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Your Healing Journey
#509 Workaholism And Infidelity Almost Led To Divorce, But A Miracle Saved Their Marriage
Join Juli, David and Terri, as the couple talk about how God’s intervention saved and restored their marriage.
Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal?
How do you know if your spouse is repentant after a betrayal?
Q&A: Past Sexual Trauma Inhibits My Ability to Enjoy Sex. Is There Hope That I Can Ever Heal?
When trauma is in your past, is sexual enjoyment possible?
#438: How Your Story Becomes Sacred in the Hands of Jesus
Glenn Packiam joins Juli to talk about how the biblical metaphor of ordinary table bread reveals God’s...
#416: How God Uses Heartache to Prepare You for Your True Calling
Dr. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel join Juli to share about Redeeming Heartache—a new book and tool (think Enneagram or DISC) to...
#411: The Unlikely Means God Uses To Bring Beauty From Ashes
What are the unlikely (often unwelcome) means that God uses to heal us? Join us to find out and discover the power of being fully...
#402: If God Made My Body “Good,” Why Does It Cause So Much Pain?
Juli is joined by author and apologist Sam Allberry to share how we can reconcile the goodness of our bodies (which are created by...
#398: How Trauma-Informed Care Helps Your Brain, Body & Relationships
“Trauma-informed care” is more than just a pop psychology buzzword. Join Juli and her guest to learn about the experiences that we...
#65: Why Healing Takes Time, with Francine Rivers
Juli sits down with author Francine Rivers to hear how her own story of brokenness and healing after an abortion...
#385: How To Wrestle With God Over Questions of Sex & Sexuality
Come deconstruct with us for 40 minutes or so. Yep, that's right. If we can’t ask hard questions about the...
I Was Sexually Abused. Now, God Is Restoring My Identity
How does sexual abuse impact the way we view ourselves? A sexual abuse survivor shares her journey towards healing.
#510 Influencer Anh Lin on Overcoming Trauma and Living a Beautiful Life
Accidental influencer and author of “Forever Home”, Anh Lin, shares her story of journeying through trauma and brokenness to healing.
#506 How To Make Sense Of Grief And God’s Goodness
Pastors Ed and Lisa Young of Fellowship Church join Juli for a moving, faith-filled conversation about the loss of their daughter, Lee-Beth.
#490 How Do You Go From Being Stuck in Bondage to True Freedom?
What does it really take to go from death to life? How are we truly transformed? Jonathan Daugherty joins Juli to discuss his new book.
#257: How Trauma Affects Our Bodies & Souls
Whether you’ve experienced physical or emotional trauma, it always leaves a mark. Susie Larson joins Juli to discuss the path to healing when trauma runs deep.
Why We Don’t Experience Victory
I recently spoke with a young woman who despises herself because of her continual struggle with lust and pornography. She’s tried to obey God and run away from sin only to find herself falling into it once again. I’ve met other people who feel similar discouragement...
#446: How Much More of Your Sexuality Will You Let God Reclaim in 2023?
Juli shares her thoughts on 2022, on having hard conversations about sexuality, and how to ask God to use painful...
#444: A Heart Set Free From Shame and Lies Is a Gift
Open the gift that allows you to experience real intimacy. Our long-awaited Savior came to set us free from sin and shame. Will you exchange your heart for His?
#442: How To Find Peace and Hope in the Midst of Anxiety
Linda Dillow shares about the loss of her daughter during the pandemic, how God used the message of “Calm My Anxious Heart” to...
#441: Understanding God’s Heart for Food and Freedom
Are you ready to end that toxic relationship in your life — your love-hate relationship with food? No more...
#395: How to Be Intentional to Care For Your Mental Health & Wellness
One in 3 Americans report experiencing symptoms of clinical depression. How about you? In this conversation, Dr. Juli Slattery and...
#372: How To Recognize Domestic Abuse
Wearing sunglasses on rainy days. Using turtlenecks to hide choke marks. Running. Hiding. Ramona Probasco never thought she would do...
Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 3
From Sexual Trauma to Sexual Intimacy (It Takes Two) Part 3 in this webinar series In this final conversation, Juli talks with Matt Gutbrod, a sexual abuse survivor, and his wife, Victoria, a marriage and family therapist, about how couples can practice empathy and...
Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 2
What Is Sexual Trauma & How Does It Affect You? Part 2 in this webinar series If you're in Florida, find Aline-Vanya Guillaume at TherapyTerrace.com Sexual Trauma & It's Effect On Marriage an article by Aline-Vanya Guillaume, LPSW Unwanted by Jay...
Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 1
Your Abuse Story: How To Tell, What To Tell, & Why It Matters Part 1 in this webinar series Juli Slattery and Dawn Scott Damon talk about the reasons we don't share our abuse stories. We can be accused of lying or exaggerating. We're met with silence. Our pain is...
#298: Bonus! Sexual Identity is Big, Identity As a Child of God is Bigger
In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Laurence Koo. Join them as they discuss the tension created when so much of...
#297: Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness
Many gay Christians feel they must either deny their sexual feelings in order to be accepted by God or embrace the idea that God...
#296: An Insider’s Story of Human Trafficking
Have you ever wondered why U.S. trafficking victims don’t just run? Do you feel compassion for child victims, but...
#288: Max Lucado Says #MeToo
Max Lucado has never pretended to be something he’s not. The beloved author and pastor has always been open about his struggles. But...
#283: I Was the Abuser
Are you, or someone you love, a recovering sex offender? If so, this conversation is for you. In this...
#279: Why You Feel Shame When Your Spouse Cheats
A betrayed spouse often feels as much (or more) shame as their partner. In this episode Juli welcomes Dr. Sheri...
#277: Children, Teens, and Sexual Abuse
Child sexual abuse can happen anywhere and predators are typically someone a child already trusts. If your child is...
#274: Vulnerability, Infidelity & God’s Redemption
For Jessica McDaniel, infidelity as a woman meant double the shame. In this episode, she shares the lies she believed as a teenager...
#273: Tell Someone You’re Broken
If you’re ever going to heal, you have to tell someone you’re broken. In this episode of Java with Juli, our guest shares how he...
#272: From Sexual Exploitation to Freedom (Harmony’s Story)
According to our guest, most women in the sex industry want to escape but have no other means for survival. As an abused child, rape...
#254: Sex, Race & Healing: How We’re the Same and Different
There is no magic pill to heal from traumatic sexual experiences. In this episode Juli talks with therapist Dawn Jones about why we...
#250: Healing After Abortion
It’s time to let women know there is healing after abortion. While Christians rightly proclaim the sanctity...
#169: Your Wounded Heart
It wasn’t that bad. What happened to you definitely wasn’t as bad as other abuse stories you’ve heard and read about. It’s...
How to Choose a Wise Counselor
(Presione aquí para leer en español) All your own efforts and gumption, your prayers and advice-seeking, your reading and research—you've tried it all, and still your struggle persists. You've reached it: the point at which you know you need help. You need a...
#445: Give the Gift of Seeing the Good in What You Have
Seeing the good in all things does not mean ignoring the bad. Rather, as we approach the hard things, we see the...
#353: Why Telling Your Abuse Story is Complex, Courageous & Healing
Every abuse story has unique layers of complexity and pain. The decision whether or not to tell someone else is often a difficult...
#336: Disappointed With God? Tell Him
Are you discouraged by what is happening in our world today? Have you recently found yourself asking, “Lord, why have you allowed...
#140: The Story of A Rape Survivor
One of Hettie’s greatest fears was that she would be raped. In her home country of South Africa, it is estimated...
#325: BONUS! When Sex Hurts, Pelvic Floor Therapy Can Help
Past trauma, childbirth, a physical fall—just a few of the MANY reasons you might experience painful sex or sexual dysfunction....
#324: Sex Therapy: What Is It, and Why Should You Go?
Online Christian sex therapy—yes, you read that right. Did you know that there are therapists trained specifically to address issues...
Java Pack: Conversations that Heal
This Java Pack is a Christian leader’s guide to addressing sexual pain. As Christians, we often spend a lot of time debating what we should believe about sexuality. We may devote some time to ensuring we are personally honoring God with our own sexual choices....
#311: Where Is God When We Suffer?
Sometimes life gets so hard, we doubt that Jesus is still with us. Did he abandon us? Was our faith even real in the...
Taming the Tongue on Groundhog Day
I’ve heard a lot of people comment that life right now feels like the movie “Groundhog Day”—the same thing over and over again with no end in sight. While there are blessings in having our lives slow down, there are also tensions and frustrations that overflow out of...
#40: Bonus! What Do You Fear?
The COVID-19 pandemic is pushing all of our anxiety buttons; loss of loved ones, financial loss, being stuck inside...
#306: When You Can’t Wait Another Day
What do you do when you find yourself in a situation you don't like, didn't sign up for, and can't wait to be done with? (Social...
Don’t Waste the Pain
Practically every conversation I’ve had in the last week has contained a phrase like, “These are strange times.” Strange times, indeed. Never in our lives have we walked through so much uncertainty. Our health, careers, and security all seem to be dangling on a...
