do you protect...

#378: How One Church Learned To Embrace the Beauty of Broken

Imagine there is a sign on the door of your church that says, “Please leave your sexual brokenness on the steps...

#375: Juli & Jackie on How To Pursue Unity While Standing on Truth

The mics stayed on for more with Jackie Hill Perry. In this unique after-the-show episode, Juli and Jackie share how they’ve...

#351: Why Our Churches Need To Do Better at Valuing the Voices of Women

The women of the Bible have a lot to teach us. Their voices often give us the story behind the story—take Ruth for example, or the...

#329: Addressing Tough Questions About Identity and Sexuality

Theology meets real life in this episode of Java with Juli! We’re asking the difficult questions about identity and sexuality: Why...

When Christians Disagree About Sex

When the Nashville statement was released, it brought conservative Christianity’s relationship with sexual issues front and center into the mainstream media. USA Today described the Nashville statement this way, “A coalition of conservative evangelical leaders laid...

Joshua Harris, Sexuality, and “Deconstructing” Christianity

Recently, the evangelical world has been rocked by the news of Joshua Harris’s decision to leave his marriage and Christian beliefs. Joshua is the bestselling author of I Kissed Dating Goodbye and was a well-known spokesperson for the purity movement of the 1990s. A...

#250: Healing After Abortion

It’s time to let women know there is healing after abortion. While Christians rightly proclaim the sanctity of life, we...

#161: Beyond Pro-Life vs. Pro-Choice

Take the politics out of conversations about abortion. You don't have to choose between valuing the rights of a woman or the...

#99: Living With Crisis Pregnancy Choices

The decision to have an abortion may seem like a quick fix, but the repercussions remain with a woman for the rest of her life....

#119: Talking with Your Kids About Homosexuality and Transgender Issues

Talking to your children about homosexuality and transgender issues are some of the biggest challenges for today’s Christian...

Q&A: What Is the Difference Between Sexual Integrity and Purity?

What is the difference between sexual integrity and purity?

Transcript: The #1 Thing That Defines You (And It’s Not What You Think), #570

A transcript of Java with Juli #570, where Joe Caruso and Juli discuss why our identity must be rooted in who God is.

Transcript: #559 What if Male Sexuality Is More Complex Than We Think?

A transcript of Java with Juli #559, where Dr. Juli Slattery shared a discussion with guest Dr. Corey Allan.

#558 Christians Need To Change The Way They Talk About Married Sex

Juli shares a conversation she had with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau talking about the beauty of sex in marriage.

#557 Understanding The Harm of Purity Culture and How to Move Forward

Dr. Camden Morgante breaks down purity culture myths, and shares how churches can embrace a more appropriate way of talking about sexuality.

Transcript: #550 What to Do When Sex is Painful

A transcript of Java with Juli #550, a conversation between Dr. Juli Slattery and trauma-informed pelvic health practitioner Jess Seitz.

Transcript: #549 What the Latest Research Shows About Porn

A transcript of Java with Juli #549, a conversation between Dr. Juli Slattery and Nick Stumbo of Pure Desire Ministries.

Q&A: Is it okay to have sex before marriage?

Is sex before marriage okay?

Q&A: How do I explain the unbiblical sexual choices others make to my young kids?

How to talk to your kids about other people’s sexual choices.

#542 A Pastor, His Porn Problem, and How His Church Restored Him

Pastor Garrett Kell joins Juli on the podcast to talk about his years-long struggle with porn, coming clean, and how his church responded.

#541 Teaching Sexuality: Pitfalls, Purity Culture, and the Best Path Forward

Noah Filipiak joins Juli to share where he sees a need to provide the youth of today with a better framework for biblical sexuality.

#537 Can You Be a Christian Feminist?

Dr. Abigail Favale shares why our bodies matter and how we can cultivate a deep and rich theology around sex and gender.

#518 Single Sexuality and the Unique Challenges of Widowhood

Dr. Carol Tanksley delves into the complexities faced by widows and sheds light on the emotional and psychological hurdles they face.

Sexual Abuse: How the Church Should Respond

What is the Church’s responsibility in addressing sexual abuse and what steps should we take to prevent it?

#515 Is Attraction Sinful? Unpacking Attachment, Safety, Love and Desire

Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation all about attraction and desire.

Should I Go to a Gay Wedding?

Few topics in today’s world are more divisive in the Christian Church than sexuality.

