The late Dr. Doug Rosenau joins Juli to discuss the difference between erotic and social sexuality, and why we need to rethink desire.
Single & Sexually Whole
Q&A: What Is the Purpose of My Sexuality as a Single?
Is there still a purpose for your sexuality if you’re a single person?
#483 Why You Need a New Theology of Singleness, Even if You’re Married
Join Juli and guest Dr. Danielle Treweek as we kick off week two of our 7-week series exploring various themes around God, sex and intimacy.
Contentamiento: cómo vivir con gozo a través de los altibajos de la vida
Si todo en tu vida siguiera siendo exactamente como es en este momento, ¿crees que aún podrías ser verdadera y profundamente feliz? Como mujer soltera, esto era algo que estaba acostumbrada a preguntarme. Después de todo, el matrimonio no era una certeza. Sin...
#476 When God Ran: How God’s Love Found a Woman Lost In Shame
What does it look and feel like to live in the tension of the weakness of your flesh when you have lengthy and ongoing struggles?
Q&A: Is God Okay With Me Having Sex With Someone I Love Even If We Are Not Married?
What God think about sex outside of marriage?
#464 Why We Need to Remember The Dignity of Singleness
Is it possible your view of singleness and marriage is less than Holy? Is it possible to find contentment, not in whether we are single or married, but in Jesus Himself? Juli and Sam Allberry discuss the dignity of singleness, finding contentment in Christ, and the key to true friendship.
What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires?
“What do I do with my sexual desire?” I’ve heard this question from men and women of every age, from those who have never married and from those who find themselves “single again.” I have also heard this question from married people who, for one reason or another, do...
¿Qué hace que una relación sea íntima?
¿Qué hace que una relación sea íntima? Hace unos años, estaba hablando en un campus universitario sobre el diseño de Dios para la sexualidad. Durante un descanso, una joven se me acercó con una pregunta. “Dijiste que Dios me creó para la intimidad. ¿No es la intimidad...
What Defines an Intimate Relationship?
A few years ago, I was speaking at a college campus about God’s design for sexuality. During a break, a young woman approached me with a question, “You said that God created me for intimacy. Isn’t intimacy the same thing as having sex?” (Presione aquí para leer en...
#450 Breaking the Marriage Idol
We’re just gonna to say it. There’s an unspoken assumption in the Church that if you’re single there must something wrong with you—and that marriage can fix it. Are you guilty of having this thought? Join the conversation about how we’ve idolized marriage and how we can do better.
Q&A: How Can I Steward My Sexuality as a Single?
How do you steward your sexuality as a single person?
How Do I Know He’s “The One”?
Q: Is there one person I'm meant to marry, or should I just choose a good man? A: This question isn't simply a contemplative exercise; it impacts how you approach dating and marriage. However, I think it is the wrong question to be asking. The question of "Is there...
Q&A: How do I keep my desire to be loved and embrace my sexuality in a healthy way?
Juli answers this question:
How do I keep my desire to be loved and embrace my sexuality in a healthy way?
Webinar Series: Sex & the Single Christian, Pt 1
What Kind Of a Gift Is Sexuality if I Can't Have Sex? Part 1 in this webinar series A fan-favorite "Java with Juli" guest, The Boundless Show's Lisa Anderson, steps in as co-host to help Juli unpack why your sexuality doesn't have an on/off switch called "marriage."...
Webinar Series: Sex & the Single Christian, Pt 2
How To Ditch the Counterfeits & Find True Intimacy Part 2 in this webinar series Therapist and life coach Dawn Jones is back to tell us the truth about counterfeit intimacy and how to recover from trauma like porn, abuse, and even your "friends" on social media....
#429: How To Find Love When Dating Has Changed with Jonathan Pokluda
Is the way you approach dating actually sabotaging your chances for a healthy marriage? From “just coffee” to...
#428: Don’t Say That to Your Single Friends (Say This Instead)
It happens. Despite good intentions, perhaps without realizing it, you say something careless to a single friend. You've got time....
Q&A: Do patterns of sexual sin in dating mean we should take a break?
How do you break patterns of sexual sin in dating without taking a break from the relationship? In this video, Juli answers the question with a question—(Don't you just love it when she does that!?)—and the answer may reveal an issue that runs much deeper than sexual...
Are You a Good Friend? 7 Keys to Building Healthy Friendship
Several months ago, a friend invited me to coffee. After catching up on kids and ministry, I noticed her countenance shift. She obviously was struggling to share something difficult with me. After a few deep breaths, my friend explained how several years ago I had...
Q&A: Great guy. No sexual chemistry. Should I marry him anyway?
Hi Juli, I’ve dated a great man for almost a year. Some days I think attraction is not super important, but other days I look at his photo and think, “I don't want him to touch my body.” Should I marry this wonderful man because the journey of sexual intimacy is going...
Q&A: What if I’m not sexually compatible with the person I want to marry?
"What if we're not sexually compatible?" In this video, Juli shares everything you need to know about sexual incompatibility—including how it can make you a better lover. Looking for more? Check out these resources: Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers...
