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#420: Bonus! What Redemption and Sexual Intimacy Look Like in Real Life

Sex was nothing like what they were told it was going to be. She felt pain. He felt guilt. Together, they're on a journey toward...

#419: Why Sexual Intimacy is About So Much More Than Just Having Sex

Are you working from the wrong understanding of what makes a great sex life? Find out in this...

#418: What Is Sexual Intimacy Supposed To Look Like in Marriage?

Imagine that you and your spouse are building a jigsaw puzzle, but you don’t know what the picture on the front of the box looks...

#417: Authentic Intimacy: The Ministry That Almost Didn’t Make It

Did you know that we’ve been at the brink of closing our doors (more than once)? Join us for a close-up, behind-the-scenes look at...

#214: Answers To Your Questions About Sex, with Dr. Juli Slattery & Linda Dillow

Is it “dirty” to dress up for your husband in the bedroom? Is it wrong to masturbate if your husband can’t have sex? What if your...

#416: How God Uses Heartache to Prepare You for Your True Calling

Dr. Dan Allender and Cathy Loerzel join Juli to share about Redeeming Heartache—a new book and tool (think Enneagram or DISC) to...

#415: How To Encourage and Celebrate the Single Mom in Your Life

God's promise of provision for the single mom is also a call to body of Christ. In this episode, Michelle Donnelly...

#414: Good Marriages Often Get Off to a Rocky Start (& Why It’s OK)

Even good marriages can get off to a rocky start. In this episode, Ray and Robyn McKelvy, now married over 30 years, share their...

#413: The Perfect Parent Is the One Who Knows They Need Jesus

Dave and Ann Wilson get real about the messiness of parenting. They'll share how they learned to bring others around them, to learn...

#412: Is There a Better Way To Read the Bible?

Juli shares one of her favorite new podcasts—the BEMA Discipleship Podcast. The Old Testament writers weren't just telling stories,...

#411: The Unlikely Means God Uses To Bring Beauty From Ashes

What are the unlikely (often unwelcome) means that God uses to heal us? Join us to find out and discover the power of being fully...

#410: Sexual Abuse in Marriage and How To Help a Hurting Wife

Sexual abuse in marriage... wait. What? Doesn't the Bible say a spouse "has authority" over the other's body? Let's talk practically...

#408: Science Offers Kids a Powerful Reason To Say No to Porn

If teens understood the significant impact of porn on their brains, on their relationships, and porn's link to human trafficking,...

#407: Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You’re Asking Us!

There's more to the masturbation conversation than simply "right" or "wrong." Could masturbation be an issue of spiritual maturity...

#406: Every Couple Has a Sexual Dance. What Does Yours Say About You?

Sex therapist Dr. Mike Sytsma says that when a couple tells him how they kiss or how they make love, he can tell them...

Webinar: Making Sense of God & Sex, Live Q&A

How do I bring God my heartache over the fact that my daughter is living in a same-sex relationship? Why does God care if my husband and I are having sex or not? Does God really expect me to give up sex, even if I never marry? When you wrestle with sexual pain or...

#405: How To Be Broken and Used by God (At the Same Time)

Cory Morgan joins Juli to share how his brokenness became an opportunity to bring others alongside him on the journey toward sexual integrity.

#403: How Do I Reconcile God’s Goodness with Sexual Pain & Injustice?

How can we reconcile the pain of sexual abuse with faith in a loving God?

#402: If God Made My Body “Good,” Why Does It Cause So Much Pain?

Juli is joined by author and apologist Sam Allberry to share how we can reconcile the goodness of our bodies (which are created by...

#401: Why “Love Is Love” Doesn’t Mean What You Think It Means

Black Lives Matter. Love is love. Hate has no home here. A thread of truth—truth deeply rooted in Christianity—runs through these...

#400: If God Is Good, Why Doesn’t He Take Away My Sexual Addiction?

At the root of every struggle with ongoing, unwanted sexual sin is a lie about God—and it keeps you from the very things that bring...

#399: Why Questions About Sex Cause You to Question God

Juli and Hannah kick off the "Making Sense of God & Sex" series with a conversation about how questions around sex always lead...

#398: How Trauma-Informed Care Helps Your Brain, Body & Relationships

“Trauma-informed care” is more than just a pop psychology buzzword. Join Juli and her guest to learn about the experiences that we...

