God & Healing

#283: I Was the Abuser

#283: I Was the Abuser

Are you, or someone you love, a recovering sex offender?  If so, this conversation is for you.  In this...

#464 Why We Need to Remember The Dignity of Singleness

#464 Why We Need to Remember The Dignity of Singleness

Is it possible your view of singleness and marriage is less than Holy? Is it possible to find contentment, not in whether we are single or married, but in Jesus Himself? Juli and Sam Allberry discuss the dignity of singleness, finding contentment in Christ, and the key to true friendship.

Parenting Through Weakness

Parenting Through Weakness

Dear Juli, I’m the mom of two teenage girls. I know I need to talk to them about sex but honestly, I don’t know where to begin. My sex life is a mess. My husband and I have relied on porn in our marriage for years. I have abuse in my past that I’ve never dealt with. I...

#288: Max Lucado Says #MeToo

#288: Max Lucado Says #MeToo

Max Lucado has never pretended to be something he’s not. The beloved author and pastor has always been open about his struggles. But...

#169: Your Wounded Heart

#169: Your Wounded Heart

It wasn’t that bad. What happened to you definitely wasn’t as bad as other abuse stories you’ve heard and read about. It’s...

#469 Porn, Rape Culture, and Why The Battle Against Sexual Assault Starts at Home

#469 Porn, Rape Culture, and Why The Battle Against Sexual Assault Starts at Home

Did you know that on average, each year, around 463,634 Americans are victims of sexual assault? That’s a heartbreaking statistic, and it reveals a very real source of pain and trauma in contemporary American culture. What causes people to commit sexual assault? Is there a way to stop it? Dr. John Foubert joins Juli to discuss some of the reasons these numbers are so high, and what can and needs to be done to prevent sexual assault from happening.

#466 Enough is Enough: Recognizing and Combating Abusive Relationships

#466 Enough is Enough: Recognizing and Combating Abusive Relationships

Is there a difference between a bad relationship and a harmful one? How can you spot the difference, both in your own relationships and those of your friends and family? 

Join Juli and Dr. David Clarke as they discuss how to recognize abuse patterns of behavior, how to set boundaries, and when necessary, how to get out and create safety elsewhere.

#452 Porn Addiction in Marriage: How to Let God Redeem Your Story

#452 Porn Addiction in Marriage: How to Let God Redeem Your Story

When it comes to porn, the gender gap is closing. Meet two women who know that overcoming a pornography addiction or sexual shame is not about changing your behavior but about allowing Jesus to transform your identity. One is the Samaritan women who met Jesus at the well and the other is Jessica Harris, Juli’s guest on “Java with Juli.”

#451 Porn Addiction and Women: Break the Silence, Bring the Hope

#451 Porn Addiction and Women: Break the Silence, Bring the Hope

When it comes to porn, the gender gap is closing. Meet two women who know that overcoming a pornography addiction or sexual shame is not about changing your behavior but about allowing Jesus to transform your identity. One is the Samaritan women who met Jesus at the well and the other is Jessica Harris, Juli’s guest on “Java with Juli.”

Learning To Be a Promise-Breaker

Learning To Be a Promise-Breaker

Has anyone ever told you that it may be healthy to break your promises? No, I’m not talking about going back on your word or taking your wedding vows lightly. I’m referring to a different category of vows … the kind of promises that people rarely acknowledge.  Our...

When Your Child Has Been Sexually Abused

When Your Child Has Been Sexually Abused

The headlines are filled with horrific accounts of childhood sexual abuse. Behind every headline are children and their parents, families grasping for help and hope through devastating news. We have received many emails from parents who recently discovered that their...

Webinar: Guilt & Motherhood: When You Think You’re Messing It Up

Webinar: Guilt & Motherhood: When You Think You’re Messing It Up

Practically every mother wrestles with guilt because there is no such thing as a perfect mom. We instinctively know that the choices we make will impact our children's lives. How can we parent our kids without being paralyzed by the guilt of our mistakes and fear of...

The Great Danger: He Can Have My Body, But…

The Great Danger: He Can Have My Body, But…

Jerusha Clark wrote the following guest blog as a follow up to her and Juli's conversation on Java with Juli. Jerusha and her husband Jeramy have been sharing their journey of marriage and parenting for many years, encouraging others with what God is teaching them.You...

