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Masturbation: Is It Wrong?

Because my job is to talk to women about sex, there are few questions I haven't heard and haven't answered. However, there is one common question that I don't like to answer. Is it ok to masturbate? This question is a bit complicated because the Bible never mentions masturbation. I’m fairly certain that even in biblical times, masturbation was something Christians wondered ...

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A Woman's Greatest Dilemma, Part 2

This is part two of a three-part series from my upcoming release, "Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisted.” A wife’s greatest dilemma is that you want your husband to lead, but you want him to lead the way you tell him to. There is a tension between desperately wanting to build the hero in your husband and being too proud or afraid to trust him. And so we end up ...

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A Woman's Greatest Dilemma, Part 3

This is part three of a three-part series from my upcoming release, "Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisted.” * As recently as a few decades ago, many Christian women believed that in order to be loving wives they had to limit their own personal potential. Loving and respecting a husband meant being essentially mute and supportive. In order to allow a man to assume the ro...

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A Woman's Greatest Dilemma, Part 1

Part one of a three-part series from my upcoming release, "Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited.” Written 20+ years ago, this book didn’t just get a face-lift, it got a complete overhaul! You can preorder your copy today.* Author Margo Kaufman once wrote, “The only thing worse than a man you can’t control is a man you can.” I’ve experienced th...

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What Should You Do If Your Husband Looks at Porn?

(Presione aquí para leer en español). “Last night I walked in on my husband viewing porn. This isn’t the first time this has happened. I feel so violated—like I could never share my body with him again. Why should I, anyway? I could never compete with porn!” If your husband has been involved with pornography, you know the feeling of betrayal in disco...

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“Is Masturbation a Sin?” You May Be Asking the Wrong Question

(Presione aquí para leer en español.) Whenever I speak to a group of people about sexuality, I try to include time for an anonymous Q&A session. No matter who is listening, young or old, male or female, married or single, I am sure to be asked about masturbation: Is it wrong? What does the Bible say about it? Many Christians have spoken and written on the topic, some of them w...

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Q&A: What If I'm Not Sexually Attracted to the Person I'm With?

There's a question that keeps popping up in our inbox: What if I'm not sexually attracted to the person I'm with? Physical and sexual attraction wane over time. Physical and sexual intimacy can grow over time. In light of this, Dr. Juli Slattery shares her thoughts on the importance of physical attraction, yet how focusing too much on our feelings can detract from the intimacy t...

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What's OK in the Bedroom?

Since I speak and write books on sex, I get asked questions—a lot of questions. The most common questions relate to "what's okay in the bedroom?" Questions like: Is oral sex okay? What about anal sex? Is it wrong to role play with my husband? Is it okay that my husband likes to spank me? Do you think sex toys are wrong? What's wrong with a married couple watching porn to...

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When You're Attracted to Someone Who's Not Your Spouse

The stereotype of an adulterous affair in marriage has typically been the picture of a cheating husband. The man has a one-night stand on a business trip or falls in love with his secretary. I guess it never occurred to us that for every cheating man, there must also be a cheating woman. (Presione aquí para leer en español). Relationship expert Bonnie Eaker Weil reported on AB...

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What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires?

“What do I do with my sexual desire?” I’ve heard this question from men and women of every age, from those who have never married and from those who find themselves “single again.” I have also heard this question from married people who, for one reason or another, do not feel sexually satisfied within marriage. If you follow Christ, you aim to steward your sexua...

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