In every marriage, there is typically one partner with a higher sexual drive. And that person is usually trying to convince the...
Sex in Marriage
Webinar: Does Your Sex Life Have Shades of Gray?
Why are some Christians okay with sex toys, masturbation, and cohabitation while others believe it's wrong to kiss before marriage? Whether you're single or married, honoring God with your sexuality means discerning the dangers of both license and legalism in the...
#286: How to Make Time to Make Love
Making time to make love is always going to take effort. There will always be an excuse to put it off for another season. Grab your...
Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt. 2
For the past decade, my full-time job has been to address sexual issues from a Christian perspective. Knowing that, you can imagine the kind of emails I regularly receive in my inbox! What I’ve learned is that sexuality represents pain in a lot of lives and marriages....
Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt. 1
Most of us have been told that sex in marriage is important. But why does it matter? For many of us, sex may just be “meh” or tend to cause more division in our relationships than unity. The reality is that sexual issues are always among the top reasons for marital...
#276: Parenthood, Exhaustion & Avoiding Sex
She's a busy and tired mama. He's stressed to the max with work and family. Can't they just put sex and...
#268: BONUS! When God “Wakes Up” Your Love Life
Did you know that an intimate relationship with the Lord can lead to a more intimate relationship with your husband? In this BONUS...
#267: Are You Having Sex or Building Intimacy?
You can be sexually active without being sexually intimate. But is that God's best? Our sexuality is designed to be laced with...
Beyond a Happy Marriage
Within the past month, I’ve been accused of two things that seem to be mutually exclusive. A few women have made comments like, “Why don’t you ever challenge the men? Why is it always the woman’s responsibility to build a healthy marriage?” And men have written me...
Sex is the Icing on the Cake
Growing up, I was never much of a cook. With three sisters and a mother who all cook and bake masterfully, I had no reason to learn how. As a wife and mother, I reluctantly accepted my role as the family chef. A few years ago, I attempted to bake a homemade cake for a...
#259: Our Marriage Survived Painful Sex
Jennifer went to her doctor to get help for the excruciating pain she felt during sex. She left with a clean bill of...
Webinar: Overcoming Barriers in the Bedroom
Do you hate sex? Are you too tired, never in the mood, or is sex too painful? Maybe there’s too much tension in your marriage to desire any sexual intimacy with your husband. Dr. Juli Slattery will be teaching on overcoming barriers in the bedroom and sharing things...
A Secret for the Guys
Every day we hear from men who desperately want help and encouragement for their wives. Most commonly, they complain that their wives are not interested in sexual intimacy. Many of these messages end with pleas like “Help me! What can I do to help her understand my...
Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers
Have you ever wondered why God made you and your husband so different? For many years, I thought that might be my first question to God when I got to heaven. The differences between me and my husband, particularly in the bedroom, were driving us both crazy. Sexual...
#246: Lies You Believe About Sex
"I'm not loved if I'm not desired." "I don't deserve a great sex life." "God...
#245: The Link Between Your Bedroom & Your Bank Account
Have you ever hidden a receipt from your spouse? Join Juli and her guests to find out why holding grudges or...
#237: BONUS! Reconstructing Intimacy After Breast Cancer
"I never imagined there would be a point in my life when a piece of me would have to be reconstructed. That at age...
#234: We Can Do THAT in the Bedroom?
What's OK in the bedroom? Juli, Linda & Yvette tackle one of our most popular questions in this episode of Java...
#233: Understanding Your Man
From "All he thinks about is sex!" to "Why doesn't he ever initiate?" this Java with Juli...
#230: Juli & Linda Answer Your Questions About Marriage
Do you believe the Bible has answers to your questions about marriage and sexuality? We know it does! On this Java with Juli, Juli...
#227: Couples Therapy For Intimacy Issues
Have you ever wondered whether or not you should see a sex therapist? From sexual addiction to sexual anorexia, a good therapist can...
Webinar: Sex Talk in Your Marriage: Conversations Every Couple Should Be Having
You can read books on how to have "the talk" with your kids, but do you have the talk in your marriage? We believe that conversations around sexuality should not just take place when there is a problem or you are figuring out when to have sex. In this webinar, Dr....