Dios Dice Que El Sexo Es Para El Matrimonio: Aquí Veremos Porqué

Guardar el sexo para el matrimonio es tan raro que se vuelve noticia cuando una pareja declara públicamente que esta es su intención.

God Says Sex is For Marriage – Here’s Why

More and more Christians are having sex outside of marriage, but is this in line with what God’s word says?

Why Sexual Maturity Matters More Than Sexual Experience

What if the key to understanding sexual matters begins with knowing God’s word, trusting Him, and growing in self-control?

#363: Why Are Christians Afraid Of the LGBT+ Conversation?

Rachel Gilson discusses why it’s more important than ever to maintain a high view of scripture and know what the Bible says about our sexuality.

Help! I Know I Need to Talk to My Teenager About Sex, but How Do I Do It?

Want to share the good news about God’s design for sexuality with your teen? Start with creating a strong relational connection.

Q&A: How Can I Overcome the Shame I Experienced as a Result of Purity Culture?

How do you overcome any shame you’ve experienced from purity culture?

#455 How God Changed My Heart (Even After I Changed My Gender) with Laura Smalts

For most of her childhood, Laura wanted to be a boy. In her 20s, she began hormone therapy, had surgery and lived as Jake for nine years. But she could never quite shake the feeling that none of it was real. “I remember looking at the photo on my driver’s license and saying, ‘I’m not as happy as I think I am.'” In this episode, Laura shares her remarkable story of desperation, hope and transformation.

#449 How to Guide Your Kids Through Confusing Messages About Gender

Juli and her guest share wisdom and encouragement to help you give clear answers to your kids’ questions about their gender and the way God created them.

#433: Can You Be Gay and Follow Jesus? with Greg Coles

Greg Coles shares why he doesn't love the controversy surrounding the title of his book Single, Gay, Christian, yet why he's...

#425: Bonus! How To Build Community & Friendships with Intention and Grace

Feeling stuck in your friendships? You're not alone! As the seasons of life change, our friendships don't always keep up. If you're...

#424: A 54-Year Friendship That Broke Through Cross-Cultural Barriers

Their friendship defied the odds. In the late 60s, in the South, these men weren’t supposed to become friends. Yet, with Jesus as...

#399: Why Questions About Sex Cause You to Question God

Juli and Hannah kick off the "Making Sense of God & Sex" series with a conversation about how questions around sex always lead...

#397: How To Help Families Navigate Questions About Gender Identity

Juli continues her conversation with Dr. Mark Yarhouse about how parents can stay close to a child who is questioning his or her...

#382: Why We’re Not Afraid to Ask Hard Questions About Sex & Christianity

If you feel the pressure to believe that Christians are close-minded and a growing minority, you’re in for an encouraging surprise....

#381: “Show It Off” or “Cover It Up”: Messages That Shape Our Body Image

What messages have you been told about your body and your sexuality? At the coffee shop with Juli are two friends; join these...

Masturbarse: ¿Está mal?

Ya que mi trabajo consiste en hablar con mujeres acerca del sexo, hay pocas preguntas que no haya escuchado y que no haya respondido. Sin embargo, hay una pregunta muy común que no me gusta responder. ¿Está bien masturbarse? Esta pregunta es un...

#359: How To Help Women Speak Out Against Sexual Harassment

Tiffany Bluhm wishes this wasn’t her story to tell. Like most victims or bystanders of sexual harassment, she had everything to lose...

#358: Sexuality, Spirituality, and Why We Settle For Counterfeit Intimacy

Have you ever turned to Netflix instead of pursuing sex with your spouse? Have you turned to Instagram instead ending your day by...

#356: Sex & the City of God (What Life Looks Like When We Love God First)

That longing you have to be fully known? God put it there. It’s meant to draw you into intimacy with Him. Yet we try to...

#352: How Purity Culture and Ravi Zacharias’ Abuse of Power Challenge Our Faith

Juli Slattery and Asheritah Ciuciu sit down for a conversation about the shortcomings of purity culture, the recent revelation of...

“¿La masturbación es pecado?” Puede que estés haciendo la pregunta equivocada

Siempre que hablo con un grupo de personas sobre sexualidad, trato de dejar tiempo para una sesión de preguntas y respuestas anónimas. No importa quién esté escuchando, joven o viejo, hombre o mujer, casado o soltero, estoy segura de que me preguntarán sobre la...

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