I just read a book by Dr. Lisa Wade called American Hookup which describes the sexual culture on college campuses. Sexual activity has been so severed from relationship that kids “hooking up” are discouraged from even talking to the person they just had sex with. One of the foundational truths about sex is that God designed it to be intertwined with spiritual and relational signific...
A few days ago, I rushed to see Toni (the lady who cuts my hair) in the middle of the work day. I got there with just a few minutes to spare after getting off a conference call. Someone else was sitting in Toni’s chair. “I’ll just wait in the lobby until you’re done,” I told Toni. In response, she said, “You’re not supposed to be here today. I have you ...
If you haven’t noticed, our views on sexuality have changed quite a bit over the past 20 years. Americans are far more accepting of behaviors they once considered to be sexually immoral. Cohabitation, having sex outside of marriage, no-fault divorce, viewing pornography, gender fluidity, and polygamy, among others, have dramatically gained approval in our cultural context. Politicians and...
I recently read a book about sexual patterns among young adults called Premarital Sex in America by Mark Regnerus and Jeremy Uecker. Let’s just say that the news is not good. Americans are having sex younger and sooner in relationships, with more people and are ultimately experiencing less satisfaction in intimate relationships. As a psychologist, I can only imagine the emotional and spir...
Over the past few weeks, we’ve heard from a few of you that are frustrated that we talk so much about what men need in marriage. Several of our recent podcasts and last week’s webinar have been about helping you understand your husband’s needs and how to meet those needs. But you have needs, too. Is marriage only about keeping our men happy?
First, let me explain that we em...
Do you worry about how your sexual past will impact your future relationships? It seems to be on a lot of people's minds lately:
How can I get married without fear that my past sexual sin will impact my sexual relationship with my husband?
And, from another listener: If you've had multiple partners before marriage, how do you get rid of those men in your head?
Juli's guest,...
How long should it take you to trust someone again after lying and infidelity has taken place?
It depends... there is a lot more to it than just the passage of time. Here Juli shares a few things that need to happen during the restoration period in order to rebuild trust and intimacy.
If you're rebuilding trust in a relationship, here are a few other resources that might help you:
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It's a little awkward, we know. Here, Juli shares straight from "the Song" about the pleasure and intimacy God designed for your sex life—and how to ask Him for it.
New online book studies going through "Passion Pursuit," "Sex and the Single Girl," or "God, Sex, and Your Marriage" start next week. Grab your spot today!
Whenever I write a blog on a controversial sexual issue, I typically hear from people who remind me that God says not to judge other people. Whether I’m teaching about pornography, Fifty Shades of Grey, living together outside of marriage, divorce or homosexuality, some people simply write off what I’ve said because they think I’m being judgmental. The “who are you to ju...
This week's question comes from a reader:
"I struggled with masturbation as a single woman for 10 years. Now, as a married woman, I struggle to orgasm without having sexual fantasies. How do I overcome this?"
The resource Juli mentions in this video is Passion Pursuit:What Kind of Love Are You Making?, a 10-week Bible study through the Song of Solomon.