Sexual Pleasure Isn’t Shameful
God cares about your sex life. It may seem weird to see the words God and sex in the same sentence. Sometimes when I teach women on this topic, they have a visceral reaction to the concept of God knowing about their sex lives. Psalm 139 tells us that God is always...
#219: Rethinking Sexuality in Your Marriage
Does God care about what goes on inside your bedroom? We think so. God has something to teach you about...
#217: Finding Hope After Betrayal
The man who vowed to love, cherish and protect you is cheating, lying and hiding. Now what? In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery is...
#210: Enjoying Intimacy in Your Golden Years
It’s no secret that aging changes us. Our bodies don’t work the way they used to. Sex doesn’t work the way it used to. What once happened easily is now difficult and awkward. Is it time to close the chapter on sex? Not so fast! Join Juli and her guests as they...
Does Your Husband Need Sex?
Until recently, it has been part of the Christian marriage narrative that men need sex. Christian marriage books over the decades have repeatedly claimed that sex is a primary need for guys in marriage. In many marriages (but not all), husbands would eagerly nod their...
#205: My Husband’s Addiction Saved My Life
From the outside they had a perfect Christian family --a happy marriage, jobs in ministry and successful kids. ...
The Great Danger: He Can Have My Body, But…
Jerusha Clark wrote the following guest blog as a follow up to her and Juli's conversation on Java with Juli. Jerusha and her husband Jeramy have been sharing their journey of marriage and parenting for many years, encouraging others with what God is teaching them.You...
#197: A Pornography Addiction in our Marriage
On this episode, Juli talks with Sanj and Kay Kalra about the way that pornography addiction negatively affected their marriage for...
Webinar: Spicing Up Your Sex Life
Do you know that God's desire is for you and your husband to experience great pleasure in your sex life? Many couples settle for "vanilla" sex for years (aka the missionary position), placing self-imposed restrictions on themselves that have nothing to do with God's...
#186: What Can Passion Pursuit Do for You?
Do you desire deeper intimacy with your spouse? Do you want to experience freedom in the bedroom like you’ve never...
What If I Hate Sex?
"I hate sex. It makes me angry to hear you even suggest that I’m supposed to be enjoying it. I’ve...
What If I Want Sex More Than My Husband Does?
I get asked this a lot. A woman often sheepishly approaches me at an event and says, “I’m one of those women you talked about who has a higher sex drive than my husband. What should I do?” Because women in this situation defy the stereotype, they sometimes feel shame...
How Do I Rebuild Trust After Betrayal?
There is no pain like discovering that your husband has been unfaithful. It’s as if your whole world has been shattered. You doubt your instincts because you have been fooled. You make vows to never trust again because old vows have been broken. Based on God’s Word,...
Webinar: Fighting Porn in Your Marriage
A recent survey revealed that approximately 85% of men interact with pornographic material on a monthly basis. With that statistic, we know that means porn has made it's way into many of our marriages. Pornography is killing our intimacy, and its widespread use and...
#179: When Sex Is Not Good
"I know that orgasm should not be the main goal of sex, but I am disappointed that I have never experienced it." "I can’t say that...
Making Time for Making Love
After a long day of taking care of three little boys, cooking, cleaning, and juggling work responsibilities, I had reached the “finish line.” It was my time to rest. I ignored the subtle flirtations of my husband, Mike, hoping he would get the hint that I was not in...
#88: When Sex Is Too Painful
When sex is painful, many husbands and wives live with frustration and shame because they don't know where to get help. On this Java...
#158: Q&A with Juli and Linda
Grab your coffee and join us as Juli and Linda tackle YOUR tough questions about sex. On this...
Stop “Hooking up” in Your Marriage
I just read a book by Dr. Lisa Wade called American Hookup which describes the sexual culture on college campuses. Sexual activity has been so severed from relationship that kids “hooking up” are discouraged from even talking to the person they just had sex with. One...
#18: When You Don’t Like Your Body
How many times have you been disappointed or felt inferior because of your weight? Have you ever asked yourself where those emotions...
#151: The Naked Truth About Sex in Marriage
One hundred percent of couples struggle sexually. The truth is, if you want great sex in a great marriage, you’ve got to take off...
#148: Is There a Man in the House?
