It’s been proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow us into adulthood. Memories, anxiety, and feelings of shame can leave women overwhelmed with emotions they don’t understand—and their husbands equally confused! In this episode, Juli sits down with Dawn Scott Damon, author of When a Woman You Love Was Abused, to share wisdom and insight for husbands, helping them to love their wives well through the journey of recovery and healing.
Should a couple who experienced infidelity give up on sex? Or is there a way to approach sex that feels safe and honest for both parties?
How do you know if your spouse is repentant after a betrayal?
Francie Winslow, joins Juli to explain how she is learning to embrace the goodness of God’s design for sex.
Sheri Mueller, LCPC, author of “I Want Him to Want Me”, joins Juli to share insights, wisdom, and encouragement.
“We have to be actively engaged in running the relationships that we have.” – John Van Epp
Join Juli, David and Terri, as the couple talk about how God’s intervention saved and restored their marriage.
uli sits down with Joshua Butler to talk about his book, “Beautiful Union”.
"Open" is the default setting of our hearts. When our hearts are closed, we lack perspective. We're more likely to make poor...
What do you do when you want to give up on your marriage? Greg & Erin Smalley share their story—and remind us that we can ask...
A transcript of Java with Juli #553, a conversation between Dr. Juli Slattery and Dr. Greg Smalley on divorce and separation.
Dr. Greg Smalley, joins Juli to talk about some of the options couples can explore.
Can married couples do whatever they want sexually?
Is the fight to heal from sexual trauma as hopeless as it often feels?
What do you do when you discover your spouse watches porn?
Are you ready to fight your way to a better marriage? Conflict presents an incredible opportunity for couples. When done well, it...
It’s not just girl talk on Java with Juli. Gentlemen, today is all about you! In this episode, Dr. Gary Chapman joins Juli at...
The challenges of married life change as we grow older, and very few people talk about them. That's why Dr. Juli Slattery invited...
“I feel like I’m married to a child!” says the woman who claims her husband just won’t grow up. She comes...
Very few of us go to the altar and vow to give our husbands "most of" our hearts. On our wedding day we’re all in! But after the...
Juli, Linda, and Hannah discuss the importance of married couples having other married couples in their lives. Not only couples who...
¿Qué dice la Biblia sobre el perdón y nuestro bienestar?
A transcript of Java with Juli #555, where Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by co-host Hannah Nitz.
¿Por qué nos resulta más cómodo tener sexo que hablar de él?
If your spouse is beginning to annoy you, what can you do?
What do you do if your spouse isn’t interested in having sex?
John Van Epp, creator of the RAM theoretical model, shares what it takes to make your relationships stronger than ever.
Are you as ready as you think you are for marriage?
Is divorce the best option for you? Toni and Carey Nieuwhof discuss Toni’s book, “Before You Split.”
Juli Slattery and Gary Thomas share wisdom and insight to keep your marriage together when the storms of life threaten to rip it apart.
What do you do if your husband refuses to get a job? When you don't like the way he's parenting the kids? How do you know when you've become a controlling or manipulative wife? God has given you a powerful influence in the life of your husband - but you have to learn...
Even good marriages can get off to a rocky start. In this episode, Ray and Robyn McKelvy, now married over 30 years, share their...
Nobody said marriage would be easy. It takes great courage, strength and self-control to be the woman God has called you to be in...
Have you tried to "fix" problems in your marriage, only to end up feeling distant? Disappointment is common...
Marriages don’t always survive the tough stuff. God still moves. Wounds heal. Addicts find sobriety. Forgiveness is extended. Life...
Friends, please note that we don't go into detail about how to recognize abuse in marriage. We have other conversations about...
When you’re married, depression is a shared experience. There is no way to escape the impact of sharing a home...
Every couple experiences times of disconnection, but when your spouse begins to feel more like a roommate than a lover, it’s easy to...
