Java with Juli ® Podcast

After sexual infidelity, how do you know when to start having sex again? Recovery is layered, complex, and different for every couple. (And let’s be honest: historically, the Church has not ministered well here.) In this Java with Juli, learn what a healthy recovery process looks like for a grieving wife and why sex and intimacy need to be rebuilt from the ground up.

Couples will try to go back to having sex the way they always have had sex [prior to betrayal]. And I think they have to understand that they’re creating something completely new – just like their marriage. -Lyschel Burket

Guest: Lyschel Burket, APSATS-c

• Hope Redefined, www.hoperedefined.org
• Restoring The Pleasure* by Cliff & Joyce Penner
• Are You Entitled to (Good) Sex in Marriage? (blog)
• How Do I Rebuild Trust After Betrayal? (blog)
• Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Part 1 (blog)
• Does Your Husband Need Sex? (blog)
• Find community and learn more about sexuality in an online book study!

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When it comes to sexuality, can you explain why you believe what you believe? Does God’s "one man and one woman" design for sexuality feel like a barrier to sharing your faith with others? God talks about sex throughout the Bible, how come it is (and has been) so hard for us to talk about it?  In this Java with Juli, you’ll hear why we struggle to answer today’s questions about sexuality, yet how sexuality, in this moment in history, can actually be a bridge to sharing the gospel.

Guest: Rachel Gilson, www.rachelgilson.com

Show notes:

• Rachel's book "Born Again This Way"*
• Java with Juli #345: What You Need to Know About Progressive Christianity
• "How To Have Tough Conversations" (Juli's blog)
• "What's the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really?"
• Get connected with an online book study today!

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A complement, according to Webster, is “something that fills up, completes, or makes better or perfect.” Romantic as that is, it’s a tall order in a relationship between two imperfect people! So then, what does it look like to be your spouse’s complement? In this episode, Jamie Ivey shares what God has taught her as she looks back on her own marriage of 20 years. No simplistic formulas, no easy answers, and no perfect people; just rich conversation and bold truth – so grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Jamie Ivey

I grew up thinking that a marriage is where the man works, makes money, then comes home and sits in his Lazy Boy, and the wife has dinner ready by the time he gets there... that's not what God says marriage is. He doesn't say the man goes and works and the woman makes dinner -- and there's no Lazy Boy in the Bible. -Jamie Ivey

Show notes:

• Complement* by Aaron & Jamie Ivey
• Complement Bible Study Book*
• The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey (podcast)
• Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers (Juli's blog)
• A Secret for the Guys (Juli's blog)
• Join an online book study!

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We know. It’s hard to imagine talking to your sweet three or four-year-old about sex. And here’s the thing: you don’t have to. What you can, nay, should do is have age-appropriate conversations about body parts, boys and girls, and how you see God’s design in nature in things like seeds and eggs. These small, everyday conversations lay an important foundation for bigger conversations later on.  You’ve got this, Momma! You don’t need to be afraid to share God’s design for sexuality with your young children. We’re here to help – grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Megan Michelson, Birds & Bees

Show notes:

• Learn more about www.birds-bees.com*
• Use JAVA20 and get 20% off the curriculum!*
• God Made All of Me*
• Parenting Through Weakness (Juli's blog)
• When Your Kid Looks At Porn (Juli's blog)

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When you’re feeling fearful, the last thing you need is a social media meme telling you to “tighten your ponytail and carry on.” A rocky marriage, a wayward child, deeply dividing issues in our country, churches, and families — there’s no shortage of issues to keep us living in fear. In this episode, you'll hear how knowing who God is, and His power to work in your life, is where real courage comes from. Grab your Java and join us!

Guest: Katie Westenberg

Show notes:

• I Choose Brave* (Katie's book)
• https://katiewestenberg.com/
• Have You Forgotten Who God Is? (blog)
• Learn to have gospel-centered conversations at Equip!
• The Bible Project

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