#415: How To Encourage and Celebrate the Single Mom in Your Life
God's promise of provision for the single mom is also a call to body of Christ. In this episode, Michelle Donnelly...
Q&A: Are singles missing out on a full understanding of God’s covenantal love?
"Do those with same-sex desires, or those who are single, have a disadvantage in understanding God’s covenant love? How can we view sex as a helpful experience to point to God’s love when not everyone gets to understand it?" We often hear that marriage is a picture of...
#393: Practical Wisdom for Dating & Friendship
Can we get practical about dating? Juli and author Eric Demeter put aside the Christian dating subculture and get super...
Q&A: Help! What can I do about unwanted sexual desire that still persists?
"I've prayed and prayed for God to take away unwanted sexual desires, and they still persist. I'm starting to feel like giving up. Do you have any advice or encouragement?" Juli answers today's question by sharing 3 suggestions for those who continue to struggle with...
Q&A: As a Christian single, do I have to “embrace” my sexuality or can I just let it be?
Our world is inundated with sexual messages, and as a single, it can be particularly difficult to know how to respond in a way that honors God and allows us to live contentedly in our current season. Today Juli answers a question from a listener who is wondering how...
Honestamente, ¿cuál es el propósito de tu sexualidad?
Si alguien te pregunta, “¿Cuál es tu opinión en cuanto a vivir con tu pareja sin estar casados?” o “¿Crees que Dios está de acuerdo con el matrimonio gay?” ¿Cómo responderías? Para responder estas preguntas, vas a terminar (sin siquiera darte cuenta) yendo a tus...
Q&A: How do I keep my opposite-sex friendships and still honor a new dating relationship?
I am in a relationship with a great guy, and I also have some meaningful friendships with other Christian men. How do I honor both kinds of relationships as they coexist? What does this look like in the context of dating? In marriage? Opposite-sex friendships are...
¿Qué hago con mis deseos sexuales?
“¿Qué hago con mis deseos sexuales?” He escuchado esta pregunta por parte de hombres y de mujeres, por parte de personas que nunca han estado casadas y por parte de personas que ahora son “solteros de nuevo.” También he escuchado esta pregunta por parte de personas...
Six Red Flags You Can’t Ignore in Dating
Are you dating someone and wondering if the red flags you see are reason enough to break up with him or her? Do your friends and family have concerns about the relationship? If you feel in your heart that something is just not right, don’t ignore it. It might be the...
Límites sexuales en la soltería
Cuando las mujeres abordan temas de sexualidad, las preguntas más comunes usualmente tienen que ver con cuáles cosas está bien que una mujer cristiana interactúe y con cuáles no. Quieren saber cuáles son los límites....
Q&A: How do I avoid “playing marriage” while dating?
In a dating relationship, how soon is too soon… . . . to share your past? . . . to pray alone together? . . . to share your hopes or fears? With so many ways to connect, emotional intimacy in dating can easily outpace commitment. In this video, Juli shares a few...
#370: Why the Single Life Is Uniquely Meaningful and Totally Ordinary
Do you feel stuck somewhere between "not married" and "not called to singleness"? Truth be told, few single Christians feel called...
Q&A: My friend is afraid to date because she has an STD. How do I encourage her?
"I have a friend who contracted an STD (herpes). She is in her 30s and wants to get married but is afraid to look for a mate because of her STD. What encouragement or advice can I share with her?" In this video, Dr. Jennifer Degler fills in for Juli and shares three...
#95: The Dating Manifesto
Do you struggle with being single? Maybe you've been rethinking that 21-point list of "non-negotiable" qualities you need in a...
Q&A: How do I help a friend who constantly looks to men for affirmation?
As humans, we naturally seek affirmation from others. In this Q&A video, Juli helps us think through how things get lopsided when we begin to believe that how we look or what we have to offer sexually are the only things that make us valuable or worthy of love....
#349: Bonus! You CAN Find Love Online. We’ll Help You Look
“I love online dating,” said no one ever. But if 1 in 5 committed relationships today began online, is it worth a try? In this...
Q&A: How do we bond in a dating relationship without having sex?
Juli tackles two similar questions around intimacy and dating:
“How do I have a healthy intimacy within my dating relationships?”
“How do we bond in a dating relationship without having sex?”
Soltería y sexualidad
¿Sabías que las mujeres solteras son sexuales? ¿Que tu sexualidad no tiene nada que ver con tener sexo o no? Por ridículo que parezca, muchos cristianos crecen pensando que mágicamente se volverán seres sexuales cuando se casen. Los solteros son seres sexuales creados...
Q&A: I’m single and in my late 40s—do I still have to save sex for marriage?
This important question comes from a reader:
“I’m single and in my late 40s—do I still have to save sex for marriage?”
#338: Single and Sexual
As a single person, your sexuality isn’t defined by a list of “do's and don’ts” or captured by simplistic questions like, “What does...
#323: Getting Over Our Fear of Opposite-Sex Friendships
Was Jesus a bit aloof with Martha and Mary because He didn’t want them to think there was, you know,...
