Your Healing Journey

How To Rebuild Intimacy After Infidelity

Should a couple who experienced infidelity give up on sex? Or is there a way to approach sex that feels safe and honest for both parties?

Why We Don’t Experience Victory

I recently spoke with a young woman who despises herself because of her continual struggle with lust and pornography. She’s tried to obey God and run away from sin only to find herself falling into it once again. I’ve met other people who feel similar discouragement...

Bonus! #92: When the Woman You Love Was Abused

It’s been proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow us into adulthood. Memories, anxiety, and feelings of shame can leave women overwhelmed with emotions they don’t understand—and their husbands equally confused! In this episode, Juli sits down with Dawn Scott Damon, author of When a Woman You Love Was Abused, to share wisdom and insight for husbands, helping them to love their wives well through the journey of recovery and healing.

Struggling With Sexual Intimacy? You Might Need A “Sex Break”

Is it ever a good idea to take a break from having sex with your spouse? Juli explains why the answer might be yes.

#509 Workaholism And Infidelity Almost Led To Divorce, But A Miracle Saved Their Marriage

Join Juli, David and Terri, as the couple talk about how God’s intervention saved and restored their marriage.

Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal?

How do you know if your spouse is repentant after a betrayal?

Q&A: How Do I Learn to Trust My Spouse Again After an Affair?

How do you learn to trust again when your spouse has had an affair?

#442: How To Find Peace and Hope in the Midst of Anxiety

Linda Dillow shares about the loss of her daughter during the pandemic, how God used the message of “Calm My Anxious Heart” to...

#65: Why Healing Takes Time, with Francine Rivers

Juli sits down with author Francine Rivers to hear how her own story of brokenness and healing after an abortion influenced her...

#336: Disappointed With God? Tell Him

Are you discouraged by what is happening in our world today? Have you recently found yourself asking, “Lord, why have you allowed...

Transcript: #558 Christians Need To Change The Way They Talk About Married Sex

A transcript of Java with Juli #558, where Dr. Juli Slattery shared a discussion with guest Dr. Doug Rosenau.

Transcript: #557 Understanding The Harm of Purity Culture and How to Move Forward

A transcript of Java with Juli #557, where Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by guest Dr. Camden Morgante.

#538 How I Rebuilt Faith In God After Church Abuse

Ryan George shares how he disentangled the manipulation and abuse of his past from who God really is.

How To Get Past Shame From Sexual Sins

Why do we experience shame? Are there ever times when it can be a helpful feeling? Juli shares what to do when we experience shame, and how God’s word brings us hope for the future.

How To Tell if Your Spouse Is Truly Repentant

After a betrayal, how can you know if your spouse is truly repentant? Juli unpacks a recent conversation with Jeremy Smith, LPC, as he shares what to look for.

#526 How God Heals Us From Past Abuse and Trauma

Jennifer Michelle Greenberg shares her journey of healing and processing after decades long abuse at the hands of her father.

#521 How to Know if Your Marriage can Recover from Betrayal

Jeremy Smith, LPC discusses how he is helping couples heal their marriages and achieve deep, lasting change as individuals and together.

#510 Influencer Anh Lin on Overcoming Trauma and Living a Beautiful Life

Accidental influencer and author of “Forever Home”, Anh Lin, shares her story of journeying through trauma and brokenness to healing.

#506 How To Make Sense Of Grief And God’s Goodness

Pastors Ed and Lisa Young of Fellowship Church join Juli for a moving, faith-filled conversation about the loss of their daughter, Lee-Beth.

#490 How Do You Go From Being Stuck in Bondage to True Freedom?

What does it really take to go from death to life? How are we truly transformed? Jonathan Daugherty joins Juli to discuss his new book.

#446: How Much More of Your Sexuality Will You Let God Reclaim in 2023?

Juli shares her thoughts on 2022, on having hard conversations about sexuality, and how to ask God to use painful circumstances to...

#445: Give the Gift of Seeing the Good in What You Have

Seeing the good in all things does not mean ignoring the bad. Rather, as we approach the hard things, we see the goodness of...

#438: How Your Story Becomes Sacred in the Hands of Jesus

Glenn Packiam joins Juli to talk about how the biblical metaphor of ordinary table bread reveals God’s extraordinary story of...

#411: The Unlikely Means God Uses To Bring Beauty From Ashes

What are the unlikely (often unwelcome) means that God uses to heal us? Join us to find out and discover the power of being fully...

#402: If God Made My Body “Good,” Why Does It Cause So Much Pain?

Juli is joined by author and apologist Sam Allberry to share how we can reconcile the goodness of our bodies (which are created by...