#395: How to Be Intentional to Care For Your Mental Health & Wellness

One in 3 Americans report experiencing symptoms of clinical depression. How about you? In this conversation, Dr. Juli Slattery and...

#394: Debt-free in the Bedroom: How To Heal From Sexual Pain

Have you experienced sexual trauma? Were you betrayed in marriage? Are there sexual choices from your past that...

#393: Practical Wisdom for Dating & Friendship

Can we get practical about dating? Juli and author Eric Demeter put aside the Christian dating subculture and get super...

#65: Why Healing Takes Time, with Francine Rivers

Juli sits down with author Francine Rivers to hear how her own story of brokenness and healing after an abortion...

#392: Want To Know Juli and Mike Better? This Is Your Episode!

Juli takes off her "author and psychologist" hat! Hannah Nitz turns the tables on Juli and Mike to hear how they met, how they...

#391: Make Your Relationship Better With a Few Intentional Habits

Relationships naturally find ruts. With our natural bent toward self-love, we easily get stuck focusing on our own needs or...

#390: Have You Given Up On Sexual Enjoyment and Pleasure?

Are you resigned to the idea that God must have created sex for your husband, but not for you? Juli and her guest, Dr. Debra Taylor,...

#389: Thinking About Becoming a Blended Family?

Blended family couples have honeymoon phases too!—they just usually come a little later. Even the strongest couples will face...

#387: Life, Intimacy and Loving Your Body After Breast Cancer & Reconstruction

Kim Harms was diagnosed with breast cancer shortly after her fortieth birthday. In this episode, Juli grabs...

#385: How To Wrestle With God Over Questions of Sex & Sexuality

Come deconstruct with us for 40 minutes or so. Yep, that's right. If we can’t ask hard questions about the...

Bonus! #384: Do You Empower Your Husband or Enable Him? (The Difference is BIG)

Nobody said marriage would be easy. It takes great courage, strength and self-control to be the woman God has called you to be in...

#383: What Do I Do With Disappointment in Marriage?

Have you tried to "fix" problems in your marriage, only to end up feeling distant? Disappointment is common...

#382: Why We’re Not Afraid to Ask Hard Questions About Sex & Christianity

If you feel the pressure to believe that Christians are close-minded and a growing minority, you’re in for an encouraging surprise....

#381: “Show It Off” or “Cover It Up”: Messages That Shape Our Body Image

What messages have you been told about your body and your sexuality? At the coffee shop with Juli are two...

#380: How To Have Honest Conversations With Your Kids About Sex

How do you create an environment in your home where your kids feel OK talking about sex? When they struggle, how do you protect...

#379: Is Your Love Life All That You Want It To Be?

Is this really all there is? If you’ve ever felt this way about your sex life, you’re not alone. In this...

#378: How One Church Learned To Embrace the Beauty of Broken

Imagine there is a sign on the door of your church that says, “Please leave your sexual brokenness on the steps...

#377: How to Care For a Friend (Or Yourself) When the Marriage Doesn’t Survive

Marriages don’t always survive the tough stuff. God still moves. Wounds heal. Addicts find sobriety. Forgiveness is extended. Life...

#376: What Does God’s Word Actually Say About Divorce and Remarriage?

Friends, please note that we don't go into detail about how to recognize abuse in marriage. We have other conversations about...

#375: Juli & Jackie on How To Pursue Unity While Standing on Truth

The mics stayed on for more with Jackie Hill Perry. In this unique after-the-show episode, Juli and Jackie share how they’ve...

#374: Jackie Hill Perry on the Trustworthiness of God

Your marriage, your sexuality, wounds from your past, or things you can't see yet ... what do you struggle to trust God with? In...

#373: How We Beat a Porn Addiction in Our (Millennial) Marriage

When Clinton and Charity Muñoz sought help to overcome a porn addiction, Clinton was told to memorize more...

#36: What Kind of Love Are You Making?

If there is one place in the Bible that gives women permission to have fun, to explore and to enjoy sexual pleasure, it’s the poetic...

#372: How To Recognize Domestic Abuse

Wearing sunglasses on rainy days. Using turtlenecks to hide choke marks. Running. Hiding. Ramona Probasco never thought she would do...