Java Pack: Single & Sexual
Did you know that single people are sexual? That your sexuality has nothing to do with whether or not you are having sex? As ridiculous as it sounds, many Christians grow up thinking that they will magically become sexual when they get married. In this Java Pack, Dr. Juli Slattery and her guests discuss how to embrace your sexuality, even as a single Christian committed to saving sex for marriage, and what your sexuality can teach you about yourself and about God. They’ll also dive into details on dating, friendships, community, and the Church.
Q&A: I’m a single woman saving sex for marriage. How do I find a guy willing to wait?
Q&A: How can I bond with my boyfriend without having sex?
Juli answers the question:
“How do I have healthy intimacy in a dating relationship? How do we bond without having sex?”
Q&A: Why should my friend stop having sex when they know they’re going to get married?
In this video, Juli tackles the question: "I have a friend who is in a long-term sexual relationship with her boyfriend. When we talked about it, she asked me why she should withhold sex now when they have already done it and know they are going to get married. How do...
#290: True Friendship, or merely Friend-ish?
A sweet friendship refreshes the soul –and it’s better to have a friend nearby than a relative far away...
What’s the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really?
(Presione aquí para leer en español). If someone asks you, “What are your thoughts on cohabitation?” or “Do you believe God is ok with gay marriage?” how would you respond? To answer those questions, you will (without even realizing it) tap into your underlying...
#269: Loving Jesus in the Season You’re In
No matter what season of life you’re in, the object is the same: love Jesus and become more like Him. Are you single and wondering...
#225: How To Find the Right Guy
There is no magic formula to find a great husband, but there are decisions you can make today that will help you...
#212: Female Friendships Are Complicated
Has a friend ever told you she needs a break from you? Do you make friends fast and lose them quickly? It’s no secret that women...
I’m Single & Have No Sexual Desire
“I don’t feel sexual desire toward my boyfriend/fiancé. Should I stay single?” Let me introduce you to three different women who have asked me this question for very different reasons: Chelsey has been dating Drew for two years. They have a deep affection for each...
Webinar: Sex & the Single Girl
The average single Christian has received very little teaching on the purpose of sexuality, and a simple "Just wait until you're married" approach won't cut it. Christian singles need to be equipped with a biblical worldview of sexuality and practical tools for...
You Can Be Single & Sexual
(Presione aquí para leer en español) Did you know that single women are sexual? That your sexuality has nothing to do with whether or not you are having sex? As ridiculous as it sounds, many Christians grow up thinking that they will magically become sexual when they...
#67: Thinking About Remarriage?
Most people never plan on marrying twice, but many of us will. No matter how you got here, the decision to remarry can...
#171: Dating in 2017
Fifty years ago, the original Dating Game featured a single young woman who got to choose between three eligible bachelors. Not...
#170: Single Ladies, This One’s For You
How much should I share with my boyfriend about my sexual past? Is masturbating a sin? How much can we do before...
Sexual Boundaries for Singles
When women ask their honest questions about sexuality, the most common ones typically relate to whether certain things are right or wrong for Christian women to engage in. They want to know where the boundaries lie. (Presione aquí para leer en español). Is...
#160: Why God Created You To Be Sexual
Most of us don’t ever wonder about the purpose of sex. It’s something we desire, something we do, and for some of us, something we...
#152: How to Talk to the Opposite Sex
How you relate to others as a single person now matters to your future marriage. Whether it’s friendships, dating online or...
#49: The Myth of the “Test Drive”
What does domestic violence, poverty for women, and a lack of relationship commitment have in common? Would you believe...
#144: What Do You Really Believe About Being Single?
If you’re looking for “3 Steps to Finding the Love of Your Life” you won’t hear them on this episode of Java with Juli. Sadly, many...
#104: The Myth of Safe Sex
Are you gambling against your life on the myth of “safe sex”? Dr. Juli Slattery has a conversation with an...
#86: Sexuality and the Single Woman
Christians (when they talk about it) only discuss sex when it pertains to marriage, but what about the sexuality of singles? Just...
#64: Online Dating: True Love or False Intimacy?
This is a candid coffee shop conversation with two single women who’ve “been there, done that” when it comes to the online dating...
#62: The Friendships of Women
Everyone needs a “BFF” (or “best friend forever”) who they can confide in, but cultivating and maintaining a close relationship...
#57: Picking A Spouse
If you’re single there are many things to consider before taking the leap into marriage. Anyone can get married, but are you focused...
#50: Body Obsession: What Defines You?
Who feeds your soul and your mind when it comes to your body image? There are so many young girls and women who don't measure up to...
#45: Where’s My Prince Charming
So many Christian women “do all the right things”. They save their virginity for their wedding night, read the Word and attend...
Should You Tell Your Partner About Your Sexual Past?
Women often ask me about how much of your past is healthy to share in intimate relationships. How much does a potential husband need to know about your sexual experiences and struggles? How much should he tell you? This is one of those issues that relationship coaches...
Coming to Terms with Sexual Desire as a Single Woman
“Just wait for marriage,” so I’ve been told. So I’ve waited . . . and waited. And as I’ve waited, I’ve begun to wonder, If marriage doesn’t come, what am I waiting for? I remember the True Love Waits talks in middle and high school. The message was that sex was bad...
