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How Do I Overcome Sexual Fantasies?

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question, "I struggled with masturbation as a single woman for 10 years. Now, as a married woman, I struggle to orgasm without having sexual fantasies. How do I overcome this?"

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Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt. 2

For the past decade, my full-time job has been to address sexual issues from a Christian perspective. Knowing that, you can imagine the kind of emails I regularly receive in my inbox! What I’ve learned is that sexuality represents pain in a lot of lives and marriages. When people ask me, “What’s normal for a Christian married couple?” one of my responses is that it is no...

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Porn is My Comfort

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question, "Porn is my comfort; it’s where I go when I feel sad. But I always leave knowing I shouldn’t be using it. So how do I fight the urge not to go back to porn and to chase God instead?"

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Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt. 1

Most of us have been told that sex in marriage is important. But why does it matter? For many of us, sex may just be “meh” or tend to cause more division in our relationships than unity. The reality is that sexual issues are always among the top reasons for marital conflict and even divorce. Many couples fight about sex, and they don’t know where to go for answers. In addit...

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Escaping the Web of Pride

by Dr. Juli Slattery My dear friend Christine and I were recently talking over a cup of coffee about the battle of pride—how difficult it is to detect and how impossible to conquer. She told me a story that perfectly symbolized the problem: Juli, every morning I go out to my garden and find spider webs all over my vegetables. Each day I brush them away, but sure enough, they are bac...

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Breaking Free from Sexual Addiction

by Dr. Juli Slattery Sometimes I joke about things I am "addicted" to. Coffee and dark chocolate are definitely on the list. Honestly, we are all addicted to something—there are things in life we just can't seem to get by without. You may be addicted to your husband's affection, a daily workout, talking to or texting your best friend, or spending time in prayer. At th...

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Finding the Right Time for Sex

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question: "It seems to me that men and women are different in our readiness and availability for sex—especially when you add kids into the mix. How can we work on coming together when we have energy for sex at different times?"

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Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder

by Dr. Juli Slattery We spend a lot of time as Christ-followers talking about forgiving one another. After all, Jesus taught the importance of forgiveness, saying that our Heavenly Father will not forgive us if we fail to forgive each other. That’s pretty heavy! While forgiveness is a key part of the Christian life, I think that extending grace is perhaps even more necessary in our...

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Q&A: Why stop having sex when you know you're going to get married?

In this video, Juli tackles the question: I have a friend who is in a long-term sexual relationship with her boyfriend. When we talked about it, she asked me why she should withhold sex now when they have already done it and know they are going to get married. How do I respond?

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Shame Doesn't Have the Final Word

by Dr. Juli Slattery Most women bask in the comment “You look so young!” but not Jeni. Why? Because she is young … too young to be the mom of a six-year-old girl. When Jeni goes to her daughter’s kindergarten class, she feels out of place with every other mom, many of whom are more than a decade her senior. “I know that God has forgiven me for my sexual sin, bu...

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