Your Healing Journey

Why We Don’t Experience Victory

Why We Don’t Experience Victory

I recently spoke with a young woman who despises herself because of her continual struggle with lust and pornography. She’s tried to obey God and run away from sin only to find herself falling into it once again. I’ve met other people who feel similar discouragement...

#288: Max Lucado Says #MeToo

#288: Max Lucado Says #MeToo

Max Lucado has never pretended to be something he’s not. The beloved author and pastor has always been open about his struggles. But...

#283: I Was the Abuser

#283: I Was the Abuser

Are you, or someone you love, a recovering sex offender?  If so, this conversation is for you.  In this...

#273: Tell Someone You’re Broken

#273: Tell Someone You’re Broken

If you’re ever going to heal, you have to tell someone you’re broken.  In this episode of Java with Juli, our guest shares how he...

#250: Healing After Abortion

#250: Healing After Abortion

It’s time to let women know there is healing after abortion.  While Christians rightly proclaim the sanctity...

#169: Your Wounded Heart

#169: Your Wounded Heart

It wasn’t that bad. What happened to you definitely wasn’t as bad as other abuse stories you’ve heard and read about. It’s...

How to Choose a Wise Counselor

How to Choose a Wise Counselor

(Presione aquí para leer en español)  All your own efforts and gumption, your prayers and advice-seeking, your reading and research—you've tried it all, and still your struggle persists. You've reached it: the point at which you know you need help. You need a...

Java Pack: Conversations that Heal

Java Pack: Conversations that Heal

This Java Pack is a Christian leader’s guide to addressing sexual pain. As Christians, we often spend a lot of time debating what we should believe about sexuality. We may devote some time to ensuring we are personally honoring God with our own sexual choices....

Taming the Tongue on Groundhog Day

Taming the Tongue on Groundhog Day

I’ve heard a lot of people comment that life right now feels like the movie “Groundhog Day”—the same thing over and over again with no end in sight. While there are blessings in having our lives slow down, there are also tensions and frustrations that overflow out of...

#40: Bonus! What Do You Fear?

#40: Bonus! What Do You Fear?

The COVID-19 pandemic is pushing all of our anxiety buttons; loss of loved ones, financial loss, being stuck inside...

Don’t Waste the Pain

Don’t Waste the Pain

Practically every conversation I’ve had in the last week has contained a phrase like, “These are strange times.” Strange times, indeed. Never in our lives have we walked through so much uncertainty. Our health, careers, and security all seem to be dangling on a...

Learning To Be a Promise-Breaker

Learning To Be a Promise-Breaker

Has anyone ever told you that it may be healthy to break your promises? No, I’m not talking about going back on your word or taking your wedding vows lightly. I’m referring to a different category of vows … the kind of promises that people rarely acknowledge.  Our...

Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder

Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder

We spend a lot of time as Christ-followers talking about forgiving one another.  After all, Jesus taught the importance of forgiveness, saying that our Heavenly Father will not forgive us if we fail to forgive each other. That’s pretty heavy! While forgiveness is a...

Shame Doesn’t Have the Final Word

Shame Doesn’t Have the Final Word

Most women bask in the comment “You look so young!” but not Jeni. Why? Because she is young … too young to be the mom of a six-year-old girl. When Jeni goes to her daughter’s kindergarten class, she feels out of place with every other mom, many of whom are more than a...

#252: Finding Your Voice

#252: Finding Your Voice

Sexual abuse. Fame. Infidelity and divorce. Five-time Grammy award winner Sandi Patty has walked through them all. How has she come...

#105: Out of the Shadows

#105: Out of the Shadows

Church should be a safe place. But far too often church is an easy environment for pedophiles and abusers to ruin lives, and destroy...

Healing After #metoo

Healing After #metoo

As you watch a flood of #MeToo tags come through your social media feed, what is your reaction? Maybe you feel sick to your stomach, need some time to let the grief wash over you, or experience a rush of anger. Me too. How does something that is so hidden and...

