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#308: Maintaining Your Smartphone Sanity

Who wants to pay $100 a month to have door-slamming, ruin-the-family-dinner arguments with your teen like clockwork? No one. But...

#307: On the Brink of Divorce

Susan Cox sat in church, a hotel room key in her purse, and an ongoing affair pushing her to leave her marriage for good. She was...

#301: Staying Connected With the Next Generation

When you hear "generational gap," do you think: about your mother, who can't understand your parenting...

#300: Christians Struggle with Sexual Addiction Too

Did you know that 68% of Christian men struggle with unwanted sexual behavior? That 25% of Christian women use sex to hide a deeper...

#298: Bonus! Sexual Identity is Big, Identity As a Child of God is Bigger

In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Laurence Koo. Join them as they discuss the tension created when so much of...

#297: Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness

Many gay Christians feel they must either deny their sexual feelings in order to be accepted by God or embrace the idea that God...

#296: An Insider’s Story of Human Trafficking

Have you ever wondered why U.S. trafficking victims don’t just run? Do you feel compassion for child victims, but...

#295: We All “Desconstruct,” It’s Reconstructing that Matters

Questions about sexuality, sexual abuse, and gender have sent a new wave of “deconstructing” throughout the...

#294: When You Want Sex, But Your Spouse Doesn’t

In every marriage, there is typically one partner with a higher sexual drive. And that person is usually trying to convince the...

#289: How to Choose Unity (Even When You Disagree)

Juli and her guests discuss their reactions to John MacArthur's recent comments about women teaching the Bible. Join us for a...

#288: Max Lucado Says #MeToo

Max Lucado has never pretended to be something he’s not. The beloved author and pastor has always been open about his struggles. But...

#285: Loving Without Compromise

Yes, you can love a gay or lesbian friend without trying to change them. Sadly, many in the LGBT+ community feel shamed by...

#283: I Was the Abuser

Are you, or someone you love, a recovering sex offender? If so, this conversation is for you. In this...

#279: Why You Feel Shame When Your Spouse Cheats

A betrayed spouse often feels as much (or more) shame as their partner. In this episode Juli welcomes Dr. Sheri...

#277: Children, Teens, and Sexual Abuse

Child sexual abuse can happen anywhere and predators are typically someone a child already trusts. If your child is...

#276: Parenthood, Exhaustion & Avoiding Sex

She's a busy and tired mama. He's stressed to the max with work and family. Can't they just put sex and...

#275: Finding Freedom from Unwanted Desires

Overwhelmingly, the response to unwanted sexual desires has been to manage them. Bounce your eyes. Get accountability....

#274: Vulnerability, Infidelity & God’s Redemption

For Jessica McDaniel, infidelity as a woman meant double the shame. In this episode, she shares the lies she believed as a teenager...

#273: Tell Someone You’re Broken

If you’re ever going to heal, you have to tell someone you’re broken. In this episode of Java with Juli, our guest shares how he...

#272: From Sexual Exploitation to Freedom (Harmony’s Story)

According to our guest, most women in the sex industry want to escape but have no other means for survival. As an abused child, rape...

#268: BONUS! When God “Wakes Up” Your Love Life

Did you know that an intimate relationship with the Lord can lead to a more intimate relationship with your husband? In this BONUS...

#159: When Your Child Struggles With Gender

If your child is making choices you don’t agree with, this episode is for you! Juli sits down with a mother who recognized her...

#259: Our Marriage Survived Painful Sex

Jennifer went to her doctor to get help for the excruciating pain she felt during sex. She left with a clean bill of...

#258: Your Questions About Pornography

Can I ever trust him again? How do we rebuild sexual intimacy together? Should you even date a guy who struggles with porn? Dr....

#254: Sex, Race & Healing: How We’re the Same and Different

There is no magic pill to heal from traumatic sexual experiences. In this episode Juli talks with therapist Dawn Jones about why we...

#250: Healing After Abortion

It’s time to let women know there is healing after abortion. While Christians rightly proclaim the sanctity...

