Lina Abujamra discusses external and internal challenges and the truths we all wrestle with as we pursue God’s design for sexuality.
Single & Sexually Whole
#519 Why we Need to be Better at Caring for Divorced People in the Church
Laura Petherbridge shares her experience as a divorcee and explains how to walk in love and empathy to those who have experienced divorce.
Webinar Series: Sex & the Single Christian, Pt 2
How To Ditch the Counterfeits & Find True Intimacy Part 2 in this webinar series Therapist and life coach Dawn Jones is back to tell us the truth about counterfeit intimacy and how to recover from trauma like porn, abuse, and even your "friends" on social media....
#429: How To Find Love When Dating Has Changed with Jonathan Pokluda
Is the way you approach dating actually sabotaging your chances for a healthy marriage? From “just coffee” to...
#393: Practical Wisdom for Dating & Friendship
Can we get practical about dating? Juli and author Eric Demeter put aside the Christian dating subculture and get super...
#529 Modern Dating: How To Do It Well
Kait and JJ Tomlin from Heart of Dating join Juli to help singles navigate the ups and downs of modern dating.
#518 Single Sexuality and the Unique Challenges of Widowhood
Dr. Carol Tanksley delves into the complexities faced by widows and sheds light on the emotional and psychological hurdles they face.
#515 Is Attraction Sinful? Unpacking Attachment, Safety, Love and Desire
Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation all about attraction and desire.
How can you Know if You’re Ready for Marriage?
Are you as ready as you think you are for marriage?
How The American Church Reinforces Isolation and Why That Needs to Change
What if one of the most important things about church is not what happens at meetings but what happens between them?
What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires?
“What do I do with my sexual desire?” I’ve heard this question from men and women of every age, from those who have never married and from those who find themselves “single again.” I have also heard this question from married people who, for one reason or another, do...
Q&A: How Can I Steward My Sexuality as a Single?
How do you steward your sexuality as a single person?
Webinar Series: Sex & the Single Christian, Pt 1
What Kind Of a Gift Is Sexuality if I Can't Have Sex? Part 1 in this webinar series A fan-favorite "Java with Juli" guest, The Boundless Show's Lisa Anderson, steps in as co-host to help Juli unpack why your sexuality doesn't have an on/off switch called "marriage."...
#428: Don’t Say That to Your Single Friends (Say This Instead)
It happens. Despite good intentions, perhaps without realizing it, you say something careless to a single friend. You've got time....
#415: How To Encourage and Celebrate the Single Mom in Your Life
God's promise of provision for the single mom is also a call to body of Christ. In this episode, Michelle Donnelly...
#349: Bonus! You CAN Find Love Online. We’ll Help You Look
“I love online dating,” said no one ever. But if 1 in 5 committed relationships today began online, is it worth a try? In this...
#323: Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships
Was Jesus a bit aloof with Martha and Mary because He didn’t want them to think there was, you know,...
#297: Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness
Laurence Koo, guest speaker at our upcoming Reclaim Conference, shares what freedom looks like when you experience same-sex attraction.
#517 How to Beat Loneliness and Cultivate Deeper Friendships
Jeff Kemp joins Juli to talk about what we need to do to cultivate deep, long-lasting, and life-altering friendships.
#388 Single & Sexually Whole
The late Dr. Doug Rosenau joins Juli to discuss the difference between erotic and social sexuality, and why we need to rethink desire.
#483 Why You Need a New Theology of Singleness, Even if You’re Married
Join Juli and guest Dr. Danielle Treweek as we kick off week two of our 7-week series exploring various themes around God, sex and intimacy.
#464 Why We Need to Remember The Dignity of Singleness
Is it possible your view of singleness and marriage is less than Holy? Is it possible to find contentment, not in whether we are single or married, but in Jesus Himself? Juli and Sam Allberry discuss the dignity of singleness, finding contentment in Christ, and the key to true friendship.
How Do I Know He’s “The One”?
Q: Is there one person I'm meant to marry, or should I just choose a good man? A: This question isn't simply a contemplative exercise; it impacts how you approach dating and marriage. However, I think it is the wrong question to be asking. The question of "Is there...
Are You a Good Friend? 7 Keys to Building Healthy Friendship
Several months ago, a friend invited me to coffee. After catching up on kids and ministry, I noticed her countenance shift. She obviously was struggling to share something difficult with me. After a few deep breaths, my friend explained how several years ago I had...
