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Learning To Be a Promise-Breaker

Has anyone ever told you that it may be healthy to break your promises? No, I’m not talking about going back on your word or taking your wedding vows lightly. I’m referring to a different category of vows … the kind of promises that people rarely acknowledge. Our most powerful promises are usually ones that we never speak and may not even be conscious that we’ve mad...

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Q&A: How Can I Bond with My Boyfriend Without Having Sex?

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question: "How do I have healthy intimacy in a dating relationship? How do we bond without having sex?"


A Hopeless New Year?

Turning my calendar to January 1 is usually refreshing for me. It represents a new year with a clean slate and excitement ahead. So why does ushering in 2020 feel so heavy and discouraging? There are many indications that our culture is quickly moving in a dangerous direction. The publishing industry recently announced that Fifty Shades of Grey is the top selling book of the decade. In fact, th...

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Q&A: Is Sexual Sin Really the Worst Kind?

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question: "Why do you think the church has elevated sexual sin to be a worse kind of sin than any other?"

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The World Has a Lot To Say About Sex

If you haven’t noticed, our views on sexuality have changed quite a bit over the past 20 years. Americans are far more accepting of behaviors they once considered to be sexually immoral. Cohabitation, having sex outside of marriage, no-fault divorce, viewing pornography, gender fluidity, and polygamy, among others, have dramatically gained approval in our cultural context. Politicians and...

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Q&A: Should I Fake Orgasm?

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question: "I've been married for 25 years, and frankly, sex has never been pleasurable. We have sex two-three times a week and I just bear it. Should I fake pleasure? How do I improve our sex life?"


What's the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really?

If someone asks you, “What are your thoughts on cohabitation?” or “Do you believe God is ok with gay marriage?” how would you respond? To answer those questions, you will (without even realizing it) tap into your underlying beliefs about the purpose of sexuality. Every opinion you have about sexual issues is rooted in a larger narrative of what you believe about sex&mda...

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Q&A: Talk to Your Kids About Sex, Even When You Don't Have it All Together

Dr. Juli Slattery answers the question: "How do I talk to my teenager about sex when my spouse and I are currently in a season of sexual brokenness?"


Why Promise Rings and Purity Talks Fall Short

True Love Waits. I Kissed Dating Goodbye. Promise rings. These are the touchstones of predominant teaching on sexual purity promoted by the Christian community throughout the past several decades. Yet, the word purity among today’s Christian adults can elicit feelings of shame and even anger. Why? Because the purity narrative has proven to be ineffective for many and harmful for others. ...

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Q&A: How Do I Overcome Sexual Fantasies?

This week's question comes from a reader: "I struggled with masturbation as a single woman for 10 years. Now, as a married woman, I struggle to orgasm without having sexual fantasies. How do I overcome this?"