It’s not just girl talk on Java with Juli. Gentlemen, today is all about you! In this episode, Dr. Gary Chapman...
What’s OK in the Bedroom?
Before we even get into discussing whether something is right or wrong in the bedroom, I want to emphasize that God’s desire is for you and your husband to experience great pleasure! His standards are not to limit your enjoyment, but to heighten it. I think many Christian couples have no idea what freedom they have in the bedroom. They settle for “vanilla” sex (aka, the missionary position), placing self-imposed restrictions on themselves that have nothing to do with God’s perspective. God made the marriage relationship a safe place for a husband and wife to explore, experiment, laugh, and get lost in sensational sex.
#134: Why Intentionality Is One of the Most Romantic Things in Marriage
"My husband would never randomly skip work to have a date, he isn't much of an improviser, and he definitely...
#132: Honest Answers to Your Questions About Sex
At Authentic Intimacy, we love hearing from women. We love answering your questions and teaching you how to hear from...
A Challenge from the Song of Solomon
Have you ever read a portion of the Bible that gave you pause? As you read, you thought, “That doesn’t seem to square with what I think about God.” This has happened to me many times reading the Old Testament prophets or the book of Revelation, but I also have that...
Webinar: Making Fireworks in the Bedroom
Join Dr. Juli Slattery and Hannah Nitz as they have a practical conversation about growing sexual intimacy in your marriage. They'll dive into ways you and your spouse can celebrate the covenant of marriage in the bedroom and grow closer together as husband and...
#108: With This Ring
February is the month when romance seems to be in the air but are you taking every aspect of love and marriage...
#106: Aging Men and Sex
Sexuality is an important part of who we are, but it is not all of life. If your husband is getting older, things are...
#91: When The Man You Love Was Abused
Many men keep sexual abuse a secret for years, but bring the side effects of their trauma into their marriage. How can a wife better...
#71: Body Image & The Bedroom
God wants us to use our body to glorify Him. The body you have today -- not the body you’d like to have, or the body you once had....
#56: When Men Don’t Want Sex
“Not tonight, honey. I’m just not in the mood.” The stereotype of a woman who is trying to avoid intimacy with her husband by using...
#126: What Your Husband Wishes You Knew About Sex
Have you ever wanted to climb inside the mind of your man, just for a day? Well ladies, here’s your chance! On this Java with Juli,...
Being Sexy Has Nothing To Do With Your Body
When I talk to women about sex in marriage, one of the most common concerns is their bodies. “I’m just not sexy!” Practically every woman feels like she is either too old, too fat, too flat-chested, or too plain to be sexy. We live in a world that has definite...
#123: How Sexual Differences in Marriage Can Make You a Better Lover
“Lord, I’ll do anything—just not that!” Being vulnerable, giving, and asking for your needs in...
#5: God Has an Opinion About Sex
Did you know that God has an opinion about sex? More than that, did you know His word is full of truth about one of the most...
Help! My Husband Is The One With The Headache
Watch a movie or flip through some TV sitcoms and you will hear men always want sex. Men are portrayed as constantly turned on and trying to get their wives into bed while the women are typically shown rolling their eyes. Ask a group “What do men think about most...
Is Sexual Intimacy A “Sacrament”?
A lot of married couples consider their sexual relationship as an optional addition to the true substance of marriage, doing life together. In the hectic pace of managing careers, raising children, and helping others, getting naked together can seem like a nice perk...
How to say “Yes, Yes, Yes!” after “No, No, No!”
As we round the corner into late spring, it’s wedding season. Although every new marriage has its unique struggles, some questions newlyweds ask are somewhat predictable. One of them is represented by the title of this blog. This question is not just asked by the...
What Should You Do If Your Husband Looks at Porn?
(Presione aquí para leer en español). “Last night I walked in on my husband viewing porn. This isn’t the first time this has happened. I feel so violated—like I could never share my body with him again. Why should I, anyway? I could never compete with porn!” If your...
Don’t Be Spontaneous In Marriage
Want to watch a group of women swoon? Tell a story about a husband who was completely spontaneous. There is something about the mystery and surprise of impromptu romance that fills women with passion! Anything from randomly picking up flowers to a last minute road...