#247: Healthy Conversations With Kids About Sex

Julie Lyles Carr has parented eight children over the last 25 years. We think she might have a thing or two to teach us about...

#169: Your Wounded Heart

It wasn’t that bad. What happened to you definitely wasn’t as bad as other abuse stories you’ve heard and read about. It’s...

#33: What’s It Like to Be Married to Me?

Have you ever asked yourself, What's it like to be married to me? What's it like to make love with me? Why do I want to stay mad? ...

#240: Birth Control & Family Planning

Is it okay to use birth control? Can the pill cause an early abortion? Juli and her guest discuss the ethical issues that surround...

#237: BONUS! Reconstructing Intimacy After Breast Cancer

"I never imagined there would be a point in my life when a piece of me would have to be reconstructed. That at age...

#234: We Can Do THAT in the Bedroom?

What's OK in the bedroom? Juli, Linda & Yvette tackle one of our most popular questions in this episode of Java...

#232: When Sexual Abuse Happens At Church

When sexual abuse happens in the church our leaders are (historically) more likely to defend the powerful than to...

#203: Navigating Different Views on Sexuality

Do you know what you believe about sexuality? Can you talk about sexuality with other Christians who believe something different?...

#12: Loving Your Husband As You Age

The challenges of married life change as we grow older, and very few people talk about them. That's why Dr. Juli Slattery invited...

#516 Don’t Skip Foreplay! (and Other Advice from a Christian Sex Therapist)

Christian sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps married couples overcome common obstacles faced when building a thriving, holy sex life.

#515 Is Attraction Sinful? Unpacking Attachment, Safety, Love and Desire

Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation all about attraction and desire.

#363: Why Are Christians Afraid Of the LGBT+ Conversation?

Rachel Gilson discusses why it’s more important than ever to maintain a high view of scripture and know what the Bible says about our sexuality.

#386: What’s the Secret To Getting the Marriage & Intimacy You Want? Go Vertical

Guests Dave and Ann Wilson join Juli in this special bonus episode as they share how God transformed their marriage from the top down.

#388 Single & Sexually Whole

The late Dr. Doug Rosenau joins Juli to discuss the difference between erotic and social sexuality, and why we need to rethink desire.

#483 Why You Need a New Theology of Singleness, Even if You’re Married

Join Juli and guest Dr. Danielle Treweek as we kick off week two of our 7-week series exploring various themes around God, sex and intimacy.

#469 Porn, Rape Culture, and Why The Battle Against Sexual Assault Starts at Home

Did you know that on average, each year, around 463,634 Americans are victims of sexual assault? That’s a heartbreaking statistic, and it reveals a very real source of pain and trauma in contemporary American culture. What causes people to commit sexual assault? Is there a way to stop it? Dr. John Foubert joins Juli to discuss some of the reasons these numbers are so high, and what can and needs to be done to prevent sexual assault from happening.

#466 Enough is Enough: Recognizing and Combating Abusive Relationships

Is there a difference between a bad relationship and a harmful one? How can you spot the difference, both in your own relationships and those of your friends and family?

Join Juli and Dr. David Clarke as they discuss how to recognize abuse patterns of behavior, how to set boundaries, and when necessary, how to get out and create safety elsewhere.

#464 Why We Need to Remember The Dignity of Singleness

Is it possible your view of singleness and marriage is less than Holy? Is it possible to find contentment, not in whether we are single or married, but in Jesus Himself? Juli and Sam Allberry discuss the dignity of singleness, finding contentment in Christ, and the key to true friendship.

#462 Beautiful Union: How Our Sexuality Reveals God’s Heart for Covenant Love

What if sex and gender are not as arbitrary as many people tend to think? Is it possible that God has woven holy significance into our very DNA as gendered, sexual beings? In this episode, Juli sits down with author Joshua Butler to talk about his book, “Beautiful Union”, and the ways we can see God’s gospel message evidenced in everything from the beauty of a sunset to our own sexuality.