#398: How Trauma-Informed Care Helps Your Brain, Body & Relationships

“Trauma-informed care” is more than just a pop psychology buzzword. Join Juli and her guest to learn about the experiences that we...

#395: How to Be Intentional to Care For Your Mental Health & Wellness

One in 3 Americans report experiencing symptoms of clinical depression. How about you? In this conversation, Dr. Juli Slattery and...

Don’t Waste the Pain

Practically every conversation I’ve had in the last week has contained a phrase like, “These are strange times.” Strange times, indeed. Never in our lives have we walked through so much uncertainty. Our health, careers, and security all seem to be dangling on a...

#283: I Was the Abuser

Are you, or someone you love, a recovering sex offender? If so, this conversation is for you. In this episode, Juli sits...

Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder

We spend a lot of time as Christ-followers talking about forgiving one another. After all, Jesus taught the importance of forgiveness, saying that our Heavenly Father will not forgive us if we fail to forgive each other. That’s pretty heavy! While forgiveness is a...

#250: Healing After Abortion

It’s time to let women know there is healing after abortion. While Christians rightly proclaim the sanctity of life, we...

#198: Sharing God’s Message for Sexuality

God redeems our sexuality and allows us to share our stories with a hurting world. In this episode, Juli talks with Sanj Kalra and...

How to Choose a Wise Counselor

(Presione aquí para leer en español) All your own efforts and gumption, your prayers and advice-seeking, your reading and research—you've tried it all, and still your struggle persists. You've reached it: the point at which you know you need help. You need a...

#136: How We Overcame an Affair: A Conversation with Jill and Mark Savage

"Every question Jill would ask, I tried to answer. My posture was: I will answer any question without defense. I will tell you...

#99: Living With Crisis Pregnancy Choices

The decision to have an abortion may seem like a quick fix, but the repercussions remain with a woman for the rest of her life....

#558 Christians Need To Change The Way They Talk About Married Sex

Juli shares a conversation she had with the late Dr. Doug Rosenau talking about the beauty of sex in marriage.

#557 Understanding The Harm of Purity Culture and How to Move Forward

Dr. Camden Morgante breaks down purity culture myths, and shares how churches can embrace a more appropriate way of talking about sexuality.

¿Es necesario el perdón para la sanidad?

¿Qué dice la Biblia sobre el perdón y nuestro bienestar?

#248 Gay Girl, Good God: Jackie Hill Perry’s Story

Jackie Hill Perry shares how God drew her to Himself and brought her out of a lesbian lifestyle.

Q&A: Will I ever be able to heal from sexual trauma?

Is the fight to heal from sexual trauma as hopeless as it often feels?

I Was Sexually Abused. Now, God Is Restoring My Identity

How does sexual abuse impact the way we view ourselves? A sexual abuse survivor shares her journey towards healing.

#497 Trying to Heal? Here’s Why Knowing Your Story is Essential

Join Juli and Hannah as they revisit some common themes, topics and questions from this year’s most insightful Java with Juli episodes.

#257: How Trauma Affects Our Bodies & Souls

Whether you’ve experienced physical or emotional trauma, it always leaves a mark. Susie Larson joins Juli to discuss the path to healing when trauma runs deep.

Q&A: Past Sexual Trauma Inhibits My Ability to Enjoy Sex. Is There Hope That I Can Ever Heal?

When trauma is in your past, is sexual enjoyment possible?

#459 How Sexual Abuse Affects You (And Why God Is Still Trustworthy)

“What happened to me wasn’t rape.” “I didn’t stop it right away.” “I shouldn’t have been at that party in the first place.”

If you’ve ever had thoughts like these, about yourself or someone else, your definition of sexual abuse is too narrow. Join us to learn what sexual abuse is and what consent isn’t. (And, if you’ve never been a victim of sexual assault, trust us, you know someone who has. This conversation is for you, too.)

Help! I’m in a Sexless Marriage!

My husband and I haven’t had sex in two years. The drought began after I had our third child. I’ve never really enjoyed sex. I was always tired, and I just didn’t think it was worth the effort anymore. Now, we don’t even talk about it. My wife and I got married about...

#456 Overcoming Father Wounds: Trading My Pain for God’s Perfect Love

Kia Stephens knows many women (like herself) who looked to the arms of other men for the affirmation they longed to receive from their fathers. You’ll love her humor, wisdom, and vulnerability as she shares how she traded the pain of what her earthly father couldn’t give her for the perfect love of her heavenly Father.