#371: Schedule Sex and Dry Cleaning In the Same Conversation? It Works

Being intentional about the business of marriage builds intimacy. When couples make decisions together, their emotions and buy-in...

Webinar Series: Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together, Pt 2

Overcoming Physical Barriers to Pleasure Part 2 in this webinar series Meet Dr. Carol Tanksley, OB-GYN. She has over 28 years of experience and a passion help women understand how their bodies are integrated with their minds, spirits, and emotions. In this webinar,...

Webinar Series: Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together, Pt 1

The Priority of Mutual Pleasure in Healthy Sex Part 1 in this webinar series Juli and Dr. Debra Taylor, a certified Christian sex therapist, discuss the importance of pleasure within the larger picture of sexual intimacy, and how the pleasure we experience during sex...

Webinar Series: Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together, Pt 3

Saying "Yes!" to Sexual Pleasure Part 3 in this webinar series In the final webinar in our series, Dr. Jennifer Degler brings her humor, candor, and expertise to help you understand how to get your brain and your body working together so that you can share the kind of...

Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 3

From Sexual Trauma to Sexual Intimacy (It Takes Two) Part 3 in this webinar series In this final conversation, Juli talks with Matt Gutbrod, a sexual abuse survivor, and his wife, Victoria, a marriage and family therapist, about how couples can practice empathy and...

#370: Why the Single Life Is Uniquely Meaningful and Totally Ordinary

Do you feel stuck somewhere between "not married" and "not called to singleness"? Truth be told, few single Christians feel called...

#369: Changing the Way We Talk About Porn (Because Women Struggle Too)

“I had one woman say, ‘I struggle with masturbation.’ And she just started crying. And then she said, ‘I’ve never said that word...

#368: Aging Bodies Can Still Enjoy Sexuality. Are You Giving Up Too Soon?

There's ED (erectile dysfunction), PE (premature...

Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 2

What Is Sexual Trauma & How Does It Affect You? Part 2 in this webinar series If you're in Florida, find Aline-Vanya Guillaume at TherapyTerrace.com Sexual Trauma & It's Effect On Marriage an article by Aline-Vanya Guillaume, LPSW Unwanted by Jay...

#367: Exchange Online Distractions for Real-Life Intimacy

“To be completely honest, the first two or three days, I was shocked by classic symptoms of withdrawal. I found...

#95: The Dating Manifesto

Do you struggle with being single? Maybe you've been rethinking that 21-point list of "non-negotiable" qualities you need in a...

#366: No More Pushing Past the Pain! God Cares About Your Sexual Pleasure

What do you do when sex hurts? Do you white-knuckle your way through it, because you think you...

Webinar Series: 3 Conversations To Help You Heal From Sexual Trauma, Pt 1

Your Abuse Story: How To Tell, What To Tell, & Why It Matters Part 1 in this webinar series Juli Slattery and Dawn Scott Damon talk about the reasons we don't share our abuse stories. We can be accused of lying or exaggerating. We're met with silence. Our pain is...

#365: How To Create a Language That Brings Meaning to Your Lovemaking

How long would you like foreplay to last? How important is it to have an orgasm every time we have sex? Complete this sentence:...

#364: How to Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity

After sexual infidelity, how do you know when to start having sex again? Recovery is layered, complex, and different...

#362: How To Become a Better “Better Half” with Jamie Ivey

A complement, according to Webster, is “something that fills up, completes, or makes better or perfect.”...

#361: Hey Momma! Learn How To Share the “Birds & Bees” with Your Littles

We know. It’s hard to imagine talking to your sweet three or four-year-old about sex. And here’s the thing: you don’t have to. What...

#360: Feeling Fearful? The Right Kind of Fear Leads to Bravery

When you’re feeling fearful, the last thing you need is a social media meme telling you to “tighten your ponytail and carry on.” A...

#359: How To Help Women Speak Out Against Sexual Harassment

Tiffany Bluhm wishes this wasn’t her story to tell. Like most victims or bystanders of sexual harassment, she had everything to lose...

#358: Sexuality, Spirituality, and Why We Settle For Counterfeit Intimacy

Have you ever turned to Netflix instead of pursuing sex with your spouse? Have you turned to Instagram instead ending your day by...

#357: Emotional Safety: What It Is and Why You Need It

What is emotional safety? Look at it this way: an emotionally unsafe relationship is a place where you can’t be yourself. You’re...

