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3 Ways To Make Sexual Intimacy a Priority in Your Marriage

Be on the lookout for Juli's new book, "God, Sex & Your Marriage," coming June 2022! It’s often said, “Show me your calendar, and I’ll tell you what is important to you.” There are a lot of things we say are important to us but end up taking a back seat to busyness and the distractions that clamor for our attention. Intimacy in marriage is usual...

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Your Questions About Sex Point to Bigger Questions About God

One of the most awkward things about my job is describing it to someone. I really don’t like answering the question, “What do you do for work?” I’m never quite sure how to explain to a stranger that I run a Christian ministry focused on sexuality. About five years ago, a young woman helped give me the perfect descriptive words. She said, “Thank you for helping me m...

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Prioritize Sexual Intimacy by Getting Your Bedroom Ready, Part 3

One very practical and creative way to work on sexual intimacy in your marriage is to put thought and intention into the physical space of your bedroom. Whether or not you are aware of it, the environment of your bedroom impacts your sexual intimacy. Here is a quick exercise to show you what I mean: Close your eyes and imagine walking into the following different physical spaces. For each o...

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Sexual Boundaries for Singles

When women ask their honest questions about sexuality, the most common ones typically relate to whether certain things are right or wrong for Christian women to engage in. They want to know where the boundaries lie. (Presione aquí para leer en español). Is masturbation wrong? Am I still a virgin if I’ve had oral sex? Is it wrong to read erotic novels like Fifty S...

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Q&A: When I Don't Feel Desire, Is "Duty Sex" OK?

Getting stuck in a cycle of "duty sex" will sabotage true intimacy. Learn how to change that pattern and deepen your relationship. Here are a few resources to get you started: God, Sex, & Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Java #419: Why Sexual Intimacy is About So Much More Than Just Having Sex Passion Pursuit by Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow Join Dr. Juli Sla...

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Is There Really Such a Thing as "Comfort Sex"?

My guest today is Francie Winslow. Francie hosts the weekly Heaven in Your Home podcast where she offers fresh, biblical ways of thinking about married sex and what it reveals to us about God. We just endured a brutally exhausting Christmas break. We had high hopes for a fun, relaxing family vacation. However with 6 kids, a host of viruses that flew through our home and several chronic ...

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Prioritize Sexual Intimacy by Getting Your Mind Ready, Part 1

“Your most important sex organ is your brain.” I remember when I first heard this statement as a young married woman. Enjoying sex is practically impossible without thinking about it. Both men and women can struggle to know how to think about sex in a way that is both exciting and honoring to each other. However, the link between thinking about sex and preparing for it is parti...

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3 Reasons To Invite Women Into Conversations About Sexual Brokenness

by Joy Skarka I opened my door and there she stood. She was nervous. I invited her inside my home, offered her a cup of coffee, and we sat down on my couch. I could see the hesitancy on her face as she fidgeted with her phone. I asked her to tell me a bit about her story. My new friend was referred to me by another woman who had sat on my couch just last week and cried as she said I was ...

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3 Ways That Loving Your Body Builds Intimacy in Marriage

As I stood in front of the mirror, I counted the number of scars displayed across my stomach, splattered across my belly like a toddler with a crayon. How could I ever feel beautiful again, let alone sexy? My thoughts were interrupted as my husband came up behind me and put his arms around my body. He whispered in my ear, “You, my Joy, are so beautiful.” (Presione aquí par...

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Q&A: What Do I Do When Sexual Sin Gets the Better of Me?

Dear Juli, My journey with fighting sexual temptation has been long and exhausting. I'm at a point where I know I'm not perfect. I'm going to fail sometimes. So how do I respond after I masturbate? Or watch porn? Or commit some other sexual act that I didn't want to? No matter your sexual struggle, we are all on a stumbling journey toward sexual integrity. In this video, Juli...

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