by Authentic Intimacy®


#48: My Controlling Spouse

If you are fearful or hesitant to share your true thoughts with your spouse, you may be in an unhealthy pattern with a controlling spouse. What are the red flags, and how can you change things? Very few couples know how to address this issue, but it can be a fatal flaw in your relationship if you ignore it. Learn the steps toward a gentle transition and honest communication on this episode of Java with Juli.

Guests: Dr. Ron & Jan Welch


The Controlling Husband by Dr. Ron Welch

What's It Like to Be Married to Me? by Linda Dillow


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  • A.R.


    Juli, I would love to hear you discuss this topic, with the added element of spiritual abuse. My husband sounds so much like Dr. Welch, except he also acts as the voice of God in my life. He accuses me of resisting God, of being unsaved and not the kind of woman God esteems, etc. I'm in counseling and have had a pastor friend reach out to him, but he refuses to consider marriage counseling or meeting with a pastor. He says I am unempowered by God because I'm seeking outside help. There's much more to the story, but we've been married 20+ years and I think a temporary separation is necessary. I've been so confused about what's true and am finally seeing the light, here. It's been a long road to coming out from under this kind of subtle abuse and I would love to hear your thoughts. If there is an episode on this already, please let me know. Thank you!
  • Beth


    Thank you for re-posting this! I've been living this for almost 13 years now and there's no change in sight. I keep praying and keep coping and praying about how I'm coping.




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