Sexual Discipleship
Why Josh Butler’s Book Beautiful Union Matters
If you pay attention to Christian Twitter, you are probably familiar with the online backlash a few weeks ago to the excerpt of Josh Butler’s forthcoming book called Beautiful Union. This short excerpt of a 288 -page book created a firestorm of criticism and dialogue...
#486 Teaching Sexual Discipleship: How to Walk in Truth and Love with LGBTQ+ Kids
Kelly Urbon discusses the work she is doing in counseling parents of those who identify as LGBTQ+, and explains why this work is so necessary.
Reader’s Corner: “Single, Gay, Christian” by Gregory Coles
Single, Gay, Christian by Gregory Coles is a small, easy-to read book that packs a powerful punch. Coles is exceptionally articulate and does an excellent job of communicating his thoughts and feelings. Coles wrote the book as if he is sharing his ponderings and...
4 Reasons to Join a Sexual Discipleship® Cohort
Scripture is filled with examples of the importance of working with one another. We learn about iron sharpening iron in Proverbs, how two are better than one in Ecclesiastes, and the metaphor of the body of Christ throughout the New Testament. We need one another in...
How To Teach Christian Sexuality to Children and Teens
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Talking to kids and...
Five Things Every Leader Needs To Know About Porn
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Rosie Makinney leads Fight For Love Ministries, a team of...
How Do I Help Couples Move Beyond the Purity Narrative to Sexual Intimacy?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Much of the traditional...
Can You Help Me Understand the “T” in LGBT?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Questions about gender...
Overcoming Sexual Shame
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Joy Skarka shares her journey of finding...
Should We Use LGBTQ Inclusive Language?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Laurie Krieg is a...
What the Bible Says About Same-Sex Attraction
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Sam Allberry is a...
#297: Finding Freedom in the Midst of Brokenness
Many gay Christians feel they must either deny their sexual feelings in order to be accepted by God or embrace the idea that God...
#203: Navigating Different Views on Sexuality
Do you know what you believe about sexuality? Can you talk about sexuality with other Christians who believe something different?...
How to Choose a Wise Counselor
(Presione aquí para leer en español) All your own efforts and gumption, your prayers and advice-seeking, your reading and research—you've tried it all, and still your struggle persists. You've reached it: the point at which you know you need help. You need a...
When Your Adult Child Makes Sexual Choices You Disagree With
What does it look like to love God and love an adult child who has a very different sexual ethic?
Sex and the Great Commission
Several years ago, I shared with a friend the vision of Authentic Intimacy. My friend listened patiently and then shared her honest opinion, “Why is it important to help people have better sex lives? Shouldn’t we be spending our time feeding the poor and sharing the...
Why We Must Remember That Women Struggle With Porn Too
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Despite growing...
How Do I Get to the Heart of Unwanted Sexual Behavior?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Jay Stringer discusses...
Sexual Discipleship® and Single Christians
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Healthy conversation around singles and sexuality is a glaring gap in most Christian...
What You Need To Know About Ministry to Women & Sexual Brokenness
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts There is a growing awareness of the great need...
4 Things To Remember If Someone You Care About Is “Deconstructing”
“I don’t believe in God anymore. At least not in the God I heard about in church.” Have you heard someone you love make this statement? Have you read similar declarations from people you once admired? According to the Barna institute, this trend is likely to continue....
Why Christian Leaders Must Understand Sexual Trauma
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Tim Hein is the...
Reader’s Corner: “Understanding Sexual Abuse” by Tim Hein
My first response after reading this book was,“This guy doesn’t waste a word!” In 182 pages, Tim Hein addresses some of the most pressing and complex issues related to childhood sexual abuse, while also sharing from his own journey. Tim's official role is that of...
Reader’s Corner: “Embodied” by Dr. Preston Sprinkle
I remember standing in the grocery store checkout line not more than five years ago while listening to a podcast. The host of the podcast suggested that within just a few years, gender would be considered a fluid concept, simply a social construct, by mainstream...
Reader’s Corner: “Talking Back to Purity Culture” by Rachel Joy Welcher
Purity culture has been a topic of conversation for several years as Christian women who were teenagers in the 1990’s (at the height of the purity movement) are now in their thirties and forties. Many who grew up in the evangelical purity movement are experiencing...