#370: Why the Single Life Is Uniquely Meaningful and Totally Ordinary
Do you feel stuck somewhere between "not married" and "not called to singleness"? Truth be told, few single Christians feel called...
#95: The Dating Manifesto
Do you struggle with being single? Maybe you've been rethinking that 21-point list of "non-negotiable" qualities you need in a...
#338: Single and Sexual
As a single person, your sexuality isn’t defined by a list of “do's and don’ts” or captured by simplistic questions like, “What does...
#290: True Friendship, or merely Friend-ish?
A sweet friendship refreshes the soul –and it’s better to have a friend nearby than a relative far away...
What’s the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really?
(Presione aquí para leer en español). If someone asks you, “What are your thoughts on cohabitation?” or “Do you believe God is ok with gay marriage?” how would you respond? To answer those questions, you will (without even realizing it) tap into your underlying...
#269: Loving Jesus in the Season You’re In
No matter what season of life you’re in, the object is the same: love Jesus and become more like Him. Are you single and wondering...
I’m Single & Have No Sexual Desire
“I don’t feel sexual desire toward my boyfriend/fiancé. Should I stay single?” Let me introduce you to three different women who have asked me this question for very different reasons: Chelsey has been dating Drew for two years. They have a deep affection for each...
#152: How to Talk to the Opposite Sex
How you relate to others as a single person now matters to your future marriage. Whether it’s friendships, dating online or...
#64: Online Dating: True Love or False Intimacy?
This is a candid coffee shop conversation with two single women who’ve “been there, done that” when it comes to the online dating...
Q&A: Is it okay to not get married?
Do we have to get married?
Q&A: What am I Supposed to do With my Sexuality as a Single Christian?
What does God’s design for sexuality look like when you’re single?
Q&A: What Is the Purpose of My Sexuality as a Single?
Is there still a purpose for your sexuality if you’re a single person?
Contentamiento: cómo vivir con gozo a través de los altibajos de la vida
Si todo en tu vida siguiera siendo exactamente como es en este momento, ¿crees que aún podrías ser verdadera y profundamente feliz? Como mujer soltera, esto era algo que estaba acostumbrada a preguntarme. Después de todo, el matrimonio no era una certeza. Sin...
#476 When God Ran: How God’s Love Found a Woman Lost In Shame
What does it look and feel like to live in the tension of the weakness of your flesh when you have lengthy and ongoing struggles?
Q&A: Is God Okay With Me Having Sex With Someone I Love Even If We Are Not Married?
What God think about sex outside of marriage?
#450 Breaking the Marriage Idol
We’re just gonna to say it. There’s an unspoken assumption in the Church that if you’re single there must something wrong with you—and that marriage can fix it. Are you guilty of having this thought? Join the conversation about how we’ve idolized marriage and how we can do better.
JWJ Listening Guide: Single & Sexual
Did you know that single people are sexual? That your sexuality has nothing to do with whether or not you are having sex? As ridiculous as it sounds, many Christians grow up thinking that they will magically become sexual when they get married. In this Java Pack, Dr. Juli Slattery and her guests discuss how to embrace your sexuality, even as a single Christian committed to saving sex for marriage, and what your sexuality can teach you about yourself and about God. They’ll also dive into details on dating, friendships, community, and the Church.
#225: How To Find the Right Guy
There is no magic formula to find a great husband, but there are decisions you can make today that will help you...
#212: Female Friendships Are Complicated
Has a friend ever told you she needs a break from you? Do you make friends fast and lose them quickly? It’s no secret that women...
Webinar: Sex & the Single Girl
The average single Christian has received very little teaching on the purpose of sexuality, and a simple "Just wait until you're married" approach won't cut it. Christian singles need to be equipped with a biblical worldview of sexuality and practical tools for...
#67: Thinking About Remarriage?
Most people never plan on marrying twice, but many of us will. No matter how you got here, the decision to remarry can...
#171: Dating in 2017
Fifty years ago, the original Dating Game featured a single young woman who got to choose between three eligible bachelors. Not...
#62: The Friendships of Women
Everyone needs a “BFF” (or “best friend forever”) who they can confide in, but cultivating and maintaining a close relationship...
#57: Picking A Spouse
If you’re single there are many things to consider before taking the leap into marriage. Anyone can get married, but are you focused...
#50: Body Obsession: What Defines You?