#444: A Heart Set Free From Shame and Lies Is a Gift

Open the gift that allows you to experience real intimacy. Our long-awaited Savior came to set us free from sin and shame. Will you exchange your heart for His?

#416: How God Uses Heartache to Prepare You for Your True Calling

Dr. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel join Juli to share about Redeeming Heartache—a new book and tool (think Enneagram or DISC) to...

#385: How To Wrestle With God Over Questions of Sex & Sexuality

Come deconstruct with us for 40 minutes or so. Yep, that's right. If we can’t ask hard questions about the principles...

#372: How To Recognize Domestic Abuse

Wearing sunglasses on rainy days. Using turtlenecks to hide choke marks. Running. Hiding. Ramona Probasco never thought she would do...

Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 3

From Sexual Trauma to Sexual Intimacy (It Takes Two) Part 3 in this webinar series In this final conversation, Juli talks with Matt Gutbrod, a sexual abuse survivor, and his wife, Victoria, a marriage and family therapist, about how couples can practice empathy and...

Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 2

What Is Sexual Trauma & How Does It Affect You? Part 2 in this webinar series If you're in Florida, find Aline-Vanya Guillaume at TherapyTerrace.com Sexual Trauma & It's Effect On Marriage an article by Aline-Vanya Guillaume, LPSW Unwanted by Jay...

Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 1

Your Abuse Story: How To Tell, What To Tell, & Why It Matters Part 1 in this webinar series Juli Slattery and Dawn Scott Damon talk about the reasons we don't share our abuse stories. We can be accused of lying or exaggerating. We're met with silence. Our pain is...

#344: Standing Strong: Tackling Fear, Self-Doubt & Insecurity

Alli Worthington says the popular message that “you are enough” is leaving women feeling overwhelmed and burnt out. As a...

#140: The Story of A Rape Survivor

One of Hettie’s greatest fears was that she would be raped. In her home country of South Africa, it is estimated that over 30%...

#325: BONUS! When Sex Hurts, Pelvic Floor Therapy Can Help

Past trauma, childbirth, a physical fall—just a few of the MANY reasons you might experience painful sex or sexual dysfunction....

#324: Sex Therapy: What Is It, and Why Should You Go?

Online Christian sex therapy—yes, you read that right. Did you know that there are therapists trained specifically to address issues...

Java Pack: Conversations that Heal

This Java Pack is a Christian leader’s guide to addressing sexual pain. As Christians, we often spend a lot of time debating what we should believe about sexuality. We may devote some time to ensuring we are personally honoring God with our own sexual choices....

Webinar: How Can God Be Good If…?

Our beliefs about sexuality begin and end with our beliefs about God. Is He trustworthy? Is His Word reliable? Why wouldn't a loving God embrace me just the way I am? In this webinar, Juli and Dr. Jo Vitale, a Christian apologist, talk about how acknowledging the...

#40: Bonus! What Do You Fear?

The COVID-19 pandemic is pushing all of our anxiety buttons; loss of loved ones, financial loss, being stuck inside with people who...

#306: When You Can’t Wait Another Day

What do you do when you find yourself in a situation you don't like, didn't sign up for, and can't wait to be done with? (Social...

#298: Bonus! Sexual Identity is Big, Identity As a Child of God is Bigger

In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Laurence Koo. Join them as they discuss the tension created when so much of...

#296: An Insider’s Story of Human Trafficking

Have you ever wondered why U.S. trafficking victims don’t just run? Do you feel compassion for child victims, but not so much...

#291: Will You Trade Your Comfort Food for The Comforter?

Are you a sugar addict? Do you run to the pantry each afternoon to get you through your day? Do you turn to Starbucks for a little...

#288: Max Lucado Says #MeToo

Max Lucado has never pretended to be something he’s not. The beloved author and pastor has always been open about his struggles. But...

#279: Why You Feel Shame When Your Spouse Cheats

A betrayed spouse often feels as much (or more) shame as their partner. In this episode Juli welcomes Dr. Sheri Keffer,...

#277: Children, Teens, and Sexual Abuse

Child sexual abuse can happen anywhere and predators are typically someone a child already trusts. If your child is abused, what is...

Shame Doesn’t Have the Final Word

Most women bask in the comment “You look so young!” but not Jeni. Why? Because she is young … too young to be the mom of a six-year-old girl. When Jeni goes to her daughter’s kindergarten class, she feels out of place with every other mom, many of whom are more than a...

#274: Vulnerability, Infidelity & God’s Redemption

For Jessica McDaniel, infidelity as a woman meant double the shame. In this episode, she shares the lies she believed as a teenager...