Reader’s Corner: “Pure” by Linda Kay Klein
I recently read a very sad book, Pure by Linda Kay Klein. This book keeps popping up in my newsfeed, which tells me that people want to talk about it. The subtitle of the book hits precisely why this book caused my heart to ache: “Inside the evangelical movement that...
Why I Went to a Marriage Intensive
In November, I took my first sabbatical since starting Authentic Intimacy in 2012. What a gift! The sabbatical was for rest and refreshment but also for personal reflection. For the past year, Mike and I have tossed around the idea of going through a marriage...
Sex, Love, and Dating
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Dr. Sean McDowell is a ...
Confronting Abuse in the Church
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Boz Tchividjian is a...
Understanding Complex Trauma
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Dr. Heather Gingrich is...
Healing From Sexual Addiction
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Jonathan Daugherty is...
What Is Christian Sex Therapy?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Josh Spurlock is a...
Why Do We Need To Talk About Sex?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Christopher West is the...
How Does the Christian Community Begin To Address Porn?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Nick Stumbo is the executive director of Pure Desire...
How Do I Recognize an Abusive Marriage?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Dr. Ramona Probasco is a psychologist and a certified domestic abuse counselor. She is also a...
#295: We All “Deconstruct,” It’s Reconstructing that Matters
Questions about sexuality, sexual abuse, and gender have sent a new wave of “deconstructing” throughout the Christian...
Why the Church Needs to Address Porn for Women
Pornography impacts men and women, yet when was the last time you heard a sermon on porn in your church? When was the last time you heard it specifically address women? Most female porn addicts feel alone and often feel left out of the conversation. Instead of finding...
Java Pack: Conversations that Heal
This Java Pack is a Christian leader’s guide to addressing sexual pain. As Christians, we often spend a lot of time debating what we should believe about sexuality. We may devote some time to ensuring we are personally honoring God with our own sexual choices....
How We Love Each Other
I grew up in a family of six kids, all very close in age. My position as “number five” out of six is probably a huge part of why I became a psychologist. My earliest pictures are often of me in a playpen observing family life. As teenagers, my sisters and I became...
#160: Why God Created You to Be Sexual
Most of us don’t ever wonder about the purpose of sex. It’s something we desire, something we do, and for some of us, something we...
#485 Your Marriage Won’t Survive Without Grace: Why Marriages Built on Performance Fall Apart
Is a lack of grace stopping you and your spouse from connecting? Brad and Marilyn Rhoads join Juli to discuss their book, “Grace Marriage.”
When Cancel Culture Invades the Church
Your social media feed is probably filled with examples of the latest person who has been “cancelled” because of something they said years ago or an unpopular position they recently expressed. Being cancelled is a weapon powerful enough to prompt teens to take their...
Sexual Discipleship® and Marriage
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Helping couples navigate barriers to sexual...
Why The Christian Single’s Journey is More Valuable Than You Think
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts In an effort to honor...
These Are the Unique Sexual Issues That Women of Color Face
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Dawn Jones, LPC, shares...
What Does “Grace Based Recovery” Look Like?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts Unintentionally, our approach to recovery from sexual...
How Do I Create Spaces for Leaders Who Are Struggling?
Ask Anything: Interviews with Experts The widespread use of...
3 Things Women Want You To Know About Their Addiction to Pornography
As someone who serves in ministry with my own history of struggling with pornography, women often pour out their stories to me with a sigh of relief. While sitting on my living room couch, Jessica shared her struggle with porn: I was exposed to pornography as a first...
#300: Christians Struggle with Sexual Addiction Too
Did you know that 68% of Christian men struggle with unwanted sexual behavior? That 25% of Christian women use sex to hide a deeper...
Words Have Consequences
We live in a day and age in which there is a lot of debate about words. What’s okay to say? What is politically correct? How can we speak in ways that are not offensive? As we discuss issues like politics, racial justice, and sexuality with others, we can feel as if...
#288: Max Lucado Says #MeToo
Max Lucado has never pretended to be something he’s not. The beloved author and pastor has always been open about his struggles. But...
#235: How the Purity Movement Hurt Us
"I always thought that if I did everything the way God told us to, then I would be blessed, I would be happy and I would have a good...