Who feeds your soul and your mind when it comes to your body image? There are so many young girls and women who don't measure up to...
Coming to Terms with Sexual Desire as a Single Woman
“Just wait for marriage,” so I’ve been told. So I’ve waited . . . and waited. And as I’ve waited, I’ve begun to wonder, If marriage doesn’t come, what am I waiting for? I remember the True Love Waits talks in middle and high school. The message was that sex was bad...
Q&A: Can a single person be truly happy?
Does being single mean being unhappy?
Q&A: I’m same-sex attracted, am I just supposed to suppress my sexuality?
Does following God mean we have to suppress our sexuality?
¿Qué hago con mis deseos sexuales?
“¿Qué hago con mis deseos sexuales?” He escuchado esta pregunta por parte de hombres y de mujeres, por parte de personas que nunca han estado casadas y por parte de personas que ahora son “solteros de nuevo.” También he escuchado esta pregunta por parte de personas...
#170: Single Ladies, This One’s For You
How much should I share with my boyfriend about my sexual past? Is masturbating a sin? How much can we do before...
#160: Why God Created You To Be Sexual
Most of us don’t ever wonder about the purpose of sex. It’s something we desire, something we do, and for some of us, something we...
#86: Sexuality and the Single Woman
Christians (when they talk about it) only discuss sex when it pertains to marriage, but what about the sexuality of singles? Just...
#45: Where’s My Prince Charming
So many Christian women “do all the right things”. They save their virginity for their wedding night, read the Word and attend...
¿Qué hace que una relación sea íntima?
¿Qué hace que una relación sea íntima? Hace unos años, estaba hablando en un campus universitario sobre el diseño de Dios para la sexualidad. Durante un descanso, una joven se me acercó con una pregunta. “Dijiste que Dios me creó para la intimidad. ¿No es la intimidad...
What Defines an Intimate Relationship?
A few years ago, I was speaking at a college campus about God’s design for sexuality. During a break, a young woman approached me with a question, “You said that God created me for intimacy. Isn’t intimacy the same thing as having sex?” (Presione aquí para leer en...
Honestamente, ¿cuál es el propósito de tu sexualidad?
Si alguien te pregunta, “¿Cuál es tu opinión en cuanto a vivir con tu pareja sin estar casados?” o “¿Crees que Dios está de acuerdo con el matrimonio gay?” ¿Cómo responderías? Para responder estas preguntas, vas a terminar (sin siquiera darte cuenta) yendo a tus...
Límites sexuales en la soltería
Cuando las mujeres abordan temas de sexualidad, las preguntas más comunes usualmente tienen que ver con cuáles cosas está bien que una mujer cristiana interactúe y con cuáles no. Quieren saber cuáles son los límites....
Soltería y sexualidad
¿Sabías que las mujeres solteras son sexuales? ¿Que tu sexualidad no tiene nada que ver con tener sexo o no? Por ridículo que parezca, muchos cristianos crecen pensando que mágicamente se volverán seres sexuales cuando se casen. Los solteros son seres sexuales creados...
You Can Be Single & Sexual
(Presione aquí para leer en español) Did you know that single women are sexual? That your sexuality has nothing to do with whether or not you are having sex? As ridiculous as it sounds, many Christians grow up thinking that they will magically become sexual when they...
Sexual Boundaries for Singles
When women ask their honest questions about sexuality, the most common ones typically relate to whether certain things are right or wrong for Christian women to engage in. They want to know where the boundaries lie. (Presione aquí para leer en español). Is...
#49: The Myth of the “Test Drive”
What does domestic violence, poverty for women, and a lack of relationship commitment have in common? Would you believe...
#144: What Do You Really Believe About Being Single?
If you’re looking for “3 Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life” you won’t hear them on this episode of Java with Juli. Sadly, many...
#104: The Myth of Safe Sex
Are you gambling against your life on the myth of “safe sex”? Dr. Juli Slattery has a conversation with an...
Six Red Flags You Can’t Ignore in Dating
Are you dating someone and wondering if the red flags you see are reason enough to break up with him or her? Do your friends and family have concerns about the relationship? If you feel in your heart that something is just not right, don’t ignore it. It might be the...
Should You Tell Your Partner About Your Sexual Past?
Women often ask me about how much of your past is healthy to share in intimate relationships. How much does a potential husband need to know about your sexual experiences and struggles? How much should he tell you? This is one of those issues that relationship coaches...