#452 Porn Addiction in Marriage: How to Let God Redeem Your Story

When it comes to porn, the gender gap is closing. Meet two women who know that overcoming a pornography addiction or sexual shame is not about changing your behavior but about allowing Jesus to transform your identity. One is the Samaritan women who met Jesus at the well and the other is Jessica Harris, Juli’s guest on “Java with Juli.”

#451 Porn Addiction and Women: Break the Silence, Bring the Hope

When it comes to porn, the gender gap is closing. Meet two women who know that overcoming a pornography addiction or sexual shame is not about changing your behavior but about allowing Jesus to transform your identity. One is the Samaritan women who met Jesus at the well and the other is Jessica Harris, Juli’s guest on “Java with Juli.”

#445: Give the Gift of Seeing the Good in What You Have

Seeing the good in all things does not mean ignoring the bad. Rather, as we approach the hard things, we see the...

#439: Pelvic Floor Health 101 (It’s About More Than Just Sex)

Nearly 3 out of 4 women experience pain during or after sex. If that's you, we have good news: a pelvic floor therapist can help....

#431: Bonus! Getting to Know God Through (Simply) Your Bible

Do we rely too much on others to read our Bibles for us? If the idea of reading your Bible on your own—just you and Jesus—makes you...

#427: Proverbs 31 Is a Picture of Intimacy, Not a To-do List

Could it be that Proverbs 31 isn't just for married women? In its original language, this 22-line Hebrew poem is a picture of the...

#214: Answers To Your Questions About Sex, with Dr. Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow

Is it “dirty” to dress up for your husband in the bedroom? Is it wrong to masturbate if your husband can’t have sex? What if your...

#412: Is There a Better Way To Read the Bible?

Juli shares one of her favorite new podcasts—the BEMA Discipleship Podcast. The Old Testament writers weren't just telling stories,...

#391: Make Your Relationship Better With a Few Intentional Habits

Relationships naturally find ruts. With our natural bent toward self-love, we easily get stuck focusing on our own needs or...

#389: Thinking About Becoming a Blended Family?

Blended family couples have honeymoon phases too!—they just usually come a little later. Even the strongest couples will face...

#381: “Show It Off” or “Cover It Up”: Messages That Shape Our Body Image

What messages have you been told about your body and your sexuality? At the coffee shop with Juli are two...

#380: How To Have Honest Conversations With Your Kids About Sex

How do you create an environment in your home where your kids feel OK talking about sex? When they struggle, how do you protect...

#36: What Kind of Love Are You Making?

If there is one place in the Bible that gives women permission to have fun, to explore and to enjoy sexual pleasure, it’s the poetic...

#371: Schedule Sex and Dry Cleaning In the Same Conversation? It Works

Being intentional about the business of marriage builds intimacy. When couples make decisions together, their emotions and buy-in...

#370: Why the Single Life Is Uniquely Meaningful and Totally Ordinary

Do you feel stuck somewhere between "not married" and "not called to singleness"? Truth be told, few single Christians feel called...

#369: Changing the Way We Talk About Porn (Because Women Struggle Too)

“I had one woman say, ‘I struggle with masturbation.’ And she just started crying. And then she said, ‘I’ve never said that word...

#368: Aging Bodies Can Still Enjoy Sexuality. Are You Giving Up Too Soon?

There's ED (erectile dysfunction), PE (premature...

#95: The Dating Manifesto

Do you struggle with being single? Maybe you've been rethinking that 21-point list of "non-negotiable" qualities you need in a...

#366: No More Pushing Past the Pain! God Cares About Your Sexual Pleasure

What do you do when sex hurts? Do you white-knuckle your way through it, because you think you...

#362: How To Become a Better “Better Half” with Jamie Ivey

A complement, according to Webster, is “something that fills up, completes, or makes better or perfect.”...

#359: How To Help Women Speak Out Against Sexual Harassment

Tiffany Bluhm wishes this wasn’t her story to tell. Like most victims or bystanders of sexual harassment, she had everything to lose...