Being a stepmom is one of the hardest roles a woman can take on. Because, let's be honest: you fell in love with your husband, you...
Susan Cox sat in church, a hotel room key in her purse, and an ongoing affair pushing her to leave her marriage for good. She was...
Have you ever asked yourself, What's it like to be married to me? What's it like to make love with me? Why do I want to stay mad? ...
Regardless of how long you’ve been married, date nights are still important! In this episode of Java with Juli, Juli talks with Dr....
"Every question Jill would ask, I tried to answer. My posture was: I will answer any question without defense. I will tell you...
The challenges of married life change as we grow older, and very few people talk about them. That's why Dr. Juli Slattery had...
In this special session from Reclaim 2024, Brad Rhoads shares what helped cut fighting and elevate fun in his marriage.
A transcript of Java with Juli #556, where Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by author and ministry leader Rick Lawrence.
How do you build emotional connection with a spouse when you have different beliefs?
How do you heal after the betrayal of a spouse?
Chris and Stephanie Teague, the musical duo behind Out of the Dust, share how their marriage fell apart and how God put it back together.
What do you think is the most important element when it comes to marriage?
Got an emotionally disconnected spouse? Hear what Juli says about how to connect.
Are you ever really ready for marriage? Are there certain conversations couples should have prior to engagement? Scott Kedersha weighs in.
What does God say about divorce? Juli unpacks this layered topic.
Guests Dave and Ann Wilson join Juli in this special bonus episode as they share how God transformed their marriage from the top down.
Is there a difference between a bad relationship and a harmful one? How can you spot the difference, both in your own relationships and those of your friends and family?
Join Juli and Dr. David Clarke as they discuss how to recognize abuse patterns of behavior, how to set boundaries, and when necessary, how to get out and create safety elsewhere.
Relationships naturally find ruts. With our natural bent toward self-love, we easily get stuck focusing on our own needs or...
Blended family couples have honeymoon phases too!—they just usually come a little later. Even the strongest couples will face...
Being intentional about the business of marriage builds intimacy. When couples make decisions together, their emotions and buy-in...
A complement, according to Webster, is “something that fills up, completes, or makes better or perfect.”...
What is emotional safety? Look at it this way: an emotionally unsafe relationship is a place where you can’t be yourself. You’re...
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Dr. Ramona Probasco is a psychologist and a certified domestic abuse counselor. She is also a...
Circumstances in Laurie’s life started triggering her memories of childhood sexual abuse. Her lifelong struggle...
Think about your toughest relationship: The wife who only ever seems to offer you the cold shoulder. The husband you’re finding it...
The two biggest areas of conflict in marriage are sex and money. We talk a lot about sex on Java with Juli, but today we're talking...
You may not be in the middle of an affair, but we all have to deal with sin in our relationships. It's easy to turn to other sources of comfort and avoid having hard conversations with your spouse. As your resentment builds, your heart drifts. Thankfully, Jesus has...
Dating has changed. A LOT. In the last decade, cohabitation, sex, and sexual experimentation have been touted as the best ways to...
What do you do when your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, but your spouse won't work on it, no matter...
There’s no such thing as instant intimacy. Love at first sight? Perhaps. But intimacy is something else entirely. It takes years to...
Sarah got married believing that absolute submission to her husband would glorify God; making Him, her and her man happy. Only, she...
It’s one thing to be lonely when you are single, wondering if and when God will ever bring the right guy. It’s another matter for your heart to ache with loneliness when the “right guy” is living in your home and sleeping in your bed. If this is your reality, please...
What do you want out of marriage? If you’re like most of us, you hope for love, companionship, passion and other good things that...
When you and your spouse have separate (but equally important) callings that pull you in different directions, who yields?...
How do we foster relationships that show the world that the Gospel is not just beautiful, it's also...
Opposites attract... for a little while. Then those cute, quirky things that attracted you to your spouse early on...
