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Q&A: We Have a Great Sex Life, But My Husband Is Never Satisfied. What Do I Do?

This week's question comes from a wife:

" No matter how often we have sex, my husband is just never satisfied. Our sex life is good, it’s passionate, and in the moment we’re both satisfied. But he immediately wants more. As soon as I tell him I’m too tired or have too much work to do, it results in a fight. I love that we enjoy sex so much but I fear it’s my only characteristic of worth to him. I feel so guilty but also angry that he can’t meet me in the middle sometimes. How do I approach him with this without getting into an argument?"

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  • S W

    S W

    I’m not married yet but I do have a significant other. We’re saving kissing for later but cuddling seems to already be getting a little repetative/boring. (And we just started 3 days ago ! :( ). I’m scared that this means we might not have chemistry after all. I think i want to be with him for the rest of my life. (Maybe largely due to being afraid of breakup pain but also due to the fact that he is able to talk about his emotions and is actively growing (as am i) so i fear i wont find anyone else that is like that.) Help. :)
  • S W

    S W

    I think I just figured out part of it! Maybe the physical touch times arent meant to be my fulfillment. Jesus is meant to be my fulfillment and maybe it’s not a sign of this being a bad match but rather Him letting me see that sexuality will have its spicy times but will also not be predictably exciting... aka it can’t be my only/main source of fulfillment. I’ve heard this countless times but I think Jesus might be opening the door of my heart to start to believe it. Even as i write this my heart reels against this. I’ve so long been convinced that Jesus is no where near as exciting as a human man. I want what i want when i want it. :( Prayers appreciated.
  • Nichole

    Nichole

    This sounds a lot like it may also be an addiction (compulsive intimacy disorder/love addiction). Of course great feedback from Dr Juli but this is also a reality tgat so many face/have faced that isn’t talked about enough. This husband may need specialized help to dig into and unpack the root of his longings from someone who is specially trained in recognizing the symptoms. Compulsive Sexual Behavior/Addiction masks itself so much as so many other things and in this case sounds like it’s worth taking a look at and considering. Hoping this couple and this wife gets the help she needs.

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