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“Is Masturbation a Sin?” You May Be Asking the Wrong Question

(Presione aquí para leer en español.) Whenever I speak to a group of people about sexuality, I try to include time for an anonymous Q&A session. No matter who is listening, young or old, male or female, married or single, I am sure to be asked about masturbation: Is it wrong? What does the Bible say about it? Many Christians have spoken and written on the topic, some of th...

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Q&A: Juli, What Is the Most Important Thing You've Learned Since Founding Authentic Intimacy?

This question comes from a reader: "Juli, what is the most important thing you've learned since founding Authentic Intimacy?"

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Why Age Doesn’t Always Lead to Wisdom

With each birthday celebration, I have friends and relatives who console each other by saying something like, “At least we are getting wiser!” There is an old adage that with age comes wisdom. Without a doubt, the longer we live on the planet, the more we have seen and experienced. It’s tempting to look at younger generations with a knowing smile that says, “You’re...

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Q&A: How Do I Avoid Oversharing About Sexual Struggles?

This question comes from a husband: "I’ve struggled greatly with porn throughout my life and now I have a passion to warn and protect my children. However, my wife is concerned I will overshare, while she struggles with under-sharing and frequently resists these awkward and difficult conversations. What advice would you have for navigating this as a couple and as parents?"

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As Christians, How Do We Respond to Abuse Allegations in the Church?

No, Lord, not another one! My stomach feels sick every time I see the headline of a Christian leader accused of sexual misconduct. Over the years some of you have reached out to ask me what I think about high profile accusations of Christian leaders. You’ve wondered why I don’t write a timely blog or talk about specific situations on our podcast. I’d like to share my heart...

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Q&A: After Emotional Abuse in Marriage, Can Sex Play a Role in Our Healing As a Couple?

This question comes from a wife: "My husband and I have been working through the emotional abuse and are really establishing some good patterns in our marriage right now. Can our sex life play a role in our healing?"

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Experience Freedom From Shame

I’ll never forget how I felt the first time I looked into the mirror after being date raped in college. I stood there naked, alone, and ashamed. I began to question God and His love for me. Soon after this moment, I cried out to God in a journal entry. I wrote, God do you care? God were you there? Were you there when her world fell apart? When he took her identity? When he took her...

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Q&A: How Do I Help My Family Heal From The Effects of My Porn Use?

Jonathan Daugherty from Be Broken Ministries answers this question for us: "Normally, 'What would Jesus do?' is the right question, but how do I help my wife and children heal from the pain I’ve inflicted as a husband and father from viewing pornography is something Jesus never did?"

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Relational Revelation

As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to healing. Those who study theology and teach the Bible often emphasize the importance of God’s Word and prayer. Christians in the therapy world call out the importance of scientific approaches like the need to reprocess trauma or understand the impact of f...

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Q&A: If My Husband Is In the Mood, But I Am Not, Should I Take Care of His Needs Anyway?

This week's question is an important one for married couples: " What do you do when your husband is in the mood for sex, but you can’t fulfill his needs because there are a thousand things on your mind? Do you just give into his request even though you are not doing it from the heart?"

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