I vividly remember life as it was about 15 years ago. A newborn, a 4-year-old and a 6-year-old, all boys. Most mornings, I woke up to someone crying or pleading for breakfast. From the time my feet hit the ground until I went to bed, someone needed me. I was acutely...
Does God care about what goes on inside your bedroom? We think so. God has something to teach you about Himself, and He...
Men are simple—or at least that’s what you’ve been led to believe. Give them food, sex, perhaps throw...
The stereotype of an adulterous affair in marriage has typically been the picture of a cheating husband. The man has a one-night stand on a business trip or falls in love with his secretary. I guess it never occurred to us that for every cheating man, there must also...
Java with Juli doesn’t shy away from the tough issues! Join Dr. Juli Slattery as she discusses two of the most polarizing topics in...
Separation is often the last step before divorce. But what if it was the first step toward reconciliation instead? By the time...
Have you ever gotten to the point where you think, I don't know if I can do this anymore? We all...
What should a wife do when she feels her husband isn’t taking responsibility?
A transcript of Java with Juli #562, where Brad Rhoads from Grace Marriage, shared at Reclaim 2024.
There are many Christians who feel uncomfortable with their sexuality. Juli explores possible reasons why and advises on how to overcome it.
Comedian, author and Pastor Ted Cunningham is Juli’s guest this week, explaining the health and relational benefits of laughter.
Dr. Michelle Lee-Barnewall explains why debates on the roles of women often miss God’s heart for His Church.
How do you parent adult kids after they leave the nest? Dr. Jim Burns, president of the organization HomeWord, shares his experience and expertise.
When does parental guidance become overreaching interference? How do couples set boundaries? And how do in-laws give kids space to form strong marital foundations?
There are always differences in relationships – differences in culture, differences in family of origin, differences in communication and conflict style – but what if you and someone you love just think differently? The thing is, while we may live in a world designed for neurotypical people, the world is full of people who are neurodivergent; those of us who process, learn, experience and interact with the world in ways not considered typical.
My guest on the blog today is my favorite human, Zack Skarka! After I shared my struggle with body image, I invited Zack to tell his side of the story too. If you need to share this blog with your husband, please know that I'll be praying for you! Ask God for wisdom,...
Juli takes off her "author and psychologist" hat! Hannah Nitz turns the tables on Juli and Mike to hear how they met, how they...
You learned to navigate close quarters, perfected family game night, and homeschooled your kids. As your community reopens, how do...
El estereotipo de una relación adúltera en el matrimonio ha sido típicamente la imagen de un marido infiel. El hombre tiene una aventura de una noche en un viaje de negocios o se enamora de su secretaria. Supongo que nunca se nos ocurrió...
Thanks to COVID-19, you and your spouse have likely spent a lot of time together the last five months—but that doesn't necessarily...
This morning, I met with a group of friends to encourage each other in our marriages. As we talked, one of the women described her discouragement when her husband failed to text her during the day about something that was important to her. “He knew my sister was going...
Marriage can be hard, but it doesn’t have to stop being fun! Arguments, grief, or even just the busyness of life...
We’ve written before about the growing trend of husbands who would rather play their Xbox or Nintendo Switch—or spend hours glued to ESPN, oblivious of your screaming child and leaking roof—than step into adult responsibilities. Whatever the scenario, the burden of...
Mike and I recently attended a wedding. The bride was stunning, and the groom gleamed with pride. Not a dry eye in the place. Weddings are beautiful—not just because of the music, flowers, dresses, and tuxes, but also because they represent young, unblemished love....
My husband and I are leading a Bible study with mostly newlywed couples. After a few weeks, we noticed how often we referred to the seven-year-something . . . itch? pit? slump? The other couples in the group started nervously teasing about what terrible blockade may...
When is the last time you felt disappointed by your marriage? Notice that I asked when, not if. Disappointment is a normal part of any relationship, but it hits us particularly hard in marriage. We live in a day and time when marriage is presented as an answer for...