There is little anyone can do to help with the grief of a miscarriage, but if you or someone you...
Your Healing Journey
#110: How to Find Your Identity in Jesus
On this episode of Java with Juli, Dr. Juli Slattery is joined by Yvette Maher and author Heather Holleman. They candidly discuss...
#112: When Life Doesn’t Turn Out the Way You’ve Planned
Shana Miller got married for the first time when she was 46 years old. In this conversation with Juli, Shana shares how she...
#487 How to Cling to God When Your World is Falling Apart
How do you cling to your faith in God when life gets hard? What does it look like to have an unshakeable faith? And how do you cultivate it?
Why You Still Need Boundaries As You Pursue Sexual Integrity
While we do need to reject the legalism of purity culture, Juli explains that boundaries still help us embrace godliness with our sexuality.
#480 How to Heal and Rebuild Trust and Sexual Intimacy After An Affair
Why do people cheat? And is it possible to reconcile after you or your spouse has been unfaithful? Juli is joined by Jessica McDaniel, LPC.
Contentment: How to Live Joyfully Through the Ups and Downs of Life
If everything in your life were to remain exactly the way it is in this current moment, do you think you could still be truly, deeply happy? As a single woman, this was something I was used to asking myself. After all, marriage was not a certainty. What surprised me...
#459 How Sexual Abuse Affects You (And Why God Is Still Trustworthy)
“What happened to me wasn’t rape.” “I didn’t stop it right away.” “I shouldn’t have been at that party in the first place.”
If you’ve ever had thoughts like these, about yourself or someone else, your definition of sexual abuse is too narrow. Join us to learn what sexual abuse is and what consent isn’t. (And, if you’ve never been a victim of sexual assault, trust us, you know someone who has. This conversation is for you, too.)
#458 Why Women Are Leaving the Church (And How To Find Your Way Back)
In the last ten years, some 16 million women have stopped going to church. Are you one of them? Join us for a conversation about why we’ve been rethinking church—and why it may be time for you to go back.
#456 Overcoming Father Wounds: Trading My Pain for God’s Perfect Love
Kia Stephens knows many women (like herself) who looked to the arms of other men for the affirmation they longed to receive from their fathers. You’ll love her humor, wisdom, and vulnerability as she shares how she traded the pain of what her earthly father couldn’t give her for the perfect love of her heavenly Father.
La sanidad de Dios apesta
¿Alguna vez has tenido una experiencia en la que Dios ha “revelado” el significado de un pasaje de las Escrituras en tu corazón? Recientemente, Él ha estado haciendo eso en mi corazón con Juan 11. Este es el relato de cuando Jesús resucitó a Lázaro de entre los...
Webinar: Surprised by the Healer
You may have heard Juli say, "We are all sexually broken." So how do we get "fixed?" Pursuing healing may involve counseling, God's Word, and having trustworthy friends around you, but ultimate healing comes when we encounter the Healer Himself. Join Dr. Juli Slattery...
#168: Do You Believe Everything Is A Gift?
Hannah Nitz was able to sit down with two women who have influenced her since she was 12- Noelle Beck & Juli...
Webinar: How To Grow Closer To God
We make resolutions all the time--we're going to be stronger, healthier, wiser, more intentional, etc. But, do you think about making resolutions that grow your spiritual life? In this webinar, Linda Dillow teaches how you can grow closer to God. Linda shares from her...
#142: How To Find Peace In Forgiveness
Popular author Anne Lamott wrote that, “Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to...
#138: My Long Journey of Healing from Childhood Abuse
Bev was an active wife and mom. She was even the women’s ministry leader at her church. And then, the memories started to come back....
#136: How We Overcame an Affair: A Conversation with Jill and Mark Savage
"Every question Jill would ask, I tried to answer. My posture was: I will answer any question without defense. I...
#135: My Heart Is Still at Home: A Conversation with Jill Savage About Confronting Infidelity
As a role model and encourager to thousands of wives and moms, Hearts at Home founder Jill Savage was shocked and heartbroken to...
#42: Healing From Trauma
Too often, children are exposed to horrific events that their minds just can’t comprehend or process. Later in life those...
#83: When God Gets Hold Of You, Part II
You’ve been diagnosed with a fatal disease, your personal and professional life is in shambles, and you’ve been arrested and charged...
#82: When God Gets Hold Of You, Part I
Dr. Juli Slattery has a brutally honest conversation with Christopher Yuan, the son of Chinese immigrants, who discovered at an...
#8: Some Things Are Too Big to Forgive
Are some things beyond forgiveness? Life hands us some really hard things; things that we think...
Why Your Story Matters
Have you ever wondered if your life matters? Out of all of the people on the planet, why is your life unique? From the time of my childhood, I’ve heard that I was made “in the image of God.” This one truth sets all humanity apart from every other created being. As...
Encountering the Radical Love of Jesus
Through our work at Authentic Intimacy, Linda Dillow and I have met hundreds of women on a healing journey. Some are dealing with sexual trauma, others infidelity and betrayal, and still others can’t shake the shame from their past. We have witnessed the power of our...
Why We Must Be Surprised by the Healer
This month I gave birth to my eighth book. Actually, it was a “co-labor” with my dear friend and mentor, Linda Dillow. When I use the word “labor,” I mean it. This book, Surprised by the Healer, was probably the most difficult that either of us has ever written....
3 Razones por las que puedo correr a Dios con mi quebrantamiento sexual
Mi invitada en el blog esta semana es Julia Mitchell. Julia es la Coordinadora de Participación de Usuarios y Miembros para Authentic Intimacy. Para mí, esta pregunta es donde todo comienza: ¿Puedo realmente confiarle a Dios todo, incluyendo mi sexualidad? Todavía me...