#273: Tell Someone You’re Broken

If you’re ever going to heal, you have to tell someone you’re broken. In this episode of Java with Juli, our guest shares how he...

#272: From Sexual Exploitation to Freedom (Harmony’s Story)

According to our guest, most women in the sex industry want to escape but have no other means for survival. As an abused child, rape...

#271: The Truth (and Lies) About Infertility

One in seven couples struggles with infertility --and it's easy to make some pretty hurtful assumptions about them if...

#265: The Hard (and Hopeful) Truth About Losing a Spouse

“God created our bodies to become one in marriage in a very physical and neurological way. When that is suddenly ripped apart,...

#254: Sex, Race & Healing: How We’re the Same and Different

There is no magic pill to heal from traumatic sexual experiences. In this episode Juli talks with therapist Dawn Jones about why we...

Webinar: Tackling Shame

One of the most common themes in the questions we receive at Authentic Intimacy is shame. What is it? Where does it come from? How do I get rid of it? Can God really forgive every sin? If so, why do I still have so much shame? In this webinar, we address these issues...

#252: Finding Your Voice

Sexual abuse. Fame. Infidelity and divorce. Five-time Grammy award winner Sandi Patty has walked through them all. How has she come...

#251: Praying with Honesty and Abandon

Do you pray about your sex life? About that friend you're hoping will become more than a friend? Some of us surrender to God...

Pure Sadness and a Better Way Forward

I recently read a very sad book, Pure by Linda Kay Klein. This book keeps popping up in my newsfeed which tells me that people want to talk about it. The subtitle of the book hits precisely why this book caused my heart to ache: “Inside the evangelical movement that...

#224: Sexuality & Surrender

Laurie daily submits her same-sex sexuality to the Lordship of Christ while married to her best friend, Matt. Matt daily...

#215: Miscarriage & Infertility

After years of buying baby gifts for friends, one in every eight women wonder if it will ever be her turn. Is she one of your...

#202: Childhood Trauma and How It Impacts You

Powerful moments and memories from our childhood stick with us. They affect who we become and how we interact with others. If your...

#201: Healing From Abuse and Sexual Trafficking

Healing from abuse and sexual trafficking is difficult, but possible. In this Java with Juli, Juli talks with Jessa and John...

#105: Out of the Shadows

Church should be a safe place. But far too often church is an easy environment for pedophiles and abusers to ruin lives, and destroy...

God’s Healing Stinks

(Presione aquí para leer en español.) Have you ever had the experience of God “unfolding” the meaning of a Scripture passage in your heart? Recently, He’s been doing that in my heart with John 11. This is the account of Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead. Over the...

Q&A: How do I start to heal after my spouse’s affair?

How do you heal after the betrayal of a spouse?

#539 The Impact Of Shame And How To Overcome It

Curt Thompson, MD, author of “The Soul of Shame”, joins Juli to explain what shame is, why we experience it, and what to do with it.

#514 How Deconstruction and Divorce Rocked a Young Couple’s Life

Chris and Stephanie Teague, the musical duo behind Out of the Dust, share how their marriage fell apart and how God put it back together.

#492 How Human Trafficking Causes Us to Rethink What We Believe About God

Author Charles Martin unpacks some of the realities of human trafficking, what it means to be broken, and what it takes to find freedom.

#458 Why Women Are Leaving the Church (And How To Find Your Way Back)

In the last ten years, some 16 million women have stopped going to church. Are you one of them? Join us for a conversation about why we’ve been rethinking church—and why it may be time for you to go back.

#441: Understanding God’s Heart for Food and Freedom

Are you ready to end that toxic relationship in your life — your love-hate relationship with food? No more regret, frustration...

#353: Why Telling Your Abuse Story is Complex, Courageous & Healing

Every abuse story has unique layers of complexity and pain. The decision whether or not to tell someone else is often a difficult...

#331: Say Goodbye to Labels

Life is tends to put labels on us. We even pin labels on ourselves. More often than not, these labels are hurtful, superficial, and...

#311: Where Is God When We Suffer?

Sometimes life gets so hard, we doubt that Jesus is still with us. Did he abandon us? Was our faith even real in the first place?...

Taming the Tongue on Groundhog Day

I’ve heard a lot of people comment that life right now feels like the movie “Groundhog Day”—the same thing over and over again with no end in sight. While there are blessings in having our lives slow down, there are also tensions and frustrations that overflow out of...

Learning To Be a Promise-Breaker

Has anyone ever told you that it may be healthy to break your promises? No, I’m not talking about going back on your word or taking your wedding vows lightly. I’m referring to a different category of vows … the kind of promises that people rarely acknowledge. Our...

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