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Q&A: As a Christian Single, Do I Have to “Embrace” My Sexuality or Can I Just Let It Be?

Our world is inundated with sexual messages, and as a single, it can be particularly difficult to know how to respond in a way that honors God and allows us to live contentedly in our current season. Today Juli answers a question from a listener who is wondering how to navigate sexuality as a single. As a single woman, do I really need to wrestle with and embrace my sexuality, or can I just ...

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Church Is Good For You; It's Time To Go Back

I meet more and more Christians who have simply given up on church. Maybe you are one of them. You’ve been disappointed by a leader, disillusioned by division, or just can’t find a place you belong. Through COVID-19 quarantines, perhaps you settled into a new routine of watching your favorite pastor on YouTube and listening to Hillsong on a Sunday hike. That’s worship, right? ...

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Q&A: How Can I Love and Forgive My Spouse Who is Fighting Continual Sin?

How can a wife love and forgive her husband while he is fighting continual sin? In our case, it's emotional adultery. How do I respond in love while I am hurting? There's sin on both sides - in him and in my heart, too. This feels like a taboo topic considering that my husband has not physically acted on these desires or thoughts, but I believe that sexual purity is not just physical bu...

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3 Reasons To Invite Women Into Conversations About Sexual Brokenness

by Joy Skarka I opened my door and there she stood. She was nervous. I invited her inside my home, offered her a cup of coffee, and we sat down on my couch. I could see the hesitancy on her face as she fidgeted with her phone. I asked her to tell me a bit about her story. My new friend was referred to me by another woman who had sat on my couch just last week and cried as she said I was ...

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Q&A: What Is a Better Way to Approach the Statement, "Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin"?

"With friends and family who are homosexual, the Christian narrative tends to be ‘love the sinner hate the sin.’ But when someone's identity is so interwoven with their sexual orientation, this message doesn't work. Can you share a better way of thinking this through?" We’ve all heard someone say it: Love the sinner, hate the sin. But is it kind? Is it eve...

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3 Things I Want You To Know as I Launch a Countercultural Book

A book release. Normally this would be an exciting event. It’s kind of like giving birth to a child that you have nurtured in your womb for nine months. As this one approaches, my excitement is honestly mixed with trepidation. Over twenty years ago, I wrote my first book, Finding the Hero in Your Husband. I was a young wife and therapist, yet God was giving me wisdom to understand some...

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Q&A: How Do I Get Past Sexual Partners Out of My Head?

Do you worry about how your sexual past will impact your future relationships? It seems to be on a lot of people's minds lately: How can I get married without fear that my past sexual sin will impact my sexual relationship with my husband? And, from another listener: If you've had multiple partners before marriage, how do you get rid of those men in your head? Juli's guest,...

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Honest Answers to Your Questions About Sex

For this post, I'm sharing a partial transcript of a jewel from our Java with Juli archive, episode #132, "Honest Answers to Your Questions About Sex" with my friends Linda Dillow and Hannah Nitz. We opened this "mailbag episode" by talking about why I love my job so much: because I get to help women find answers to their questions—even questions about their sex li...

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Q&A: How Do I Keep My Opposite-Sex Friendships and Still Honor a New Dating Relationship?

Dear Juli, I am in a relationship with a great guy, and I also have some meaningful friendships with other Christian men. How do I honor both kinds of relationships as they coexist? What does this look like in the context of dating? In marriage? Opposite-sex friendships are important and valuable! In a sexualized culture, and in our churches, these relationships can quickly become complicate...

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When Cancel Culture Invades the Church

Your social media feed is probably filled with examples of the latest person who has been “cancelled” because of something they said years ago or an unpopular position they recently expressed. Being cancelled is a weapon powerful enough to prompt teens to take their own lives and to silence men and women on issues that truly matter to them. Everything that happens within the larger ...

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