True Love Waits. I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Promise rings. These are the touchstones of predominant teaching on sexual purity promoted by the Christian community throughout the past several decades. Yet, the word purity among today’s Christian adults can elicit feelings of shame and even anger. Why? Because the purity narrative has proven to be ineffective for many and harmful for others.
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If you haven’t noticed, our views on sexuality have changed quite a bit over the past 20 years. Americans are far more accepting of behaviors they once considered to be sexually immoral. Cohabitation, having sex outside of marriage, no-fault divorce, viewing pornography, gender fluidity, and polygamy, among others, have dramatically gained approval in our cultural context. Politicians and...
If you are married, there is a very good chance that you and your spouse have different sexual appetites. This not only applies to how often you want to have sex, but also to how adventurous you would each like to be in the bedroom.
A healthy sex life has aspects of both routine and adventure: If a couple builds sexual excitement by always searching for that next new experience, sex becomes...
My guest on the blog is Amy Davison, co-author of Mama Bear Apologetics Guide to Sexuality.* (Check out our online book study!) She's going to clear up two obstacles that keep parents from teaching their kids a biblical worldview of sexuality.
Discipleship is not a word you hear that often outside of the occasional sermon series on the Apostles. In fact, I’m willing to bet an...
Much of my work in helping people navigate sexual issues revolves around how we think about sex. Your thought life, and your understanding of God and sex, are very important to your sex life. However, the basic truth is this: you can’t have sex without a body.
Sex, at one level, is a gift exchange of two bodies. I give my body to my husband and he gives his to me. There have been seas...
One very practical and creative way to work on sexual intimacy in your marriage is to put thought and intention into the physical space of your bedroom. Whether or not you are aware of it, the environment of your bedroom impacts your sexual intimacy. Here is a quick exercise to show you what I mean:
Close your eyes and imagine walking into the following different physical spaces. For each o...
For this post, I'm sharing a partial transcript of a jewel from our Java with Juli archive, episode #132, "Honest Answers to Your Questions About Sex" with my friends Linda Dillow and Hannah Nitz. We opened this "mailbag episode" by talking about why I love my job so much: because I get to help women find answers to their questions—even questions about their sex li...
Where is the balance between personal integrity and trusting in God to do only what He can do? Will I just have to get used to being disappointed in myself and my sin?
When it comes to breaking free from sexual sin, there are things you can do and there are things only God can do. Here, Juli shares how to walk with God as you do your part, trusting that He is faithful to do His.
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"I spent a lot of years getting a doctorate degree in clinical psychology to learn how to talk you out of negative thinking and shame. Here's what I've learned..."
In this video, Juli shares what she knows to be the ONLY way to get rid of your shame. Watch to find out how.
If you'd like to learn more, here are a few more resources for you:
God's Healing Sti...
"I've prayed and prayed for God to take away unwanted sexual desires, and they still persist. I'm starting to feel like giving up. Do you have any advice or encouragement?"
Juli answers today's question by sharing 3 suggestions for those who continue to struggle with unwanted sexual desires. And her most important encouragement? Don't give up! We can encounter the p...