#219: Rethinking Sexuality in Your Marriage
Does God care about what goes on inside your bedroom? We think so. God has something to teach you about Himself, and He uses sex...
#216: Do You Have an Agenda?
Relationships are tricky. Loving others well takes intentionality. It’s hard to watch our friends, co-workers, or kids make sexual...
#198: Sharing God’s Message for Sexuality
God redeems our sexuality and allows us to share our stories with a hurting world. In this episode, Juli talks with Sanj Kalra and...
#196: Public Me vs. Private Me
What things in your life do you try really hard to hide? If my friends knew that I’m struggling with big temptations If people ever...
#192: Engaging in Restorative Relationships
We are wounded in relationships with others, and it only makes sense that relationships are also where our healing will take place....
Q&A: How do I Respond to my Kid’s Sexual Questions?
How do you talk to your kids about sexuality?
Webinar: Christian Psychology: Discerning when it’s helpful and harmful in ministry.
When people turn to counselors, the three questions they’re asking are: What do I do? Why did this happen? What’s the point?
In this webinar by Dr. Juli Slattery, learn how to address these questions with wisdom and compassion, and know your limitations.
Taking Care of Yourself While You’re Taking Care of Your Ministry
This recording is from Mental Health Mondays with Dr. Jennifer Degler. Topic: Taking...
Balancing Family and Ministry Responsibilities
This recording is from Mental Health Mondays with Dr. Jennifer Degler. Topic:...
How to Recognize and Respond to Ministry Burnout
This recording is from Mental Health Mondays with Dr. Jennifer Degler. Topic: How to...
Setting Boundaries with Difficult People in Ministry Settings
This recording is from Mental Health Mondays with Dr. Jennifer Degler. Topic: Setting...
Nervous about leading a small group?
With the start of a new season begins the start of new small groups and Bible studies in your churches and ministries. Maybe you’re a new leader and you feel sick to your stomach when thinking about leading a group. Perhaps you’re scared to commit to leading, yet God...
7 Things The Church Gets Wrong About Sexuality
Java Pack Listening Guide: Sexuality Meets Discipleship
Our culture is adept at sexual discipleship. Have you noticed? In every media outlet imaginable, we are confronted with an aggressive message of how to think about marriage, sexual activity, and sexual identity. Even Christians are far more likely to think like the...
God Says Not To Judge… Right?
Whenever I write a blog on a controversial sexual issue, I typically hear from people who remind me that God says not to judge other people. Whether I’m teaching about pornography, Fifty Shades of Grey, living together outside of marriage, divorce or homosexuality,...
When Christians Disagree About Sex
When the Nashville statement was released, it brought conservative Christianity’s relationship with sexual issues front and center into the mainstream media. USA Today described the Nashville statement this way, “A coalition of conservative evangelical leaders laid...
Why I Care About Your Sex Life
In case you haven’t heard, Fifty Shades of Grey was recently named the best-selling book of the decade. When I saw this come through my newsfeed, my first thought was, “Here we go again…” I’m quite certain that we will have another round of debates about the relative...
SD Training Workbook
Preaching to the Sexually Hurting
How does a preacher minister to the sexually hurting from the pulpit? Dr. Sam Serio has some key insights.
Integridad Sexual: El Corazón de Discipular Sexualmente a tus Hijos
Muchas veces los padres cristianos de hoy se sienten divididos entre los mensajes culturales de la positividad sexual y las enseñanzas tradicionales de la iglesia sobre guardar sexo para el matrimonio, ya que ambos parecen estar llenos de desafíos y peligros...
5 Razones Por Las Cuales No Hablas Con Tus Hijos Sobre El Sexo (y Cómo Superarlas)
En la última década, me he parado físicamente frente a más de 100,000 personas para enseñar sobre la sexualidad. Mi trabajo literalmente consiste en hablar de sexo. Pero aquí hay un pequeño secreto. Las conversaciones más difíciles que he tenido sobre sexo han sido...
Hablando a Tus Hijos Sobre el Sexo: Por qué, Cuándo, y Cómo
Mi esposo recien habia regresado a la casa con nuestro hijo menor después de un fin de semana fuera para una charla sobre el sexo. Christian, con once años en ese momento, tímidamente me dijo, “Mamá, me siento demasiado joven para saber todas estas cosas sobre el...