Cómo elegir un consejero sabio
Después de todos tus propios esfuerzos y tus agallas, tus oraciones y búsqueda de consejos, tus lecturas e investigaciones te das cuenta de que lo has intentado todo y aún persistes en tu lucha. Llegaste a ese punto en el que sabes que necesitas...
Relational Revelation
As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to healing. Those who study theology and teach the Bible often emphasize the importance of God’s Word and prayer. Christians in the therapy...
#282: How Shame Impacts Us
Shame is becoming popular… in a good way. More than ever, both Christian and secular voices are calling out the messages that...
#195: Finding Your Confidence
Who do you think you are? Do you think you’re brave? Do you think you’re creative? “I love to encourage other women to stop...
Webinar: When You Feel Like Quitting
For many of us, the small sentence "I feel like quitting" can jump into our minds often. When we are in the middle of a hard season, tough situation, or even just a long day, life can feel too heavy. Can you relate to wanting to quit when it comes to your marriage...
#146: All You Need Is Jesus! …And Your Therapist
When the words “Christian” and “counseling” are mentioned in the same sentence, there’s no shortage of opinions about whether or not...
#129: How You Can Choose Contentment Every Day
Women are worriers. We worry about things that will happen. We worry about things that won’t happen. We see it as...
#107: Surprised By The Healer
Listen to the founders of Authentic Intimacy, Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow talk about a book they co-authored, Surprised by...
#99: Living With Crisis Pregnancy Choices
The decision to have an abortion may seem like a quick fix, but the repercussions remain with a woman for the rest of her life....
#87: Uncovering Hidden Anger
Is anger a sin or is it a normal healthy emotion? When you get angry, how do you handle the issue at hand? Join Dr. Juli Slattery...
#73: When Life Becomes Undone
Have you ever felt as though you’ve gotten “the short end of the stick?" Has there been loss, sickness, tragedy or injustice in your...
Lady Gaga and Jesus the Healer
It is not often that I find myself in agreement with Lady Gaga and the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences, but last night was an exception. In a dramatic presentation, Lady Gaga performed Till it Happens To You as dozens of male and female victims of sexual...
How Do I Know If I’m in an Abusive Relationship?
On the surface, they looked like a perfect Christian couple. Always together, with his arm around her waist. Her friends would admit to feeling a bit jealous. Abby never goes anywhere without Jake; he’s so attentive. I can barely get my husband to notice that I’m in...
“God Doesn’t Care” and 3 Other Lies You Might Believe About Sex
I’ll never be able to kick porn for good! I hate sex. I’ll never be able to enjoy it with my husband. I’m damaged beyond repair. I can’t have a great sex life if I don’t have a beautiful body. Have thoughts like these ever crossed your mind? If so, where do you think...
3 Reasons I Can Run To God With My Sexual Brokenness
This question is where it all begins for me: Can I really trust God with everything, including my sexuality? (Presione aquí para leer en español) I still picture myself in my room that night, tossing and turning, overwhelmed by the anguish in my soul. Gripping the...
Q&A: Is it appropriate to share about past affairs with my adult kids?
In this week's video, Juli shares three considerations when prayerfully deciding whether to share about past affairs with adult children. "I had affairs early in our marriage which my husband knows about from my confession and repentance years ago. We've needed to...
Can Shame Ever Be a Good Thing?
“Shame on you!” If you grew up in my generation, this is a sentence you probably heard as a child. You were told that you should be ashamed of the way you treated your sister, for stealing that candy bar, or for talking back. These are also words that I’ve probably...
How to Suffer Well Through Sickness
*Trigger warning, mention of assault and trauma. This past spring, I spent 30 nights alone in the hospital without my loving husband by my side. One night, as I laid in my hospital bed, I thought back on the decision I made to marry him. Little did I know how my...
Q&A: Where do I begin healing?
This question comes from a reader: "I’m in a place where God is restoring parts of my life that had been broken, so I can see His true design for these areas—including what’s happened to me in sexual abuse. What is the first step I can take with the Lord to help me...
Why Is Healing So Hard?
Tina and I met together for counseling several years ago to work through some traumatic experiences from her past. A year after our work together was done, Tina came in for a “check up.” She shared with me that within that year, she had undergone surgery, radiation,...
Remembering Your Way Out of Discouragement
Have you ever faced a difficult season only to have friends tell you to trust in God? While you know their advice is right, it doesn’t seem very practical. What does it actually look like to trust in God through trials and discouragement? David faced almost every...
Q&A: Was it my fault?
Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question: "How do I heal from an experience that wasn't quite rape? Initially I said no, but then I gave in and did it anyway (and I enjoyed parts of it). I feel awful. Do I ask for forgiveness knowing parts of this was unwanted, but also...
#145: How to Find Hope When Christmas Hurts
For some, this Christmas is anything but merry. Empty chairs where a loved one once sat, the loss of a job and no presents under the...
#143: Courage to Confront: What You Can Learn From the Mennonite Faith
"Man looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart." How true we find this scripture to be when we honestly consider...
#139: Why Your Story Matters
Did you know you have a story to share? Your story may be one of incredible redemption. Or it...
I Despise Neediness in Myself
This guest post by Mary DeMuth first appeared here. This is one of those posts I am starting that I don’t know how it will end. During this time of COVID, racial tension, and employment worries, I (like you) have had some space to observe my life. And...
The Challenge of Grace
We spend a lot of time as Christ-followers talking about forgiving one another. After all, Jesus taught the importance of forgiveness, saying that our Heavenly Father will not forgive us if we fail to forgive each other. That’s pretty heavy! While forgiveness is a...