Healing After #metoo

Healing After #metoo

As you watch a flood of #MeToo tags come through your social media feed, what is your reaction? Maybe you feel sick to your stomach, need some time to let the grief wash over you, or experience a rush of anger. Me too. How does something that is so hidden and...

#3: Mom, I’m Pregnant

#3: Mom, I’m Pregnant

As a parent, you will face a time where your child will surprise you and you aren’t sure how to react. In this episode, Juli talks...

#6: Healing from Sexual Abuse

#6: Healing from Sexual Abuse

Have you experienced sexual abuse? Do you know someone who has? It's an issue that is incredibly difficult to talk about. Sometimes...

#472 Embracing Grief: Why We Need to Connect Sadness, Gratitude, and Celebration

#472 Embracing Grief: Why We Need to Connect Sadness, Gratitude, and Celebration

It can often be tempting to push through the uncomfortable feelings that come with loss and try to just keep calm and carry on. But is that what we’re called to as followers of Christ? If Christ Himself took time to grieve, shouldn’t we?

Dr Greg and Erin Smalley join Juli on this episode of Java with Juli as they discuss the need to face and make sense of our pain so we can embrace real joy. 

Loving a Broken Man (Or Woman)

Loving a Broken Man (Or Woman)

Gary Thomas has been a guest on Java with Juli multiple times and also joined us for our webinar "Having a Mission-Focused Marriage." He is a bestselling author and international speaker whose ministry brings people closer to Christ and closer to others. He unites the...

Webinar: How to Love Your Prodigal Child

Webinar: How to Love Your Prodigal Child

Join Hannah Nitz as she sits down with Lori Wildenberg & Dr. Juli Slattery to talk about how to love your prodigal child. Lori is a mother who recognized her daughter's gender confusion early on. Despite many prayers and conversations, her daughter now leads a...

Webinar: Fighting Porn in Your Marriage

Webinar: Fighting Porn in Your Marriage

A recent survey revealed that approximately 85% of men interact with pornographic material on a monthly basis. With that statistic, we know that means porn has made it's way into many of our marriages. Pornography is killing our intimacy, and its widespread use and...

Webinar: When Your Greatest Fears Come True

Webinar: When Your Greatest Fears Come True

Can you think of your greatest fear? Perhaps it's your husband getting into pornography, finding out you've been cheated on, watching your kids walk away from the Lord, or great harm being done to you. When your worst fear comes true, how do you continue to walk in...

#51: Working Through Depression

#51: Working Through Depression

Have you lost your enthusiasm or your energy? Has your sense of adventure and willingness to gather in social situations dwindled...

#42: Healing From Trauma

#42: Healing From Trauma

Too often, children are exposed to horrific events that their minds just can’t comprehend or process. Later in life those...

Why Your Story Matters

Why Your Story Matters

Have you ever wondered if your life matters? Out of all of the people on the planet, why is your life unique? From the time of my childhood, I’ve heard that I was made “in the image of God.” This one truth sets all humanity apart from every other created being. As...

Why We Must Be Surprised by the Healer

Why We Must Be Surprised by the Healer

This month I gave birth to my eighth book. Actually, it was a “co-labor” with my dear friend and mentor, Linda Dillow. When I use the word “labor,” I mean it. This book, Surprised by the Healer, was probably the most difficult that either of us has ever written....

Relational Revelation

Relational Revelation

As a Christian psychologist, I sometimes feel like I’m in the crosshairs of pastors and therapists who disagree about the road to healing. Those who study theology and teach the Bible often emphasize the importance of God’s Word and prayer. Christians in the therapy...

#107: Surprised By The Healer

#107: Surprised By The Healer

Listen to the founders of Authentic Intimacy, Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow talk about a book they co-authored, Surprised by...

3 Reasons I Can Run To God With My Sexual Brokenness

3 Reasons I Can Run To God With My Sexual Brokenness

This question is where it all begins for me: Can I really trust God with everything, including my sexuality? (Presione aquí para leer en español)  I still picture myself in my room that night, tossing and turning, overwhelmed by the anguish in my soul. Gripping the...

Why Is Healing So Hard?

Why Is Healing So Hard?

Tina and I met together for counseling several years ago to work through some traumatic experiences from her past. A year after our work together was done, Tina came in for a “check up.” She shared with me that within that year, she had undergone surgery, radiation,...