#358: Sexuality, Spirituality, and Why We Settle For Counterfeit Intimacy

Have you ever turned to Netflix instead of pursuing sex with your spouse? Have you turned to Instagram instead ending your day by...

#357: Emotional Safety: What It Is and Why You Need It

What is emotional safety? Look at it this way: an emotionally unsafe relationship is a place where you can’t be yourself. You’re...

#356: Sex & the City of God (What Life Looks Like When We Love God First)

That longing you have to be fully known? God put it there. It’s meant to draw you into intimacy with Him....

#353: Why Telling Your Abuse Story is Complex, Courageous & Healing

Every abuse story has unique layers of complexity and pain. The decision whether or not to tell someone else is often a difficult...

#350: Making Time To Make Love (Especially When You Don’t Feel Like It)

It's hard to prioritize sexual intimacy when you don't understand why God created sex in the first place. Instead, you put up walls...

#345: What You Need to Know About Progressive Christianity

Compassionate. Inclusive. Nonjudgmental. Who wouldn’t want to be part of a church like this? It’s why...

#341: When Staying Married Feels Impossible

Circumstances in Laurie’s life started triggering her memories of childhood sexual abuse. Her lifelong struggle...

#338: Single and Sexual

As a single person, your sexuality isn’t defined by a list of “do's and don’ts” or captured by simplistic questions like, “What does...

#337: Questions You’re Too Embarrassed to Ask About Sex

Dr. Doug Rosenau, a pioneer in Christian sex therapy, has been answering questions about sex for decades—long...

#336: Disappointed With God? Tell Him

Are you discouraged by what is happening in our world today? Have you recently found yourself asking, “Lord, why have you allowed...

#335: Teaching Our Kids a Biblical Worldview of Sexuality

We used to say, "If you don’t talk to your kids about sex, someone else will." These days, there is no more “if” about it! Whether...

#334: What Your Pastor Needs to Know About Porn

In this episode, Juli sits down with Mark & Rosie Makinney to debunk misconceptions about pornography and marriage --many of...

#140: The Story of A Rape Survivor

One of Hettie’s greatest fears was that she would be raped. In her home country of South Africa, it is estimated...

#333: Is God Good …Even if You’re LGBT?

“We are being shaped by a culture that idolizes romantic and sexual fulfillment. And I just think—Jesus was...

#332: Parenting Your Kids Without Shame

In parenting, shame is unavoidable. As a mom or dad, at times you'll likely feel ashamed of how you’re doing as a parent or of how...

#295: We All “Deconstruct,” It’s Reconstructing that Matters

Questions about sexuality, sexual abuse, and gender have sent a new wave of “deconstructing” throughout the Christian...

#325: BONUS! When Sex Hurts, Pelvic Floor Therapy Can Help

Past trauma, childbirth, a physical fall—just a few of the MANY reasons you might experience painful sex or sexual dysfunction....

#324: Sex Therapy: What Is It, and Why Should You Go?

Online Christian sex therapy—yes, you read that right. Did you know that there are therapists trained specifically to address issues...

#322: The Secret Superpower of Kindness

Think about your toughest relationship: The wife who only ever seems to offer you the cold shoulder. The husband you’re finding it...

#321: Taking Your Marriage Back From Porn

One of the most painful experiences as a wife is learning of your husband’s porn addiction—or learning that...

Java Pack: Learning to Trust

In this Java Pack, you will hear inspiring stories from women who walked with God even when their greatest fears came true; practical ways to redirect your thoughts from worry or anxiety to contentment and gratitude; and how to walk by faith—even when it feels like you’re groping for answers in the dark. The goal is not to become worry-free. The goal is that we learn how to trust Him.

#318: Why Are We Afraid to Touch?

Let’s face it: As Christians, we’re kind of afraid to touch. Touch feels unsafe and sexual—even...

Java Pack: Conversations that Heal

This Java Pack is a Christian leader’s guide to addressing sexual pain. As Christians, we often spend a lot of time debating what we should believe about sexuality. We may devote some time to ensuring we are personally honoring God with our own sexual choices....

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