Learning To Be a Promise-Breaker
Has anyone ever told you that it may be healthy to break your promises? No, I’m not talking about going back on your word or taking your wedding vows lightly. I’m referring to a different category of vows … the kind of promises that people rarely acknowledge. Our...
#291: Will You Trade Your Comfort Food for The Comforter?
Are you a sugar addict? Do you run to the pantry each afternoon to get you through your day? Do you turn to Starbucks...
#287: Does God Want Me to Have Good Self-Esteem?
How do I convince myself and everyone else that I’m worthy of being loved? That may not be what the question...
Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder
We spend a lot of time as Christ-followers talking about forgiving one another. After all, Jesus taught the importance of forgiveness, saying that our Heavenly Father will not forgive us if we fail to forgive each other. That’s pretty heavy! While forgiveness is a...
Shame Doesn’t Have the Final Word
Most women bask in the comment “You look so young!” but not Jeni. Why? Because she is young … too young to be the mom of a six-year-old girl. When Jeni goes to her daughter’s kindergarten class, she feels out of place with every other mom, many of whom are more than a...
#271: The Truth (and Lies) About Infertility
One in seven couples struggles with infertility --and it's easy to make some pretty hurtful assumptions about them...
#270: Winning the Battle in Your Mind
Sometimes the most difficult battles we face are the ones that rage within our own hearts and minds. In this episode, Juli gets...
#265: The Hard (and Hopeful) Truth About Losing a Spouse
“God created our bodies to become one in marriage in a very physical and neurological way. When that is suddenly...
#252: Finding Your Voice
Sexual abuse. Fame. Infidelity and divorce. Five-time Grammy award winner Sandi Patty has walked through them all. How has she come...
#251: Praying with Honesty and Abandon
Do you pray about your sex life? About that friend you're hoping will become more than a friend? Some of us...
#248: Gay Girl, Good God: Jackie’s Story
"If you ask him to, God will make you straight." Have you ever said this to a loved one who is struggling...
#244: Your Love-Hate Relationship with Food
Do you want out of your love-hate relationship with food? This isn't a conversation about what you should or...
#215: Miscarriage & Infertility
After years of buying baby gifts for friends, one in every eight women wonder if it will ever be her turn. Is she...
#202: Childhood Trauma and How It Impacts You
Powerful moments and memories from our childhood stick with us. They affect who we become and how we interact with others. If your...
#201: Healing From Abuse and Sexual Trafficking
Healing from abuse and sexual trafficking is difficult, but possible. In this Java with Juli, Juli talks with...
#105: Out of the Shadows
Church should be a safe place. But far too often church is an easy environment for pedophiles and abusers to ruin lives, and destroy...
#198: Sharing God’s Message for Sexuality
God redeems our sexuality and allows us to share our stories with a hurting world. In this...
Healing After #metoo
As you watch a flood of #MeToo tags come through your social media feed, what is your reaction? Maybe you feel sick to your stomach, need some time to let the grief wash over you, or experience a rush of anger. Me too. How does something that is so hidden and...
#174: Can You Walk Away from Same-Sex Attraction?
No one has lived closer to the controversy over being “ex-gay” than Anne Paulk. When her ex- husband...
#154: Healing Doesn’t Happen Overnight
Do you ever feel like you’ve been permanently marked with a Sharpie® pen? That the hurts and heartache from your past just won’t go...
#153: Discovering Who You Are
What you believe about God has a huge impact on what you believe about yourself. When you’re at the top,...
#19: What You Need to Know About Domestic Violence
Do you walk on eggshells around your husband? Are you constantly trying to be a better wife, friend, or daughter? This candid...
#44: Unbelievable Betrayal, Outrageous Restoration
This is the story of how one husband’s pornography addiction lead to a distorted perspective of sexuality. His illegal actions,...
#37: We Shouldn’t Be Friends!
Your husband cheated on you and divorced you. Then one week after the divorce is final, he marries a younger woman. The typical...
#30: Worshipping Through the Pain, Part II
Does the idea of worshipping in the midst of pain and desperation seem like a complete contradiction? Psalm 32:6 talks about how we...
#29: Worshipping Through the Pain, Part I
Does the idea of worshipping in the midst of pain and desperation seem like a complete contradiction? Psalm 32:6 talks about how we...
#6: Healing from Sexual Abuse
Have you experienced sexual abuse? Do you know someone who has? It's an issue that is incredibly difficult to talk about. Sometimes...
#63: Hope and Healing from Childhood Sexual Abuse
Statistically, one in four women have been sexually abused as a child. Often times to mask their wounds, these women...
