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QUESTION: I want to submit to my husband and I have come a long way in showing him more respect, but he isn’t a believer! Submitting to someone who does not seem filled with the Holy Spirit is very scary. After 20 years of being with someone planted in "rocky soil", submission is scary and does not always turn out well. I can’t be the only woman struggling with this, right?
ANSWER: Thank you for your honest question. You're right - there are other women struggling with these issues. Some are married to unbelievers and others married to Christian men who are not making godly decisions. We taped a podcast on this subject that should be airing sometime early 2014.
I've struggled with the question of submission in these circumstances. We know that I Peter 3 says that submission isn't just for when you are married to a Christian, but that it can be part of winning your husband to the Lord. That's easier said than done! As a psychologist, I've worked with women in many difficult situations including addictions, abuse, anger, etc… Walking out submission in these circumstances is a challenge.
It helped me to understand submission in terms of how I use my power. Do I use it to build or tear down? The key is that you have power and that you are supposed to use it. Submission isn't weakness, but power channeled for a godly purpose - partnering with God to build a healthy marriage. That means that at times, a submissive wife will be tough in drawing a line or stating an opinion. Just look at Sarah with Abraham and Abigail with David. These were not weak wives.
I wrote the book Finding the Hero in Your Husband based on my questions and wrestling with this issue. It talks about submission in terms of how you use your power and asks questions like, "Is there ever a time to not submit?" and "How do I trust God when I don't trust my husband?" It might be worthwhile to check it out. I think it will help put "feet" on some of the things you are dealing with.
Hope that helps!
"The desire for intimacy is a result of making it a priority, not the other way around."
Think with us about maing passion more of a priority in your life. The dictionary definition of priority is "Precendence, especially established by order of importance or urgency." So... what does it mean to you that passion with your husband is to be "established by order of importance or urgency"? We pray you will think about what this would look like in your marriage.
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