The first in a 3-part series from "Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited."*
Author Margo Kaufman once wrote, “The only thing worse than a man you can’t control is a man you can.” I’ve experienced this bind. Have you? I desperately want to build the hero in my husband. I want to see his strength, but I find myself too afraid and too proud to trust him. ...
I've often heard the expression "sin is sin," but is it true about sexual sin? Are there degrees of seriousness of sexual sin? Do you counsel the one addicted to porn different from the one who graphically fantasizes?
If we confess our sin — sexual or non-sexual — He is faithful and just to forgive. Aren't you glad? Because in this life, you and I will continue ...
Here’s a little secret I learned a few years into marriage: I didn’t know if I really loved Mike until I felt no feelings of love toward him. The sense of “feeling love” had to fade away for me to be able to learn how to really love my husband. My friend, and this week's guest blogger, Gary Thomas gets this. If you're wondering if authentic intimacy can be kindle...
As humans, we naturally seek affirmation from others. In this Q&A video, Juli helps us think through how things get lopsided when we begin to believe that how we look, or what we have to offer sexually, are the only things that make us valuable or worthy of love.
For more on this topic, you might like:
Java with Juli #358: Sexuality, Spirituality, and Why We Settle for Counterfeit ...
“Shame on you!”
If you grew up in my generation, this is a sentence you probably heard as a child. You were told that you should be ashamed of the way you treated your sister, for stealing that candy bar, or for talking back. These are also words that I’ve probably never spoken to my own children. Why? Because I’d feel shame for simply telling my children they should ...
A 15-year old girl in my Bible study has started hinting at a struggle with same-sex attraction. How do I invite her into a conversation about it?
In this Q&A video, learn why helping a young girl sort through same-sex attraction doesn't start with talking to her about sexuality, but with helping her understand her identity in Christ.
Here are some of the resources Juli mentions:
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As women, we typically view sex as a way of expressing the love and intimacy we feel in our hearts. It’s definitely a challenge to be sexually intimate when those feelings of love are absent. For the first decade of our marriage, it irritated me when my husband wanted sex when we had barely spoken. From his perspective, sex was the way we could connect and feel close. So, we were at a sta...
"Would you say that romance novels affect girls the way that pornography affects guys?"
The answer is yes – and no. In this Q&A video, learn the similarities and differences between romance novels and pornography.
If you'd like to keep learning, check out these follow-up resources:
Get Juli's book Pulling Back the Shades; Erotica, Intimacy, and the L...
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For the past five years, I’ve been using this term “sexual discipleship®" to describe the passion behind the ministry Authentic Intimacy. I’ve noticed that when people hear me put those two words together, they are intrigued. Although you may have been discipled in your walk with Christ at some point, chances are, ...
Dear Juli,
My husband seems to have very little emotional awareness or energy. He avoids sex when he is emotionally drained, which seems often. I feel resentful that he doesn't save anything for me. When I share how I'm feeling, it just creates a bigger divide. How can I approach this issue more constructively?
Are you trying to connect with a disconnected husband? Juli has wisdo...
