by Authentic Intimacy®


#376: What Does God’s Word Actually Say About Divorce and Remarriage?

Friends, please note that we don't go into detail about how to recognize abuse in marriage. We have other conversations about abusive marriages that we encourage you to listen to! (See the links below). This episode's purpose is to look at what the biblical texts say about marriage, divorce and remarriage. Our guest is a biblical scholar, but he is not a counselor; his comments are not nuanced nor intended to be applied to situations of domestic abuse or trauma. If you have wounds that are still tender from a difficult or abusive marriage, you may want to skip this episode for now.

A few other episodes to listen to first:

From pornography to financial infidelity, domestic abuse to emotional affairs it's no surprise more Christians are asking: what exactly qualifies for a biblical divorce? In this episode, Juli welcomes Bible teacher and pastor Mike Fabarez to walk you through the scriptures that address divorce and help you apply them to circumstances that aren't directly addressed in the Bible.

More tough questions. Less small talk. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Pastor Mike Fabarez

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  • Dyanne Medlock

    Dyanne Medlock

    Overall decent episode. I was honestly appalled at the comments made regarding abuse. The comments about the church getting involved earlier, particularly in these cases is extremely difficult to say something. Persons start with small things to "test the waters", this man doesn't understand trauma bonds. It took my son with a knife to him for me to finally walk away (and it wasn't the first time). There is such a shame culture in this episode. How unfortunate.
  • Authentic Intimacy

    Authentic Intimacy

    #372: How to Recognize Domestic Abuse
  • Jacci Roberts

    Jacci Roberts

    Dyanne, we understand your comment and why you feel this way. This is a very cut and dry conversation about what we find written in the Bible. You're right, pastors don't typically have the training to understand trauma bonds or the nuances of abusive cimcumstances. I hope you can listen to episode #372: How to Recognize Domestic Abuse with Dr. Ramona Probasco and also join us next week when we will get more into more those details with trained therapist Stacey Sadler. I'm sorry to hear about the trauma you and your son went through. I can't even imagine. Thank you for listening. I'm glad you're a part of our community! ~ Jacci, Java with Juli producer
  • Authentic Intimacy

    Authentic Intimacy

    Andru Smith, thank you for sharing your thoughts! We're glad you're a part of our community.
  • Andru Smith

    Andru Smith

    I came to this episode hoping to hear a careful and humble treatment of the exception clause to explain how it can be used to accept the necessity of certain specific divorces. I liked almost everything this guy said but found him to be a little flippant about how easy it is to understand this passage. I believe he used the words clear and obvious or something like that to then describe a view that is more lenient then that of many pastors and elders I've spoken with from different denominations. He did not give so much as a nod to this viewpoint, which had the effect of making it seem that the Christians that disagreed with him were the ones that take a more lax view of divorce. I think one of the hardest points to argue biblically is that remarriage after divorce (especially one with no adultery) is ok. This guy probably does make a good argument when he has time to actually read and explain the text. I only wish he had taken the time in this episode to acknowledge that he needed to defend not just the strictness but also the lenience of his view instead of claiming as a foundation that his 3 exceptions were clear and obvious. Many studied Christians don't see "Moses told you ... But I tell you" as a clear permission slip. I find myself not so much in direct disagreement as disappointed.




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