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A Hopeless New Year?

Turning my calendar to January 1 is usually refreshing for me. It represents a new year with a clean slate and excitement ahead. So why does ushering in 2020 feel so heavy and discouraging? There are many indications that our culture is quickly moving in a dangerous direction. The publishing industry recently announced that Fifty Shades of Grey is the top selling book of the decade. In fact, th...

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How Can I Bond with My Boyfriend Without Having Sex?

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question, " How do I have healthy intimacy in a dating relationship? How do we bond without having sex?"


Learning to Say "I Was Wrong"

If you are old enough to recall the sitcom Happy Days, you’ll remember “The Fonz.” Henry Winkler played the character of Arthur Fonzarelli, the coolest guy in town. The Fonz in his leather jacket and perfect hair could get all the ladies with the snap of his fingers. Despite his bad-boy persona, the Fonz was a warm-hearted guy who could surprise you with sage advice. But the F...

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When Your Child Has Been Sexually Abused

The headlines are filled with horrific accounts of childhood sexual abuse. Behind every headline are children and their parents, families grasping for help and hope through devastating news. We have received many emails from parents who recently discovered that their children have been sexually violated. While we grieve with you, we also want to equip you. Sexual abuse should never happen! Whil...

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Can I Marry a Guy Who Slept Around?

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question, "What would you tell a woman who struggles with hurt, jealousy and insecurity due to her husband's sexual history prior to their marriage? Any time I hear this talked about the response is always: everyone is a sinner, you must forgive, God can heal anything, etc. But that doesn't address the residual consequences of that sin and the pain fel...


What's the Difference Between Sex and Sexuality?

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question, " Juli, would you please give us your definition of sexuality? Just this morning I started going through a Rethinking Sexuality study with a group of women who are active disciple-makers in various spheres of influence. We range in age from 35 to 60, and all of us are struggling to articulate the difference between "sex" and "sexu...


Was It My Fault?

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question, "How do I heal from an experience that wasn't quite rape. Initially I said no, but then I gave in and did it anyway (and I enjoyed parts of it). I feel awful. Do I ask for forgiveness knowing parts of this was unwanted, but also feeling that I was 'asking for it'?"


Is Taking Care of My Body Part of My Role in Marriage?

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question, " Is physically caring for ourselves part of our role in marriage and intimacy?"


The Great Danger: He Can Have My Body, But...

My guest on this week’s Java with Juli podcast is Jerusha Clark. Jerusha and her husband Jeramy have been sharing their journey of marriage and parenting for many years, encouraging others with what God is teaching them. Jerusha wrote the following guest blog as a follow up to our conversation on Java with Juli. You can find out more about Jerusha’s ministry and books at jandjclark....