#356: Sex & the City of God (What Life Looks Like When We Love God First)

That longing you have to be fully known? God put it there. It’s meant to draw you into intimacy with Him....

#355: How Apologetics Helps Kids Engage the Culture & Keep Their Faith

Don't tell your kids what to think about sex, teach them HOW to think about sex. Don't give them a list of...

#354: How To Keep Rhythm & Romance in Your New COVID Normal

You learned to navigate close quarters, perfected family game night, and homeschooled your kids. As your community reopens, how do...

#353: Why Telling Your Abuse Story is Complex, Courageous & Healing

Every abuse story has unique layers of complexity and pain. The decision whether or not to tell someone else is often a difficult...

Bonus! #92: When the Woman You Love Was Abused

It’s been proven that the effects of childhood abuse follow us into adulthood. Memories, anxiety, and feelings of shame can leave women overwhelmed with emotions they don’t understand—and their husbands equally confused! In this episode, Juli sits down with Dawn Scott Damon, author of When a Woman You Love Was Abused, to share wisdom and insight for husbands, helping them to love their wives well through the journey of recovery and healing.

#352: How Purity Culture and Ravi Zacharias’ Abuse of Power Challenge Our Faith

Juli Slattery and Asheritah Ciuciu sit down for a conversation about the shortcomings of purity culture, the recent...

#351: Why Our Churches Need To Do Better at Valuing the Voices of Women

The women of the Bible have a lot to teach us. Their voices often give us the story behind the story—take Ruth for example, or the...

#350: Making Time To Make Love (Especially When You Don’t Feel Like It)

It's hard to prioritize sexual intimacy when you don't understand why God created sex in the first place. Instead, you put up walls...

#349: Bonus! You CAN Find Love Online. We’ll Help You Look

“I love online dating,” said no one ever. But if 1 in 5 committed relationships today began online, is it worth a try? In this...

#348: What You Need To Know About the “T” in LGBT, Pt 2

In this episode, Juli continues her conversation with Preston Sprinkle as they dive into biblical questions around...

#347: What You Need To Know About the “T” in LGBT, Pt 1

What was once a rare psychological diagnosis has quickly become an accepted cultural movement. While it's critical...

#346: How to Cope When Your Spouse Struggles With Depression

When you’re married, depression is a shared experience. There is no way to escape the impact of sharing a home...

#345: What You Need to Know About Progressive Christianity

Compassionate. Inclusive. Nonjudgmental. Who wouldn’t want to be part of a church like this? It’s why...

#344: Standing Strong: Tackling Fear, Self-Doubt & Insecurity

Alli Worthington says the popular message that “you are enough” is leaving women feeling overwhelmed and...

#343: Forgiving What You Can’t Forget

Lysa TerKeurst tells Juli about the brokenness and restoration of her marriage and how forgiveness is both a decision...

#147: How to Find Fulfillment at the Feet of Jesus

Do the holidays have you feeling exhausted? Does your list of New Year resolutions feel uninspired? Are you unsatisfied with your...

#342: The Good Gift of Courage (And Why You Need It)

We talk often on Java with Juli about our culture’s confusing messages around sexuality. But today’s guest,...

#341: When Staying Married Feels Impossible

Circumstances in Laurie’s life started triggering her memories of childhood sexual abuse. Her lifelong struggle...

#340: We Were Wrong About Modesty

The word “modesty” makes us cringe these days, and it’s easy to understand why: For years it’s...

Webinar Series: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Pt 3

Kids & Porn: How and When You Should Talk to Your Child About Pornography Part 3 of this webinar series From questions like, "Mommy, how will that baby get out of your tummy?" to trends on TikTok and Instagram, everyday life is rich with opportunities to connect...

Webinar Series: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Pt 2

The Birds & Bees: How to Talk to Young Children About Sex Part 2 of this webinar series From questions like, "Mommy, how will that baby get out of your tummy?" to trends on TikTok and Instagram, everyday life is rich with opportunities to connect with your kids...

Webinar Series: Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Pt 1

Teens: Teach Them HOW, Not WHAT, to Think About Sex Part 1 in this webinar series From questions like, "Mommy, how will that baby get out of your tummy?" to trends on TikTok and Instagram, everyday life is rich with opportunities to connect with your kids and share...

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