God’s Healing Stinks
(Presione aquí para leer en español.) Have you ever had the experience of God “unfolding” the meaning of a Scripture passage in your heart? Recently, He’s been doing that in my heart with John 11. This is the account of Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead. Over the...
#514 How Deconstruction and Divorce Rocked a Young Couple’s Life
Chris and Stephanie Teague, the musical duo behind Out of the Dust, share how their marriage fell apart and how God put it back together.
#492 How Human Trafficking Causes Us to Rethink What We Believe About God
Author Charles Martin unpacks some of the realities of human trafficking, what it means to be broken, and what it takes to find freedom.
#487 How to Cling to God When Your World is Falling Apart
How do you cling to your faith in God when life gets hard? What does it look like to have an unshakeable faith? And how do you cultivate it?
#480 How to Heal and Rebuild Trust and Sexual Intimacy After An Affair
Why do people cheat? And is it possible to reconcile after you or your spouse has been unfaithful? Juli is joined by Jessica McDaniel, LPC.
Contentamiento: cómo vivir con gozo a través de los altibajos de la vida
Si todo en tu vida siguiera siendo exactamente como es en este momento, ¿crees que aún podrías ser verdadera y profundamente feliz? Como mujer soltera, esto era algo que estaba acostumbrada a preguntarme. Después de todo, el matrimonio no era una certeza. Sin...
#459 How Sexual Abuse Affects You (And Why God Is Still Trustworthy)
“What happened to me wasn’t rape.” “I didn’t stop it right away.” “I shouldn’t have been at that party in the first place.”
If you’ve ever had thoughts like these, about yourself or someone else, your definition of sexual abuse is too narrow. Join us to learn what sexual abuse is and what consent isn’t. (And, if you’ve never been a victim of sexual assault, trust us, you know someone who has. This conversation is for you, too.)
#458 Why Women Are Leaving the Church (And How To Find Your Way Back)
In the last ten years, some 16 million women have stopped going to church. Are you one of them? Join us for a conversation about why we’ve been rethinking church—and why it may be time for you to go back.
Help! I’m in a Sexless Marriage!
My husband and I haven’t had sex in two years. The drought began after I had our third child. I’ve never really enjoyed sex. I was always tired, and I just didn’t think it was worth the effort anymore. Now, we don’t even talk about it. My wife and I got married about...
#456 Overcoming Father Wounds: Trading My Pain for God’s Perfect Love
Kia Stephens knows many women (like herself) who looked to the arms of other men for the affirmation they longed to receive from their fathers. You’ll love her humor, wisdom, and vulnerability as she shares how she traded the pain of what her earthly father couldn’t give her for the perfect love of her heavenly Father.
#409: Divorce & Remarriage (Abuse, Infidelity, Porn & All the Hard Things)
God's word is clear on marriage; but some of us are a little fuzzy on the divorce and remarriage part. What exactly does "sexual...
#360: Feeling Fearful? The Right Kind of Fear Leads to Bravery
When you’re feeling fearful, the last thing you need is a social media meme telling you to “tighten your ponytail and carry on.” A...
#344: Standing Strong: Tackling Fear, Self-Doubt & Insecurity
Alli Worthington says the popular message that “you are enough” is leaving women feeling overwhelmed and...
#331: Say Goodbye to Labels
Life is tends to put labels on us. We even pin labels on ourselves. More often than not, these labels are hurtful,...
#315: Jamie Ivey Wants to Know the Real You
There are things we feel are acceptable to struggle with, and then there are those things we would never say out loud –especially...
Webinar: How Can God Be Good If…?
Our beliefs about sexuality begin and end with our beliefs about God. Is He trustworthy? Is His Word reliable? Why wouldn't a loving God embrace me just the way I am? In this webinar, Juli and Dr. Jo Vitale, a Christian apologist, talk about how acknowledging the...
#261: Bravery Means Being the Real You
You’re braver than you think. Bravery doesn’t always mean running into a burning building. For most...
Webinar: Tackling Shame
One of the most common themes in the questions we receive at Authentic Intimacy is shame. What is it? Where does it come from? How do I get rid of it? Can God really forgive every sin? If so, why do I still have so much shame? In this webinar, we address these issues...
#239: Stop Dreading Christmas
Somewhere along the line, this "most wonderful time of the year" overwhelms us, making our souls feel both...
I Don’t Trust Myself
A few days ago, I rushed to see Toni (the lady who cuts my hair) in the middle of the work day. I got there with just a few minutes to spare after getting off a conference call. Someone else was sitting in Toni’s chair. “I’ll just wait in the lobby until you’re done,”...