#37: We Shouldn’t Be Friends!

#37: We Shouldn’t Be Friends!

Your husband cheated on you and divorced you. Then one week after the divorce is final, he marries a younger woman. The typical...

#6: Healing from Sexual Abuse

#6: Healing from Sexual Abuse

Have you experienced sexual abuse? Do you know someone who has? It's an issue that is incredibly difficult to talk about. Sometimes...

God’s Healing Stinks

God’s Healing Stinks

(Presione aquí para leer en español.)  Have you ever had the experience of God “unfolding” the meaning of a Scripture passage in your heart? Recently, He’s been doing that in my heart with John 11. This is the account of Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead. Over the...

#459 How Sexual Abuse Affects You (And Why God Is Still Trustworthy)

#459 How Sexual Abuse Affects You (And Why God Is Still Trustworthy)

“What happened to me wasn’t rape.” “I didn’t stop it right away.” “I shouldn’t have been at that party in the first place.” 

If you’ve ever had thoughts like these, about yourself or someone else, your definition of sexual abuse is too narrow. Join us to learn what sexual abuse is and what consent isn’t. (And, if you’ve never been a victim of sexual assault, trust us, you know someone who has. This conversation is for you, too.)

Help! I’m in a Sexless Marriage!

Help! I’m in a Sexless Marriage!

My husband and I haven’t had sex in two years. The drought began after I had our third child. I’ve never really enjoyed sex. I was always tired, and I just didn’t think it was worth the effort anymore. Now, we don’t even talk about it.  My wife and I got married about...

#456 Overcoming Father Wounds: Trading My Pain for God’s Perfect Love

#456 Overcoming Father Wounds: Trading My Pain for God’s Perfect Love

Kia Stephens knows many women (like herself) who looked to the arms of other men for the affirmation they longed to receive from their fathers. You’ll love her humor, wisdom, and vulnerability as she shares how she traded the pain of what her earthly father couldn’t give her for the perfect love of her heavenly Father. 

#331: Say Goodbye to Labels

#331: Say Goodbye to Labels

Life is tends to put labels on us. We even pin labels on ourselves. More often than not, these labels are hurtful,...

Webinar: How Can God Be Good If…?

Webinar: How Can God Be Good If…?

Our beliefs about sexuality begin and end with our beliefs about God. Is He trustworthy? Is His Word reliable? Why wouldn't a loving God embrace me just the way I am? In this webinar, Juli and Dr. Jo Vitale, a Christian apologist, talk about how acknowledging the...

Webinar: Tackling Shame

Webinar: Tackling Shame

One of the most common themes in the questions we receive at Authentic Intimacy is shame. What is it? Where does it come from? How do I get rid of it? Can God really forgive every sin? If so, why do I still have so much shame? In this webinar, we address these issues...

I Don’t Trust Myself

I Don’t Trust Myself

A few days ago, I rushed to see Toni (the lady who cuts my hair) in the middle of the work day. I got there with just a few minutes to spare after getting off a conference call. Someone else was sitting in Toni’s chair. “I’ll just wait in the lobby until you’re done,”...

Pure Sadness and a Better Way Forward

Pure Sadness and a Better Way Forward

I recently read a very sad book, Pure by Linda Kay Klein. This book keeps popping up in my newsfeed which tells me that people want to talk about it. The subtitle of the book hits precisely why this book caused my heart to ache: “Inside the evangelical movement that...

#224: Sexuality & Surrender

#224: Sexuality & Surrender

Laurie daily submits her same-sex sexuality to the Lordship of Christ while married to her best friend, Matt. ...

Learning to Say “I Was Wrong”

Learning to Say “I Was Wrong”

If you are old enough to recall the sitcom Happy Days, you’ll remember “The Fonz.” Henry Winkler played the character of Arthur Fonzarelli, the coolest guy in town. The Fonz in his leather jacket and perfect hair could get all the ladies with the snap of his fingers....